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Lonely in a room full of people…
- Nov 2, 2023
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This is about off topic as it gets, but I needed an anonymous place to ask for some advice just so it can't possibly get back to the people in question… unless the advice is to get it to them
I have a friend I work with who is married and has two young children. He has been growing increasingly closer to a woman at work. She is very pretty, and has a reputation for being a flirt - but more than this, she actually has a track record for sleeping with two married men that also used to work for us over the years. Not sure what happened to the first couple, but in the second case it led to divorce.
We'll call them Tim and Tina for now. I first noticed them talking at the Christmas party last December, which was at a circus-type venue. The final acts were playing and there was fire and motorbikes and all kinds of crazy stuff… yet these two were completely enthralled by eachother. I was a little concerned at the time, but just let it slide.
Over the months I notice them glance at eachother occasionally. Sometimes if I am directly talking to Tim and she has been near, he'll trip over his words for a sec.
Then recently, I discovered they go on walks together at lunch time. They walk a quiet route next to a river, but it just so happens to be my route home - occasionally instead of brining lunch to work, I'll head home instead. I've now seen them on their walks 4 times over the past several weeks, so I imagine it's happening a lot.
And yes, 'boys and girls can be friends' I know, but trust me - the glances and side smiles and nervousness are typically associated with finding someone hot af
I traveled to another country with him for work recently, and at our partner company, there was a photo of Tina and a couple other colleagues up on the big announcement board, and James took a photo of it. I casually asked why he took it (so far I have feigned total ignorance to the blossoming 'friendship') and he said to show one of the others in the photo, and didn't mention Tina. But I have never once seen Tim interact with this other person, though maybe they do and I'm just unaware.
I don't want to come across as a stalker or obsessed lmao, as I said this is just things I've noticed occasionally over the past 6 months or so.
I've been soooo tempted to pull him to one side and be like hey I've noticed you're getting *veryyy* close with Tina… have you heard about her reputation? But ofc I don't want to spread reputation about someone, I'm reading '13 Reasons Why' rn and I don't want to end up on a tape I also know it's completely and utterly personal and none of my damn business whatsoever.
It's just… really hard to have such a suspicion, knowing it could devastate a family if it turns out to be true, and I knew about it and did nothing to stop it…
So… advice pleaseeee Should I mind my damn business? Or should I confront him?
I have a friend I work with who is married and has two young children. He has been growing increasingly closer to a woman at work. She is very pretty, and has a reputation for being a flirt - but more than this, she actually has a track record for sleeping with two married men that also used to work for us over the years. Not sure what happened to the first couple, but in the second case it led to divorce.
We'll call them Tim and Tina for now. I first noticed them talking at the Christmas party last December, which was at a circus-type venue. The final acts were playing and there was fire and motorbikes and all kinds of crazy stuff… yet these two were completely enthralled by eachother. I was a little concerned at the time, but just let it slide.
Over the months I notice them glance at eachother occasionally. Sometimes if I am directly talking to Tim and she has been near, he'll trip over his words for a sec.
Then recently, I discovered they go on walks together at lunch time. They walk a quiet route next to a river, but it just so happens to be my route home - occasionally instead of brining lunch to work, I'll head home instead. I've now seen them on their walks 4 times over the past several weeks, so I imagine it's happening a lot.
And yes, 'boys and girls can be friends' I know, but trust me - the glances and side smiles and nervousness are typically associated with finding someone hot af
I traveled to another country with him for work recently, and at our partner company, there was a photo of Tina and a couple other colleagues up on the big announcement board, and James took a photo of it. I casually asked why he took it (so far I have feigned total ignorance to the blossoming 'friendship') and he said to show one of the others in the photo, and didn't mention Tina. But I have never once seen Tim interact with this other person, though maybe they do and I'm just unaware.
I don't want to come across as a stalker or obsessed lmao, as I said this is just things I've noticed occasionally over the past 6 months or so.
I've been soooo tempted to pull him to one side and be like hey I've noticed you're getting *veryyy* close with Tina… have you heard about her reputation? But ofc I don't want to spread reputation about someone, I'm reading '13 Reasons Why' rn and I don't want to end up on a tape I also know it's completely and utterly personal and none of my damn business whatsoever.
It's just… really hard to have such a suspicion, knowing it could devastate a family if it turns out to be true, and I knew about it and did nothing to stop it…
So… advice pleaseeee Should I mind my damn business? Or should I confront him?