did running away help anyone ?

[fracturedviolence]

did running away help anyone? did moving or leaving where you live change anything ?

i wish communities for people who feel this way existed. i'm tired of feeling like a burden every time i express how i feel and being around prolifers.

 

[𖣴 nadia 𖣴]

I think you can't really know until you try tbh. I've talked to people who don't feel any better after moving away (at least not enough to stop feeling suicidal) because they're still dealing with the lasting effects of trauma, mental health, poverty or problems with work, relationships or family. But there are others who are doing better for it especially if their problems are purely situational, so it's worth a try. If you don't have anywhere to go you could try a shelter before finding a more permanent place.

 

[releasespieces]

I'm thinking about moving because I'm sick of where I am now. I think most of your issues will follow you around, but there has to be some sense of a fresh start with new surroundings. Based on people I've known who have traveled quite a bit, every place is pretty much the same, it will probably be just a matter of time and the pros and cons will reveal themselves about any place you live. I understand where you're coming from in regards to being surrounded by people with a certain mentality. I pretty much avoid everyone because I feel like I'm being hassled the majority of the time too. I cut my family off and I couldn't be happier about it, changing that situation helped me a lot.

 

[wantittoendsoon]

I can only say that if you have any support where you are and there are people that care about you then moving/running will be the wrong thing to do, if on the other hand your living situation exacerbates your problems and you know a better place then go. Just don't run and be alone .if you need to talk reach out to me or one of the other compassionate people here.

 

[wait.what]

Some people really do feel happier in a different place. The moving success stories I can think of all seem to involve more of a change in cultural climate than anything else. Some people are happiest living close to nature, or near a performing arts mecca, or a place where a lower cost of living allows them to work less, or someplace where most of their neighbors share their ethical or religious values. Being really intentional about what kind of place might suit you better will improve your odds of ending up somewhere you like more than where you're at now. It would definitely suck to pull up stakes and leave one crap location only to end up in a different crap location 2,000 miles away.

That said, moving is always super stressful, even if the change is ultimately good. Do what you can to make sure you're as stable as possible before you start fretting about selling a house or getting someone to take over your lease. You don't want to get halfway moved and then collapse.

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Well, if if is a bad environment that is at least partly responsible for your misery, then moving seems to be a requirement to feel better.

 

[donealready]

This resonates with me.
I moved to the other end of the country to pursue a volunteering opportunity. I planned it for a couple of years and that gave me a bit of hope. I had focus. I even saw a therapist to discuss whether I was just running away.
I moved away from the couple of people I felt close to, but felt like I was finally doing something good for myself after being stuck in same situation for years.
I moved and within 6 months I left the volunteering due to mental health issues.
I did plan to move back, but then depression set back in. I'm isolated and feel stuck here.
I was honestly in a better frame of mind when I left and naively didn't imagine I would get this low again.
On the plus(?) side, being isolated has driven me back to a hopeless state and CTB is my only plan now. It feels easier to exit life further away, no chance of disruptions.
So the issue is me. I can't outrun myself and therefore the conclusion is to CTB.
It doesn't feel good, but it feels right. I gave myself a chance. I don't regret that.

 

[Forever Sleep]

To a certain degree, I think it can help. I was so relieved to leave home for uni- to get away from a (likely) narcissistic family member. I definitely think it's good to cut toxic people out of your life (if you can.)

Since then, I've had two big moves to different parts of the country- following jobs. I think initially, it can help- to shake up your outlook. Still- you probably need to be committed to REALLY start again with all aspects of your life and the things that aren't working in it. (I just focussed on work.) Otherwise- the same old problems end up following you around.

 

[Supersadmommy90]

Hate living in this town. Surrounded by contemptuous, hateful and sadistic people who want me to CTB and do things continually to drive me to ctb… purely for their entertainment. I want to relocate and run but can't afford to.

 

[MideonNViscera]

Yeah, it did. I moved 3500km away from my family and started over. Those were the best years of my life. My mistake was thinking it was a geographical thing. I eventually came back to my family only to discover they were the problem all along.

