Cheerful, "bubbly" people

[Ligottian]

Do they annoy you, perhaps to the point of provoking secret, silent hostility? They annoy the hell out of me. Sports fans as well.

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, people like that come across as insane to me, if they truly feel in such a way. I bet many of them are just pretending as there's nothing to be "happy" about in this reality. I see the whole idea of happiness in this cruel world filled with endless suffering as a delusion invented by humans.

 

[pineapple-chicken]

I myself can be quite bubbly from time to time, and I know a lot of bubbly people, it's always performative . But it's a nice performance, it's like singing this song to yourself that makes everything feel alright for a bit, when you look around everyone is smiling, everything is alright, just for this conversation.

 

[L0nely]

Well that depends. If someone is genuienly bubbly or just obnoxious. If they're genuine I feel more so jealous, if they're obnoxious I find it annoying.

 

[Sprite_Geist]

I do not have an issue with anybody who has a different or opposite personality than me - including "bubbly" people - as long as they do not have an issue with me or my personality either.

There was a time, many years ago, when I would dislike someone just because we both disagreed on something, or had clashing outlooks. Then later on a realization came: just because I did not have much in common with someone, or we did not "gel" very well, it did not mean that they were "bad" people, or that there was an issue with them that warranted them being disliked; I came to think this way because I had experienced hostility from others due to being quiet in social situations, and it was frustrating (and still is) because it is very hurtful when other people make nasty, untrue assumptions simply because you are not outgoing. This made me realize, though, that I was doing exactly the same to others who were more talkative than me; I started to think: "I should not hate someone for being talkative, because I would really not want them to hate me for being quiet."

Basically: do not negatively judge me, and I will try my hardest to not negatively judge you. Yes: I dislike being "chatty" or "bubbly", but I still do not hold any hatred toward you as a person, because you just might be attempting to be friendly; likewise: I hope you will not hold any hatred toward me because I do not want to talk - it is really nothing personal.

 

[Kit1]

I have come across some people who feel authentic and are bubbly - and I am fine with them in extremely small doses.

I know someone who is very bubbly (very much put on and definitely not genuine), pretends to speak in "posh" English, chatty and very judgemental and extremely discriminative and pretends to have full authority on all the topics - whenever I have the misfortune of sharing a space with her, I just humour her and end up winding her up. It is my way of coping with fake people.

 

[AnonymousRobin]

I'm quite bubbly myself, I like the way I sound when I'm bubbly, but I'm not discreet about the fact I can get quite depressed

 

[Ligottian]

I have come across some people who feel authentic and are bubbly - and I am fine with them in extremely small doses.

I know someone who is very bubbly (very much put on and definitely not genuine), pretends to speak in "posh" English, chatty and very judgemental and extremely discriminative and pretends to have full authority on all the topics - whenever I have the misfortune of sharing a space with her, I just humour her and end up winding her up. It is my way of coping with fake people.

"Extremely small doses" being the key phrase!

Yes, people like that come across as insane to me, if they truly feel in such a way. I bet many of them are just pretending as there's nothing to be "happy" about in this reality. I see the whole idea of happiness in this cruel world filled with endless suffering as a delusion invented by humans.

I don't think I could fake it without acting lessons.

 

[Ligottian]

Hate ém, so f-ing annoying. those super positive people should all die mysteriously one day... en masse.

Brutal...But yeah. I feel like that sometimes.

 

[Abyssal]

That probably describes me. Most people like a bubbly, cheerful person so that a what I give them. When you get bullied for being a freak you try to not just conform, but stand out as "perfect"

 

[pineapple-chicken]

I'm quite bubbly myself, I like the way I sound when I'm bubbly, but I'm not discreet about the fact I can get quite depressed

I totally get you, I think for me it's learned behavior, I got a crush on this (really popular, well liked, happy go lucky) guy two years ago, so I tried to spend all the time I could with him, and I saw the way he acted around other people and I tried to imitate it, and it worked, the little things like compliments or smiles when you see people... it makes me feel better. I'm still extemely lonely, and I hate myself immensely, but at least i know the check out lady at the super market thinks I'm a nice young fellow.

 

[Ksmиda]

I like them because it reminds me that there are reasons to be happy like them, and they distract me from thinking about dying.

 

[AnonymousRobin]

I totally get you, I think for me it's learned behavior, I got a crush on this (really popular, well liked, happy go lucky) guy two years ago, so I tried to spend all the time I could with him, and I saw the way he acted around other people and I tried to imitate it, and it worked, the little things like compliments or smiles when you see people... it makes me feel better. I'm still extemely lonely, and I hate myself immensely, but at least i know the check out lady at the super market thinks I'm a nice young fellow.

Yeah! That's exactly how it is! I figured, why not be extra nice to people even though I'm suffering a lot

 

[pineapple-chicken]

I got a crush on this (really popular, well liked, happy go lucky) guy two years ago

I feel the need to mention, I got to know him, and he's extremely depressed. He cries whenever he's alone, if he just came back from a long car ride you'll always see his eyes are red and puffy, but he'll still greet you with a smile. He knows almost everyone in my town and still he feels lonely. He's insecure, and he feels like he's stuck being this perfect person for everyone. I feel sorry for him, and I admire him.

