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Forever Sleep
Earned it we have...
- May 4, 2022
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I've largely become very isolated from friends and family. I speak to my Dad a couple of times a week and a uni friend texts quite regularly (quite often to moan.) Asides from that though, I've lost regular contact with everyone else.
Christmas tends to be the time when people get in touch- with newsy letters etc. and even worse- hopes that we might meet up in the new year. It's weird- I thought friendship was supposed to make you feel better but it's actually made me feel worse!
People either seem to assume that you're living some great, fulfilling life. (Better than theirs...) Or- for the ones that know that freelance work is a struggle, they become concerned and try suggesting really off the wall suggestions (that they wouldn't even follow themselves.) Of course- I realise none of it is them- it's all me. It's nice on the one hand that they care- but it's just an odd feeling really.
There's a big part of me now that doesn't want them to care. The person they care about isn't even here anymore. I do understand it when people think- to have anyone around you is 'lucky' and it surely means you are less lonely. I'm not so sure though. I think it can make you realise just how far gone you are. I'm kind of dreading these people making further contact now. (Although- they all have busy lives- it's quite possible they'll just forget about it...)
It's like- how do you get by? If you have to be around other people... Do you just pretend everything is fine? That seems easier in some ways. Still, I'm not very convincing at all that. It would actually be better if we didn't keep in touch. Easier on them I imagine if I do ever CTB.
Even weirder, a long lost relative apparently wants to get in touch. Plus, I need to find a new job this year- which could lead to more connections. I don't want to be bringing more people into my life if I am able to leave it soon. Not to say I expect people to be devastated if/when I go- I just don't think it's nice for anyone. I'd rather they didn't have to deal with it.
Honestly, within the next few weeks/months would be the most ideal time for me to CTB. I have enough money from my last job to tide me over for a little bit. It would mean I wouldn't have to face looking for a new job and ultimately hating it.
Still, I don't feel like I can do it to my Dad. I feel like he would actually be devastated. So- I'm just going to have to pretend I suppose. Pretend I'm halfway normal to get a job, pretend I'm just jogging along to friends and family- so they don't worry. How do you peeps do this? I suspect it's even worse for you- if you live with people- although I guess you're more practised at it... It must be exhausting though... Wish we could all just escape this shit show now.
Christmas tends to be the time when people get in touch- with newsy letters etc. and even worse- hopes that we might meet up in the new year. It's weird- I thought friendship was supposed to make you feel better but it's actually made me feel worse!
People either seem to assume that you're living some great, fulfilling life. (Better than theirs...) Or- for the ones that know that freelance work is a struggle, they become concerned and try suggesting really off the wall suggestions (that they wouldn't even follow themselves.) Of course- I realise none of it is them- it's all me. It's nice on the one hand that they care- but it's just an odd feeling really.
There's a big part of me now that doesn't want them to care. The person they care about isn't even here anymore. I do understand it when people think- to have anyone around you is 'lucky' and it surely means you are less lonely. I'm not so sure though. I think it can make you realise just how far gone you are. I'm kind of dreading these people making further contact now. (Although- they all have busy lives- it's quite possible they'll just forget about it...)
It's like- how do you get by? If you have to be around other people... Do you just pretend everything is fine? That seems easier in some ways. Still, I'm not very convincing at all that. It would actually be better if we didn't keep in touch. Easier on them I imagine if I do ever CTB.
Even weirder, a long lost relative apparently wants to get in touch. Plus, I need to find a new job this year- which could lead to more connections. I don't want to be bringing more people into my life if I am able to leave it soon. Not to say I expect people to be devastated if/when I go- I just don't think it's nice for anyone. I'd rather they didn't have to deal with it.
Honestly, within the next few weeks/months would be the most ideal time for me to CTB. I have enough money from my last job to tide me over for a little bit. It would mean I wouldn't have to face looking for a new job and ultimately hating it.
Still, I don't feel like I can do it to my Dad. I feel like he would actually be devastated. So- I'm just going to have to pretend I suppose. Pretend I'm halfway normal to get a job, pretend I'm just jogging along to friends and family- so they don't worry. How do you peeps do this? I suspect it's even worse for you- if you live with people- although I guess you're more practised at it... It must be exhausting though... Wish we could all just escape this shit show now.