Discussion Did you ever lose someone to suicide? How did it feel like? How did other people react?

[nobeertonight]

I think everyone here is interested in this.
I'm really concerned about how everyone will react, family, friends, the people I know marginally. those I used to know. I even wonder if some people will get the news that I'm gone.

 

[alwaysalone]

I had an acquaintance in high school hang herself our junior year. I didn't know her very well. Everyone was understandably shocked and sad. Her parents took it pretty hard from what I heard. (small town) her moms tasted drinking heavily got divorced. My grandfather shot himself in his garage when I was 26. He had health issues but no one expected him to do that. My dad had the hardest time with it that I saw. I think that had more to do with unresolved issues than the suicide.

 

[AnEpilogue]

My mom's ex boyfriend died "of a mysteriously-circumstanced drug overdose." The papers never said the word suicide, but it didn't take a genius to figure out. He wasn't well-liked, though, because of something he did a long time ago. My mom cried about it for about an hour, then that was it. My grandma basically said that he deserved to die. The people around him more talked about it like gossip than a tragedy. Still pisses me off just thinking about it.

 

[nobeertonight]

This situation is probably not applicable to yours at all, though.

I mean, it could, but thanks for assuming.
But overdoses aren't all intentional so maybe that's why the attitude?

How did you feel about it?

 

[Blueberry Panic]

My ex boyfriend took his life a year ago. He got incredibly drunk and hung himself in his room.

I've had many friends over the last year kill themselves. Overdoses and a gunshot to the head... I just wish one day I'd have the courage to follow after them.

Grief is the most painful thing I've ever experienced... it's pure depression... and hatred for myself.

 

[AnEpilogue]

I mean, it could, but thanks for assuming.
But overdoses aren't all intentional so maybe that's why the attitude?

How did you feel about it?

Sorry if I offended you, but I'm not going to further explain why people hated him. Its a specific, very hateable by most people's standards reason and I don't want to hear people dragging him.

He was known to be depressed for a while, and people distances themselves from him. People did anything short of spitting in his face, and I'm sure some people would've done worse. No one cared, though. And then he died. The gossip was very much about that sort of thing, that he deserved it, that he should've done it a long time ago, etc...

I felt, and still feel, upset. I wished I could've talked to him more when he was alive, but I was just a kid when they were together. I just wish he knew that one person was on his side in his life.

 

[nobeertonight]

Sorry if I offended you

You didn't at all

I felt, and still feel, upset. I wished I could've talked to him more when he was alive, but I was just a kid when they were together. I just wish he knew that one person was on his side in his life.

I Hope it doesn't feel too bad talking about it. I'd be lashing out at everyone involved.