Discussion Dating + being suicidal

[WornOutLife]

So, I wanna ctb ASAP but... somehow, dates opportunities keep showing up.
What should I do?

Would you date any people even though you're depressed and suicidal?

What if one date turns into a serious relationship? I'd hate to hurt any girl's feelings.

Damn, I'm so confused!

 

[L951788]

I'd date a girl if both me and her were suicidal. That's actually kind of a dream of mine. Some crazy YOLO relationship, eloping or something. Always have suicide as a backup if things don't work out.

 

[WornOutLife]

I'd date a girl if both me and her were suicidal. That's actually kind of a dream of mine. Some crazy YOLO relationship, eloping or something. Always have suicide as a backup if things don't work out.

lol, you're so goddamn right about the "backup"

 

[CatabolicSeed]

I would advise against it if you're sure you will CTB in the near future, as it will cause an innocent person pain.

 

[WornOutLife]

I would advise against it if you're sure you will CTB in the near future, as it will cause an innocent person pain.

Exactly!!! I agree with you! The thing is that I'm so confused that I don't know whether I will ctb or not soon!
Damn, I hate feeling like this!

 

[Frauw]

Not interested in anything regardless of my/their mental state

 

[sourpink]

I would advise against it if you're sure you will CTB in the near future, as it will cause an innocent person pain.

my sentiments exactly.
I was kind of getting to know someone for a brief period of time (virtually of course, I'd rather not be a plague rat) and I sort of gradually came to the realization that in any scenario presented, I shouldn't be attempting romance. definitely too fucked up currently to drag anyone else down with me. and, bonus! turns out being suicidal etc. doesn't exactly make one seem all that appealing, or it does, and only attracts some dangerous bullshit.

 

[CatabolicSeed]

Exactly!!! I agree with you! The thing is that I'm so confused that I don't know whether I will ctb or not soon!
Damn, I hate feeling like this!

If you're not sure, then I'd say go for it. Live your life to its fullest so you can make an accurate decision.

 

[WornOutLife]

If you're not sure, then I'd say go for it. Live your life to its fullest so you can make an accurate decision.

Thank you so much for your advice! I think you're absolutely right!

 

[Sakura94]

I don't think it's so bad if you have no one. Maybe there are a lot of understanding people who would be happy to be there for the last chapter of their lives or bring about some happiness. Or maybe they will be weird idk.
More likely they will keep trying to save you because that's how human nature works and pro-choice isn't really that mainstream.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

I, like many others, WOULD JUMP AT THE CHANCE. You seem like a good-looking dude whose apathetic with his attention... Spare a thought for us 'incels*'...

*I don't identify as an incel btw, and all the unfortunate mysogyny that comes with the term. I just feel all the pain...

 

[BlackPoppet]

I don't think it's so bad if you have no one. Maybe there are a lot of understanding people who would be happy to be there for the last chapter of their lives or bring about some happiness. Or maybe they will be weird idk.
More likely they will keep trying to save you because that's how human nature works and pro-choice isn't really that mainstream.

My sentiments exactly!!

 

[Pookie]

Give it a chance and see where it goes. Ever considered things could change and you might end up happy? Maybe you won't be suicidal forever, you're still young. And if you never get a chance to be happy and remain suicidal, well then the option to ctb will always be there.

 

[BlackPoppet]

Give it a chance and see where it goes. Ever considered things could change and you might end up happy? Maybe you won't be suicidal forever, you're still young. And if you never get a chance to be happy and remain suicidal, well then the option to ctb will always be there.

agreed!

 

[WornOutLife]

Give it a chance and see where it goes. Ever considered things could change and you might end up happy? Maybe you won't be suicidal forever, you're still young. And if you never get a chance to be happy and remain suicidal, well then the option to ctb will always be there.

You've certainly given me some hope! Thanks a lot for your comment!

 

[L951788]

Dang I need to put myself out there more!

I consider myself relatively good looking, girls usually rate me 8/10, and I'd agree to be with a similar girl in a heartbeat. I'd probably be in a relationship now but I have no job and no money and don't plan to anytime soon. I'd be a good househusband though! ;)

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Would you date any people even though you're depressed and suicidal?