 

[SectOfValtiel]

if i could get out of here... idk, i think a lot of my depression is based on my environment
having someplace actually clean where i could walk around the place *barefoot* for once, someplace with parks and shit around so i could actually go out and not sit inside all day, someplace with a washer and drier and the means to financially take care of myself would change a lot i think
i havent experienced that a lot in my life
ive lived in awful places for 99% of it
one of the biggest reasons ive hated my life, you live amongst trash and go figure you start to feel like you are trash

but at the same time, the other half is all this unprocessed trauma i still dont know what to do about, the lack of social interactions because i plain do not trust people anymore, the fact im *still* not mentally stable and im scared even living someplace else i wouldnt be
idk if it would make that much of a different to be honest
i think the damage is done haha maybe nothing could fix that at this point

 

[Csmith8827]

Moving to another surrounding definitely changed things entirely for me. I used to live in Texas but California is wayyy better and theres alot more for me here. It's just a better fit. I just lived in a depressing environment so getting away from it really helped alot. I'm supposed to be getting a van soon and renovate the inside (with like a bed and like a living space) and then put a surfboard on top and go surfing everyday. It should be great.

 

[escaped]

I lived away from home for a year and a new environment can really help you grow as a person. Of course if you're running away to escape a toxic environment it will definitely help

 

[jumbles421]

I had a bad home situation in the past and ended up moving across the country to live with other family. It was nice at first, got a job the day I got there and did that part time while working on school. But the sad reality for me was that I was already depressed for too long before leaving that I eventually became depressed again, and there wasn't really anything I could do without it kicking back in.

 

[Oblivion]

I'm sick of having a kind of supportive family and i love my niblings alot and they make feel better and i hate that, i always dream of leaving and becoming a homeless living under a bridge and begging for money and abusing drugs till i OD. if only i had the guts to do that, but i can't live without warm food and daily showers and without a phone and a laptop and internet. i wish i could do that, just make one decision of doing it and walk with it

 

[Rainy_days]

The two times I tried it, I just brought my problems with me and ended up worse due to isolation. I'm sure every person is different though.

 

[DaatiSimi]

Just for a bit. You can have everything you ever wanted but your true self will always come out.

You cannot escape who you are

 

[Aya&Dazy]

I move quite a few cities already. The change of scenery keeps me good for awhile but it still won't change my mind about ctb. On the other hand moving is pretty stressful for me.

 

[lionetta12]

did running away help anyone? did moving or leaving where you live change anything ?

i wish communities for people who feel this way existed. i'm tired of feeling like a burden every time i express how i feel and being around prolifers.

Not really, my life got a lot worse than I expected it to be, and it's ironic since moving away from this country was the biggest motivation to keep me alive.

 

[yyytry]

The only good feeling from running away, is the initial feeling of "taking control" with the delusion of change…and the energy buzz from that.

Everything else is shit afterwards, the problems crop up in the same old ways annnd new ways.

 

[LastFlowers]

I can't run away from my own flesh.
That's why the other types of running away never caught my attention as a viable solution.
A lot of problems don't differ much no matter where you go, my sort especially.

But sure, if I could unzip my skin & bone suit and just waltz into freedom, I damn well would.
Of course, there would still be the rest of humanity and nature to contend with.

I'm sick of having a kind of supportive family and i love my niblings alot and they make feel better and i hate that, i always dream of leaving and becoming a homeless living under a bridge and begging for money and abusing drugs till i OD. if only i had the guts to do that, but i can't live without warm food and daily showers and without a phone and a laptop and internet. i wish i could do that, just make one decision of doing it and walk with it

Are they actually supportive or are they just superficially pleasant as a formality and obligation?

I would kill for family members who were genuinely supportive and understanding and who didn't seem to want to run away themselves the second I start treading into anything other than the shallow end of conversation.
I'm so sick of keeping the blatantly obvious misery and disadvantages to myself, just because talking about them makes other people "uncomfortable" (idk what the fuck they would consider the sensation I feel in comparison).

 

[novem]

It will likely distract you with new problems in a new place, so temporarily you will notice the change.
But eventually you cannot run away from yourself — most likely your problems will have traveled with you. Unless you definitely knew what they were, but in that case you would not be asking strangers for advice.

 

[mojabaka]

Can't runnaway from being disabled.