Dark humor to cope with past trauma?

[Wrennie]

I've always had a dark sense of humor to serve as a coping mechanism for the trauma I endured.
It wasn't even remotely funny at all, but it helped me to cope and to endure.
I never really stopped to think about why I said the things I said. Maybe because I was in denial over the abuse I'd suffered.
I wish I'd possessed more self-awareness about the "why", but I was also unconsciously repressing a lot of my trauma and was too afraid to face it head on.

I don't really feel like joking about anything anymore.

 

[bed]

I use dark humour a lot to cope, feel like it's pretty common.

 

[4eyebiped]

My humor shows no bounds in all directions. Gets me in trouble eventually. I really don't have limits and nothing offends me. That equals trouble all around...

But, you do have me pondering if there is a higher rate of people that have dark humor amongst the group of broken people compared to the average population.

 

[motel rooms]

I've made a career out of it.

 

[Wrennie]

My humor shows no bounds in all directions. Gets me in trouble eventually. I really don't have limits and nothing offends me. That equals trouble all around...

But, you do have me pondering if there is a higher rate of people that have dark humor amongst the group of broken people compared to the average population.

Well, at least you're actually amusing.
I didn't get offended by anything and so I'd always take it "too far".
I mean, it made some of my friends laugh so I didn't think much of it.
But I've come to believe that certain topics really shouldn't be joked about.

 

[4eyebiped]

That is my problem, is making sure I control what I say. For sure on a sensitive platform like this. I can be the the sweetest guy around (which people then assume I am boring and uninteresting) or the most vulgar guy around (Which then they assume I am an evil incarnate) but never do I have ill intent in what I say or do. It can be a struggle constantly having to put out fires that your mouth starts. One of my many reasons of wanting to CTB.

The good news is, anyone that knows me, knows they have full freedom to talk about, discuss or joke about all topics equally. There is lots of freedom with being my friend.

We will see how long I go before I get banished from this realm!

 

[Geturdone]

I've always had a dark sense of humor to serve as a coping mechanism for the trauma I endured.
It wasn't even remotely funny at all, but it helped me to cope and to endure.
I never really stopped to think about why I said the things I said. Maybe because I was in denial over the abuse I'd suffered.
I wish I'd possessed more self-awareness about the "why", but I was also unconsciously repressing a lot of my trauma and was too afraid to face it head on.

I don't really feel like joking about anything anymore.

That awareness, my friend, is a prime example of what's call " therapeutic progress" .... Congrates. Good on you, mate.

 

[motel rooms]

My humor shows no bounds in all directions. Gets me in trouble eventually. I really don't have limits and nothing offends me. That equals trouble all around...

Really? You strike me as a total Goody Glasses-&-two-shoes.

 

[4eyebiped]

Really? You strike me as a total Goody Glasses-&-two-shoes.

Then my evil plan is working out as intended.

 

[motel rooms]

I can be the the sweetest guy around (which people then assume I am boring and uninteresting) or the most vulgar guy around (Which then they assume I am an evil incarnate) but never do I have ill intent in what I say or do.

I don't buy it... Say something vulgarly funny. You have 3 minutes.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

I have a dark humor sometimes too but literally because I have no bounds. I keep it in check.

I'm so sorry for all of your trauma Wrennie, and for everything else too.

 

[motel rooms]

I probably wouldn't bother posting on this forum if none of the members had a dark sense of humor. Imho, people who don't have at least a slightly twisted sense of humor aren't funny at all. A lot of the crap that passes for humorous in Middle America would make toddlers in Europe roll their eyes.

 

[Midgardsorm]

I've always had a dark sense of humor to serve as a coping mechanism for the trauma I endured.
It wasn't even remotely funny at all, but it helped me to cope and to endure.
I never really stopped to think about why I said the things I said. Maybe because I was in denial over the abuse I'd suffered.
I wish I'd possessed more self-awareness about the "why", but I was also unconsciously repressing a lot of my trauma and was too afraid to face it head on.

I don't really feel like joking about anything anymore.

When I first read about your condition, it was in a long post that you wrote, very detailed that I had to stop reading more than once because I was feeling really bad for you. In the same post, you manage to throw some jokes which surprised me.

You are very tough. It still to believe how cruel life were with you.

 

[4eyebiped]

I don't buy it... Say something vulgarly funny. You have 3 minutes.

I can promise vulgar but cannot guarantee funny. I was on the phone and missed the 3 minute deadline. The 3 minute deadline made me feel the pressure to perform like at a porn shoot except you didn't provide me with a fluffer.

 

[Hollowillow]

I've always had a dark sense of humor to serve as a coping mechanism for the trauma I endured.
It wasn't even remotely funny at all, but it helped me to cope and to endure.
I never really stopped to think about why I said the things I said. Maybe because I was in denial over the abuse I'd suffered.
I wish I'd possessed more self-awareness about the "why", but I was also unconsciously repressing a lot of my trauma and was too afraid to face it head on.

I don't really feel like joking about anything anymore.

Yes to dark humor to cope with trauma

I used to draw to vent my negative emotions. Some are not haha funny but brain funny. Some so messed up it's funny.

Well, at least you're actually amusing.
I didn't get offended by anything and so I'd always take it "too far".
I mean, it made some of my friends laugh so I didn't think much of it.
But I've come to believe that certain topics really shouldn't be joked about.

I made a comic about dead baby hitler. I wouldn't show it at a wedding or church, but... I had fun.

I've made a career out of it.

How, I want to see, oh wow!

 

[Forever Sleep]

My humor shows no bounds in all directions. Gets me in trouble eventually. I really don't have limits and nothing offends me. That equals trouble all around...

But, you do have me pondering if there is a higher rate of people that have dark humor amongst the group of broken people compared to the average population.

I think making a joke out of your own problems is quite a selfless thing to do- entertain people with something that has hurt you.

More problematic is making light out of other people's problems (I'm not saying you do). My Dad is quite a joker and he'll try and find a funny remark/pun out of anything. Trouble is- it's rather a conversation killer. Kind of makes you stop in your tracks- like he's not in the mood to hear something depressing. Which I get- it's tiring I know. As much as I love him, it's difficult when you feel like you have to 'cheer up' the moment you show signs of feeling down.

That probably doesn't relate to you though. Think there's a difference between joking about uncomfortable subjects in an abstract way and doing so in a conversation with someone who is trying to confide a problem to you. I'm not really sure if anything should be off limits in humour. I find myself laughing at some pretty distasteful stuff.