dating apps are suicide fuel

[transgenderending]

i've completely ruled out even trying dating apps anymore, i got transphobic piss last year for christmas from grindr and it really soured my attempt at having a nice day ignoring my family. its like, not even 9am and i thought id get a nice lay in to distract myself but its just piss trauma surprise and he goes home to give presents to his children because of course complaining about christmas shopping by peeing in a random persons mouth is very normal holiday behaviour. 0/10 grindr sucks now.

 

[identity0]

I've never even tried apps but im gay and have no other ideas how to find a partner. I dislike the 'gender identity'-based lgbt community and dont feel that i belong to it. Dont like going to clubs or bars. Dislike hookup culture and dont want to be with someone thats slept with 100 people as sounds typical. Pretty dire. I shouldnt even try them? I know as soon as i install the software it will sell all my personal data to third parties

 

[hereornot]

The few times I've used these apps I've mostly received messages from prostitutes... so I feel sorry for those who aren't and use the same scheme.

 

[divinemistress36]

I'm female and my experiences with dating apps were half the men were married and the other half were just creepy and want to sext

 

[Leiot]

Dating apps are basically ads when you get right down to it. But you can't put a lot of the things that makes a person attracted to you in an app; all you have is a picture and some bullshit writeup. And most of us have a real hard time writing anything good about ourselves.

 

[dreamfyre]

relatable asf!!!

its crazy how much the apps can worsen your mental health. i thought i was doing something positive, finally putting myself out there.

but the ghosting, the lies, the manipulation, the sea of profiles, the catfishing, the unrealistic body standards, the pointless small talk, the rejection, the obsession with sex

it becomes way too much very quickly; its emotionally exhausting and i honestly feel really pessimistic about things now. i honestly just wanted to make friends and maybe meet someone special. i had no idea it would be so difficult.

I agree, it just makes human nature and our dating preferences more explicit, its still human nature.

im not sure i agree. its easier to ghost someone who you havent stared in the eyes and connected with in person.

 

[cheaptrick]

I'm really glad I have no urge to date right now. I'm so miserable I just want to be alone.

I can't imagine how miserable it must feel to have that urge and be forced to go through this dystopian system.

 

[Ceterum]

I have / had the luck have some success on these apps, but I agree that they don't deliver in general. Like, you're on dating apps, but it's your co-worker at work hooking up with you at the end of the day. And if you want to do yourself a favor, don't use tinder, that's really just a fuck-app

 

[Throwawaysoul]

Fucking hell they are. First the sites nickel and dime you. Second the cliché profiles. " message first, I can't see likes" , " I'm a country girl" << girl you fucking live in Boston and drive a Honda accord , never saw a tractor, and the nearest one is 50 miles away. so stop fronting. We know you're MAGA , pandering to dudes in lifted pick ups " my 5 kids come first" << girl you're currently active every time I login. " you must be this tall to ride this " Then the bumble girls, 95% of them have professional pictures. With the most whitest teeth in all the land. Them teeth are in in 8k, 50000 nit brightness. Ugh.

 

[Leiot]

I've just accepted that I'm past dating now. No sense is getting all depressed about it. Just the way it is.

 

[iloveeetreeeess1]

same

I've never even tried apps but im gay and have no other ideas how to find a partner. I dislike the 'gender identity'-based lgbt community and dont feel that i belong to it. Dont like going to clubs or bars. Dislike hookup culture and dont want to be with someone thats slept with 100 people as sounds typical. Pretty dire. I shouldnt even try them? I know as soon as i install the software it will sell all my personal data to third parties

 

[grungy自殺]

I don't really get the point of using these apps when they're literally just like literally the epitome of trying come out as the best of the best. Being the fakest being that you can possibly imagine

There's very little merit in trying to look for love in these kinds of apps when the psychology is is that people are desperate to find whatever source of love that they could ever find (whether it's for quick marriage, to escape from a abusive partner, wanting to have a shallow personality for the sake of showing off to a person that only cares on the superficial aspects of a person, unrealistic expectations of a partner because they're wanting themselves to be clear as if the person that they're with already knows what kind of person they're are for the their sake or being some kind of super natural human that can read their minds instantly, taking a advantage for the sake of their benefit like changing them into something that they're not or make them a depressed walking zombie puppet that only do the demands for them as they're doing some leisure for themselves without them knowing because they're doing fulfilling their hedonistic lifestyle that they've want or simply they're only attractive to them for money) and for that what can transpire for the other is the type were they would just be willowed with disappointment ,hate, depression, anger, trauma and list goes on

Love is fantasy for many and it would be one of the worst emotions to be taken advantage of by someone that misuses you and doesn't really love you for who you are

And literally this whole concept of trying to tailor out those that are trying have a date is like trying putting out a job resume and the literally the people that text you for a date are like employers, To see what you have

and because you're of one of tens and hundreds of people that apply to such profession, expect nothing from them to say that you're not worth for the job that you're wanting to be apart of

and that's exactly the same for dating in this day and age, you're not worth it for the other person when they've found something better in their options that is presented to them