do u get uncomfortable when ppl bring up suicide irl

[sunny]

i had a friend who was suicidal and was often missing school because of mental hospitals. even though i am suicidal myself, i find myself distancing myself from people who could potentially relate to me. why is this?

 

[Holu]

To me it just doesn't seem worth the risk of exposing myself. I'd rather die with everyone thinking everything was right with me than live in constant surveillance and confinement

 

[Pidgeons_Sparrows]

yeah i get uncomfortable and paranoid too

 

[plasticbomb]

Yes, whenever someone brings it up I feel a pit in my stomach as it hits very close to home. A coworker brought it up one time and I saw her look visibly distressed when I told her how much I've thought about it. She didnt vocally express any concern for me though, they never do.

 

[Octavia]

"Mood lol"

 

[sammiechzxv]

Depends on the situation

 

[OhWellDerp321]

Society promotes mental health awareness. Society tells people that its okay to think about suicide and you are not "weak" for wanting suicide.

Yet when you try to justify suicide, most of the world will tell you that it's wrong to suicide and that you have to be "strong". Even worse, if you try to suicide, then you are told it is wrong, and get locked up in psych ward.

So yes, I feel uncomfortable when people bring up suicide.

 

[Wehmut]

I personally like talking about it. And I don't get uncomfortable. It is an interesting topic. Although I am very selective with what I share and who I share it with. I can understand why you would keep things like this to yourself.

 

[Lost Magic]

I wouldn't share my feelings with the likes of Police, doctors, or people who have the authority to lock me in psych ward. However, I have spoken about it (especially when my ma died) on rare occasions to people who have had similar thoughts. I keep it to myself now, apart from this forum because it was designed for that. Most people don't want to talk about it because they don't know what to say or feel uncomfortable, so I don't even bother with those types of people. I just let them live in their own little bubble and feel what they want.

 

[Kerrtu]

Generally no, with the exception of when my partner said he'd kill himself before I do when I told him of my thoughts. He had a massive panic attack and went to the hospital, so I don't really say anything of real substance anymore with him. I had tried breaking up many times prior, but now I just…feel like an empty shell. I also feel terrible to have contributed to the panic attack.

The more I think of it, the more I feel I can't wait for this all to be over. Remember that part from Austin Powers when he's trying to back up the vehicle in that industrial passageway?



That's me in my current relationship.

 

[mouseteacup]

It really depends on the discussion for me. I'd rather only interact with discussions of suicide when I'm in a proper headspace, right?

I'm almost always uncomfortable with someone discussing why they are deciding or have decided to CTB because it can make me feel really hopeless on an otherwise okay day. Discussions of suicide as a concept or as a personal right is fine. There's also the whole thing where, like, sometimes commiserating can be helpful, but a lot of the time it just brings you down, so I try to avoid that.

And then there's that whole thing they do in schools sometimes where they're trying to teach you the signs of someone being suicidal — noooo. No thank you. I don't like those conversations. They feel like a way to make non-suicidal folks feel like they're helping somehow. (I appreciate the attempt to educate, but it feels aimed at non-suicidal folks and it feels poorly done.)

 

[gulp]

i surely would. my only circle makes jokes abt suicide and never talks abt it seriously, prob cuz they consider it as a taboo topic, like I

 

[maybunni]

I have a very close friend who attempted a couple years ago and told me a few years after. I used to feel fine when they'd bring up the topic of suicide because we'd talk about our counselling sessions with each other. She's no longer suicidal but because I am, I always feel uncomfortable or paranoid that she knows and that this is her way to hint at me that I can talk to her about it if I want.

Edit: I'm sure she'd want me to be able to talk about it with her, but I'm so scared of hurting her or bring up bad memories for her that I'm here talking about it instead.

 

[XdragonsoulX]

Only if I know for certain it won't disrupt my personal life or cause me any hassle

 

[Forever Sleep]

In general talk, I worry I may say something that will flush me out. If it's someone that is suicidal themselves though- it's a relief to finally talk about it.

Have you told anyone about your ideation? I imagine maybe you're just afraid of anyone finding out. Because- of course- there's always the risk that the person you tell could tell others. Maybe that's why you avoid situations in which you might feel tempted to open up. I don't know though.

I think some people avoid the subject because- although they do have those thoughts themselves- maybe they are frightened of them getting worse- or- acting on them. I think discussing your thoughts with a friend can futher legitimise/ normalise them. Which some people may not want to do- if they want to fight them. Depends how you experience ideation I suppose.

 

[Sammie_com.sanrio]

It's kind of uncomfortable especially because they say people who have attempted are weak and it hurts because I've tried so many time and just don't say anything because of my strict mother, I almost died but SI kicked in and I pulled myself up. I do think people who have tried are really strong but for myself I am weak, I should try harder next time

 

[Meditation guide]

I have in times past told three people about wanting to ctb and learned it's a big mistake. Even people who themselves have talked about it can't seem to deal with it or act shocked if I mention wanting to so never again.

 

[Erik.t.f]

Yes, one time I talked about suicide with someone and tings he said about it was just wrong and I wanted to correct him but didn't want to expose myself

 

[dead_milky]

depends. Some people know. But if the topic is brought up around people I don't want to realise that, it makes me nervous.
Other people who have attempted.. it depends. A lot of the ones I knew weren't really suicidal but tried on impulse because of a specific situation that was out of their control, rather than internalised suicidal thoughts. So I couldn't relate.