[Disscussion] Getting rid of anger towards your family

[Goldfinch]

Idk exactly what I want to discuss here but I was mainly wondering if anyone's had any luck with letting feelings of anger or betrayal go . I'm finding it hard to progress with ctb because of this.

 

[Catchingdabus27]

Like the anger keeps you from CTB? Could you elaborate a bit more?

Personally.... I'm a very angry person but i cant afford to be most the time.. plus alot of childhood shit has led me to just push it away until i have a day like today where im MAX level pissed off....

With my CTB ive kinda just taken the anger as is?? Maybe radical kinda acceptance that Im going to die with feeling some kinda resentment and anger towards them but not really using it as a fuel??

Its taken time but i think I've been able to sepaerate them a bit...

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

It's been a decades-long process, but I focus more on my own healing and if the feelings feel harmful to me. Sometimes the anger and resentment die down, but then rise up again. The feelings are definitely less powerful than they used to be.

Anger is a very informative emotion. If it keeps coming up, it's often an indicator that boundaries were crossed. The challenge is being in the present, we can experience emotions as if the past were happening now.

 

[Deleted member 1465]

I am a forgiving person but I find it hard to forgive them. They don't even know. I feel so much anger but can't express it.

 

[Goldfinch]

Like the anger keeps you from CTB? Could you elaborate a bit more?

Personally.... I'm a very angry person but i cant afford to be most the time.. plus alot of childhood shit has led me to just push it away until i have a day like today where im MAX level pissed off....

With my CTB ive kinda just taken the anger as is?? Maybe radical kinda acceptance that Im going to die with feeling some kinda resentment and anger towards them but not really using it as a fuel??

Its taken time but i think I've been able to sepaerate them a bit...

I guess yea , my feelings and issues with my parents keeps me from committing fully to ctb. I want to feel indifferent towards them rather than angry .

 

[Catchingdabus27]

I am a forgiving person but I find it hard to forgive them. They don't even know. I feel so much anger but can't express it.

I guess yea , my feelings and issues with my parents keeps me from committing fully to ctb. I want to feel indifferent towards them rather than angry .

Ohh yeah i get that tbh i think ive just learned to become indifferent to the anger and meaning of it :/

 

[Goldfinch]

Ohh yeah i get that tbh i think ive just learned to become indifferent to the anger and meaning of it :/

I wish I could do that

 

[bpdandme]

If you get an answer please let me know

 

[ninja_daryl]

I've accepted that there can be no meaningful communication with my family because they are too stupid to understand. They can only see things in their one way. Trying to raise them up to my level after they've already peaked long ago is just stupid.

I used to think they were just like me but events have forced the understanding on me.

 

[Goldfinch]

I've accepted that there can be no meaningful communication with my family because they are too stupid to understand. They can only see things in their one way. Trying to raise them up to my level after they've already peaked long ago is just stupid.

I used to think they were just like me but events have forced the understanding on me.

yeah idk if my parents are too stupid or rather purposefully ignorant . Either way it's frustrating so I get what you mean .

 

[Hopeindeath!]

The only way I can forgive others is because, I believe God helps me to. There is an old saying, "To err is human, to forgive, divine." I am not of the divine nature but, I am able to forgive.

 

[last_tour]

Have you read about Toxic parents? My parents were like that too. Its hard to see because you were raised by them, but toxic parents are actually very irresponsible people who really don't know what they're doing. They see their children as an accessory to them, to use and abuse for their personal problems. Tldr not the best type of people to be around and should leave them behind soon.

 

[LoneMisery]

I know that guilt is what keeps me from ctb. I hate it. Because im just swirling around with self hatred and guilt and never going to go through it and will be unhappy for ever.
Almost had the chance twice in life. Woke up in icu each time. I think ill call a lawyer and get a dnr so i may find success the next time.