Do I tell family member I trust that I want to order rebreather as a backup?

[Walilamdzii]

& hope that they understand that I need a peaceful option, or do I continue to operate in secret?

 

[Euthanza]

It's good to put trust in your selected family member but I hope you're good with judging character because bloodline doesn't always correlate with the way of thinking.

I've been cheated several times by mine and I don't know who you are nor your family to predict their response, so I can't be sure, I'm sorry.

I suggest you to put indirect message first or give them non direct sign such as "I don't want to live anymore" but NOT "I want to kill myself", see what's the response and conclude from there. If they're pro choice, they should be able to understand and respect your rights.

Good luck!

 

[olearius]

I don't know where you live but most places in the US will commit patients if they have ideation/intent, a plan and a means (ie gun, rebreather, etc).

So, I guess it would depend on how much your family member knows. Planning to order means is just planning - good healthcare and mental healthcare providers will not overreact to planning (bc detainment increases risk of ctb significantly). That said, many providers do overreact to planning and will hospitalized patients for simply planning.

Are you concerned about potentially being hospitalized? Do you have additional supports in place? Do you think you can handle waiting to order your backup until you do whatever it is you're doing? Are you open to telling your family member that you're thinking about doing this instead of that you are?

I hope your family member is open and accepting of whatever you decide to share with them.

 

[Dolphin55]

Facing this dilemma myself. I so wish I lived alone so I could just get everything I need without any questions. I hope your family member is understanding…as I hope mine are

 

[FuneralCry]

I personally don't see it as the best idea being open about suicide plans as sadly so many people lack compassion towards the right to die and refuse to accept the fact that none of us are obligated to continue existing. It's a personal decision deciding what to do but I wouldn't risk it as sadly being open about plans to die can very easily make existing worse.

 

[020x]

Don't share anything that's related to suicide to anyone. You're putting that person liable to your actions. Not only is it risky but you're making others guilty by telling them and that if they support your decision.

 

[Walilamdzii]

So I mentioned it to them, and they were understanding but also want me to continue giving life a shot... they were worried that it isn't peaceful enough and said "can't you get sleeping pills as an option?" and I explained sleeping pills aren't the same as they used to be, that Marilyn Monroe used nembutal, that this seems to be one of the more peaceful methods and stuff.

 

[Dolphin55]

So I mentioned it to them, and they were understanding but also want me to continue giving life a shot... they were worried that it isn't peaceful enough and said "can't you get sleeping pills as an option?" and I explained sleeping pills aren't the same as they used to be, that Marilyn Monroe used nembutal, that this seems to be one of the more peaceful methods and stuff.

It must be a relief that they were understanding…I hope you can get your method together now, or give life another shot, as they suggested, if you feel able.

 

[olearius]

So I mentioned it to them, and they were understanding but also want me to continue giving life a shot... they were worried that it isn't peaceful enough and said "can't you get sleeping pills as an option?" and I explained sleeping pills aren't the same as they used to be, that Marilyn Monroe used nembutal, that this seems to be one of the more peaceful methods and stuff.

I am so glad they gave you compassion and understanding when you needed it most. May your decision, whatever it is, bring you peace.