Conveying death to online people

[HenryHenriksen_6E]

I have some online friends from mainly two different communities, all of them unaware that I'll be taking my leave pretty soon, so I've been really unsure on how to explain that I won't be able to talk to them anymore. I have a note I'll leave to one person I know rather well, and I'll trust him to mediate my passing to the rest of our group, though to the other community I'm unsure. I'm kinda just existing in there, so not really a special figure, however I engage there frequently enough to give them a heads up that I kicked the bucket, but I'm not so closely connected to a person where I'd be willing to dm it.

Now, I don't know if this is really stupid, or just an aight idea, but I need some criticism. For now, I've just planned to put the information on my profile, assuming someone will eventually stumble across it, however I know there are some flaws in that. First of all: I could just have a random unsuspecting stranger accidentally click on my pfp to find whatever I've written on there, which isn't exactly ideal, as I don't wish to unnecessarily ruin more days than needed. Secondly: I could fail my attempt for whatever reason, and I could end up waddling home knowing there's a certain chance of me opening my laptop to some mildly concerned messages - something I don't want because that'd be giving a shit ton of people a window into my struggles. Another issue is that people might assume I'm seeking attention and won't take it seriously. Those who know me a little better know I'm not like that, but still.

Another thing I could do is send my stuff to that one friend and have him convey it to the other community, but that feels a little shitty of me to burden someone with an extra sidequest while they have to deal with all the other things.

Or maybe I just post a suicide note in the meme channels if I don't give a fuck in that moment of time. Who knows, perhaps they find it funny.

Either way, I'm kinda lost right now, unsure of those things, so feel free to give me some suggestions that might burden my peers slightly less when it comes to sharing the news.

 

[ventingfrustrations]

Maybe you could private message an active member on the other group that you are going to ctb also I wish you peace

 

[HenryHenriksen_6E]

Maybe you could private message an active member on the other group that you are going to ctb also I wish you peace

Yeah, only issue being that I don't know anyone there well enough to directly state it via dm. Only time I'd do it is with a really close friend. It's not super important that they know, but I feel like they deserve to be made aware that I'm not gonna be messaging anymore. Difficult situation.

And thanks.

 

[SnowLeopard21]

Slightly related, but let me go on a bit of a tangent here.
I am a user of a popular roleplaying site and a member of a channel that has a pretty close-knit community that likes to connect off-site on Discord to chat and share things outside of a roleplaying context. Some time ago before I arrived to this channel a user who was quite dear to the community passed away due to a tragic illness. I'm not entirely sure *how* the news was conveyed to the moderators postmortem but it was substantial enough for them to have a small online memorial for a little bit.

A couple years later, the user in question suddenly reappeared and admitted to faking the whole thing. They were of course swiftly ostracized and banned and the rest of us were utterly baffled that someone would be audacious enough to do such a thing and then return after the fact after the community had grieved them.

The question I ask is this: What would you consider substantial enough evidence other than a literal death certificate to be utterly convinced of an online acquaintance's death? And the answer for that is I don't really know. I'm not sure what """evidence""" the aforementioned user supplied in guise to the moderators that was convincing enough to make them believe they truly had passed away. A person could just as easily bail on their longstanding accounts and let them rot so the "Last online" counter keeps ticking up while they continue on under a different persona with a new account.

Short of giving my parents/siblings my username and password for these services (which I'd rather like to avoid entirely because nearly all of it is less than flattering), I don't know how I would be able to inform the online people in my life of my passing. More importantly I would need to convince them of it while I'm currently ah, indisposed.