My hope would be to find someone who'd HELP me become less depressed and suicidal. I know it's unrealistic and even more unrealistic for anyone to help me eliminate those feelings entirely, but it's the only thing I've got left to try. I would hope that maybe if my partner is at the same level as I am then we'd be perfect for understanding the extent of each others' pain in ways nobody else could which would make things easier. Maybe that's just a crazy fantasy too, idk.

What if one date turns into a serious relationship? I'd hate to hurt any girl's feelings.

I feel the same way, which is mainly why I've never gotten into a relationship so far. Personally I wouldn't be willing to until they can show they'd truly be able to accept this part of myself.

 

[loopylou]

I would advise against it if you're sure you will CTB in the near future, as it will cause an innocent person pain.

I'm in a relationship and my suicidal thoughts currently are, he will never let me go. And it will hurt him a lot when I do go. But I'm hurting him staying too? So confused

 

[paininme]

I would go for it you have nothing left to loose you are already planning on leaving but who knows it could save you and a chance to be happy, others have done it before

 

[Frauw]

The other facet to this is if you have underlying problems another person is not going to be able to fix them, and the moment they may decide to leave you end up back at square one, or even worse.

 

[L951788]

The other facet to this is if you have underlying problems another person is not going to be able to fix them, and the moment they may decide to leave you end up back at square one, or even worse.

I'm pretty much not at all looking for someone to fix my problems I'm just looking for something to do lol. I mean my ex would give me positive reviews, and despite all the drama with her, still having something to do and work on is better than isolated suicidality. It's like....I could probably be a good partner for somebody emotionally and physically, it's just the situation needs to present itself which is hard given my current circumstances

 

[Frauw]

I'm pretty much not at all looking for someone to fix my problems I'm just looking for something to do lol. I mean my ex would give me positive reviews, and despite all the drama with her, still having something to do and work on is better than isolated suicidality. It's like....I could probably be a good partner for somebody emotionally and physically, it's just the situation needs to present itself which is hard given my current circumstances

It is hard for me to relate as I really enjoy my alone time and working on myself by myself is pivotal to me, but I can understand wanting someone to lean on when things get tough for you.

 

[Leaving-Soon]

Not going to date anyone. Although I miss physical contact (not necessarily the sex), I'm not in a state of mind for any relationship and also wouldn't like to hurt the other half. Currently considering taking a 12-15 years old dog from a dog shelter.

 

[Amumu]

Always been depressed so I don't have a choice tbh
We don't always have control over our lives

 

[Nymph]

I'm not personal trying to date anyone because I'm sure that I will ctb someday in the future. If you have some hole left it could help you towards recovery I guess. But I wouldn't want to hurt someone by dating them and then ctb. It's a tough topic

 

[Sherri]

Well I'm depressed and dating a "normie" told him about my depression and my past ctb, was always asking me "are you ok?'" constantly. I had to say if you want this to work please stop asking me if I'm ok. I know dating is not the cure, in any way, but it's good to have someone who cares. Wish you good luck hun, I know you are suffering with your inner demons for quite a bit of time. Hugs sweetie.

 

[woknows]

Give it a chance and see where it goes. Ever considered things could change and you might end up happy? Maybe you won't be suicidal forever, you're still young. And if you never get a chance to be happy and remain suicidal, well then the option to ctb will always be there.

True. Why not give yourself a chance. Just because it is easier to wallow in self-pity when you could meed someone interesting who could show you new things.

 

[Leaving-Soon]

True. Why not give yourself a chance. Just because it is easier to wallow in self-pity when you could meed someone interesting who could show you new things.

Maybe because at least in my case, the only emotions I can really feel are sadness, (self)pity and anger.

 

[woknows]

Maybe because at least in my case, the only emotions I can really feel are sadness, (self)pity and anger.

Maybe true. Maybe not. I met a girl who made me feel things I thought I was not able to feel anymore. I felt dead inside. So, forgive me for not taking your statement as a fact.

 

[Leaving-Soon]

But I guess that your statement shall be taken as a fact? I respect your view and experience, but at the same time, views and experiences of other people shall be respected too.
BTW got the same experience as you - the girl that changed my feelings. But sadly just temporarily, you can't run away from yourself.