Discussion Do most people enjoy their life?

[top_cat]

Given the strong stigma against suicide along with the shaming of people who are unhappy i.e. someone has it worse, I doubt that most people actually want to be alive.

People will say that Its just suicidal people projecting their dislike onto others but I really don't think so. If suicide was allowed to anyone then It would be much more believable that people enjoy their life. If people could avail of assisted suicide but chose not to for non emotional reasons then we can only assume they enjoy life no...?

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I think most people have ups and downs, but generally want to be alive. If everyone was secretly on the same page as us, I don't think the anti-suicide sentiment would be as strong.

 

[21Neberg]

I was stunned recently when I realized my suicidal fantasies aren't normal. Normal is for people to get out of bed in the morning and look forward to things, for people to actually look forward to the future.

 

[NumbItAll]

I was stunned recently when I realized my suicidal fantasies aren't normal. Normal is for people to get out of bed in the morning and look forward to things, for people to actually look forward to the future.

Haha yeah it is crazy to think about right? I am always fascinated by happy people... good for them.

 

[Jean Améry]

Most people think they're enjoying life. Humans are notoriously bad at making accurate judgements about their own situations. E.g. most people actually believe they are better off than most others which is logically impossible. There's much to be said for the saying 'you're as happy as you think you are'.

That being said I'd rather wallow in illusions and be happy than the opposite. This is also the reason why I would happily down antidepressants every day if they actually made me feel better, even knowing they're basically no better than a placebo.

Perhaps a drug habit would be the answer but obviously that comes with its own set of problems, sigh.

You should look into philosophical pessimism if you're interested in sound argumentation as to why life is bad. Schopenhauer and Benatar are a good place to start.

 

[ShadowOfTheDay]

It's really hard to imagine, but I can only conclude that, for most people, suicide isn't even an appealing option.

 

[Ch92921]

It's really hard to imagine, but I can only conclude that, for most people, suicide isn't even an appealing option.

For me it is a interesting option

 

[DahliaDreamed]

I've enjoyed my life at times. I've enjoyed things very much. I agree with several of the comments here about people not seeing suicide as an option, although they may not be necessarily happy with the life they have. I've often said that I want to live for living, I don't want to live simply to exist. For some people, although they may not be "living" in a sense but rather existing, they can be content with this. I also know that my depression and anxiety have gotten the better of me at times, which contributes to those thoughts I have. However, I feel there comes a point in some people's lives where they've passed the necessary hurdles and milestones, only to realize there is nothing left. For me, I've arrived in such a place. This is why I've given myself an ultimatum, as it becomes more painful to go back and forth on the matter.

 

[AhG]

I did somewhat enjoy my life, I was in welding school, when I was gonna get out I was going to go live with my wife, I was going to get a job there and we were gonna get an apartment and finally have the life we always wanted. But shit happens. Now I can't remember what it's like to be happy. I see other people happy and envy them for it.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Most people think they're enjoying life. Humans are notoriously bad at making accurate judgements about their own situations. E.g. most people actually believe they are better off than most others which is logically impossible. There's much to be said for the saying 'you're as happy as you think you are'.

That being said I'd rather wallow in illusions and be happy than the opposite. This is also the reason why I would happily down antidepressants every day if they actually made me feel better, even knowing they're basically no better than a placebo.

Perhaps a drug habit would be the answer but obviously that comes with its own set of problems, sigh.

You should look into philosophical pessimism if you're interested in sound argumentation as to why life is bad. Schopenhauer and Benatar are a good place to start.

I enjoyed my life before I got sick. I didn't think I enjoyed it, I actually did.

 

[time2go]

I used too love my life. I was depressed and suicidal but I fought it back and my dreams came true. But I destroyed all that, and I'm back too where I started but a thousand times worse

 

[Final Escape]

I used too love my life. I was depressed and suicidal but I fought it back and my dreams came true. But I destroyed all that, and I'm back too where I started but a thousand times worse

How did u destroy it?

 

[CFLoser]

Absolutely not. Most people are depressed. It's rare to be happy consistently.

The further back in time we go, the less people were depressed (to a certain extent).

 

[zzzameron]

Given the strong stigma against suicide along with the shaming of people who are unhappy i.e. someone has it worse, I doubt that most people actually want to be alive.

People will say that Its just suicidal people projecting their dislike onto others but I really don't think so. If suicide was allowed to anyone then It would be much more believable that people enjoy their life. If people could avail of assisted suicide but chose not to for non emotional reasons then we can only assume they enjoy life no...?

I've been thinking about this, too. in some sorta way it kinda gives me hope? because I've known genuinely happy people and I've known people who have recovered and who mostly enjoy life. from my inexperienced 18yr old perspective, I see adulthood as a miserable spiral of working and struggling with maybe a few breaks from that here and there to keep you sane. but there's genuinely happy people out there, so maybe it doesn't have to be.

 

[wanttodie]

no i hate my life

 

[InkBlot]

I have a great job. A great car. A wonderful support system, 2 doggos and kitters, and disposable income. I lost someone and I will never fill that void. Despite those things. I'm happy most days, and depressed the rest.

 

[CptBBQ]

Most people I would say are honestly a strong neutral. People like us would be a strong negative. A lot of people might say things like "kms" or "I want to die" but it's usually just to exaggerate the fact they are feeling pissed off or sad for a short amount of time. But overall I would think sadness is more common than happiness, and neutrality is what the "normal" people are.

But don't take my opinion too seriously, I don't know what normal people are like because I am a recluse :p.

 

[Kyrok]

About 15% of US adults are on antidepressants. I suspect another 15% are depressed but aren't being treated by Pharma.

 

[time2go]

How did u destroy it?

I was living my dream, with the girl of my dreams. And I had a mental snap and pushed her so far out of reach that there's no going back.

 

[AhG]

pushed her so far out of reach that there's no going back.

The reason I am here

 

[Life sucks]

Many are living with illusions and lies. Not everyone can break this huge barrier and look at the reality of the life. It is not because of happiness they stay but because of huge amount of ideas and illusions.

 

[time2go]

The reason I am here

It sucks man, you don't realise what you're doing until its too late

 

[reveriewong]

I think it's less about necessarily enjoying life, and more about simply wanting to live.

 

[ManWithNoName]

Given the strong stigma against suicide along with the shaming of people who are unhappy i.e. someone has it worse, I doubt that most people actually want to be alive.

People will say that Its just suicidal people projecting their dislike onto others but I really don't think so. If suicide was allowed to anyone then It would be much more believable that people enjoy their life. If people could avail of assisted suicide but chose not to for non emotional reasons then we can only assume they enjoy life no...?

They say that one's perception is their reality. That is to say that we filter out (within reason) the bad as to make our human condition tolerable. If we see the world for what it is, it's rather ugly. Beautifying it can help - e.g.: be kind to others for the same of being kind.

 

[AhG]

It sucks man, you don't realise what you're doing until its too late

Well I kinda did know, but it was too late to tell her the truth. But it really fucking sucks.

 

[TAW122]

Perhaps when I was a kid and didn't have as many responsibilities and life wasn't too complicated, there were some happy moments, however, they are often fleeting. As an adult, no, I won't really say that I enjoy 'life' per se, but due to recent improvements in my quality of life, I don't actively think about suicide and wishing I was dead. I do wake up and think that hey today isn't too shitty of a day, just another normal day...