Yeah! That's exactly how it is! I figured, why not be extra nice to people even though I'm suffering a lot

Oh my God I remember one day when I decided to try it, I was really depressed, on the brink of ctb and I decided to take a walk to clear my head, on the way I saw this giant red beautiful flower, like something out of a cartoon, and I had this intrusive thought that I should give it to someone, cuase its going to die soon and I'm the only one whos appreciated it. So I picked it and kept walking until I saw an older woman, and I stopped her, complimented her head wrap and asked if shed like a flower.

It felt so good to make her smile, she lit up, I almost cried seeing someone happy, I had no reason to do that, and so much for the world is shit, but in that moment it was all just two humans being happy for a second.

 

[RichardFirst]

I worked with a woman years ago who was outwardly very "bubbly". Indeed, the department once gave her an "award" or sorts for this as she was heavily involved with the social club in the office. For whatever reason, she took a liking to me me, and started telling me things about her personal life that I won't share. I will say, however, that the bubbly persona was just a mask. Behind it, she was deeply conflicted and quite unsure of herself.

 

[Ligottian]

I worked with a woman years ago who was outwardly very "bubbly". Indeed, the department once gave her an "award" or sorts for this as she was heavily involved with the social club in the office. For whatever reason, she took a liking to me me, and started telling me things about her personal life that I won't share. I will say, however, that the bubbly persona was just a mask. Behind it, she was deeply conflicted and quite unsure of herself.

One of my cousin's daughter has an over the top bubbly personality. Her parents got divorced a few months ago. We never know what goes on behind closed doors.

 

[RichardFirst]

One of my cousin's daughter has an over the top bubbly personality. Her parents got divorced a few months ago. We never know what goes on behind closed doors.

I'm sorry to hear that. I think that the bubbly persona is just what some people adopt to help them to cope with trauma akin to how others become introverted,.

 

[targz]

I'm a bit like that. Mostly stemmed from trying to prove (to myself?) when I was younger that my way of thinking is rational (not necessarily associated with mental illness/disorder). Probably made a bunch of sad people sadder though :/

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I'm too apathetic and depressed to care about them

 

[Unwr!tten]

I'm genuinely a pretty bubbly person on the norm, but I think 90% of that is my severe ADHD, sometimes, I feel the hyperness filling my soul so much, I just want to scream and run around in circles. Then I have my bipolar lows along with it and often I feel like a maniac,

 

[Ligottian]

I'm genuinely a pretty bubbly person on the norm, but I think 90% of that is my severe ADHD, sometimes, I feel the hyperness filling my soul so much, I just want to scream and run around in circles. Then I have my bipolar lows along with it and often I feel like a maniac,

I want to go gently into that good night.

 

[zombiegirl]

i'm like that when manic and it annoys even me lmfao

 

[LeWantsToDie]

Honestly, I'm just jealous.

 

[CrazyDiamond04]

No, I don't harbor any ill will towards people who are happy or cheerful; I'm glad they don't feel this way.

 

[Unwr!tten]

I want to go gently into that good night.

:D

 

[TheLastGreySky]

I opened up to my girlfriend about my social anhedonia, I do not even remotely enjoy socializing with other people, and bubbly people just don't get it.
She asked why I picked her, and well, it's because she's shy that I like her. I'm not expected to put on a fake face with her.


Unless we're talking about terrible stuff. Then I'm all in.

 

[Ligottian]

If you don't tell people you are fine, you better learn to.

The world runs on happy time, and it's not about to let a few depressive headcases spoil things for everyone else.

- Thomas Ligotti

 

[KSZ]

Yeah. They annoy me quite much, however I must stay patient with them. Don't want to end up arguing with every other person haha

 

[latuecat]

I don't know, I guess it kinda depends on how I'm feeling. I personally don't want to hold it against people just because they're happy. It's not their fault I haven't smiled genuinely in what feels like forever and it's not their fault I have hundreds of scars on my arms. Let them be happy, I guess. As much resentment and pain is in me, I don't want to mindlessly wish pain and suffering upon others just because I don't feel the same as them. Unless they're intruding on you specifically and trying to tell you how you should be feeling, I feel like we can just live different lives.

I myself sometimes put up the act of being 'bubbly' and hyperactive. But I make a conscious decision to do so and i can and have turned it off when im tired of it. It's really a coping mechanism. It's because I want to seem interesting to others and for them to think of me. I crave attention and if it means taking on a new personality to get it, I'll do so. I have really random mood swings, so one minute I may be jumping around and cheering on my classmates, and the next, hyperventilating and crying in a corner.

Yes, people like that come across as insane to me, if they truly feel in such a way. I bet many of them are just pretending as there's nothing to be "happy" about in this reality. I see the whole idea of happiness in this cruel world filled with endless suffering as a delusion invented by humans.

but some people live a privileged life with loving parents and multiple friends who care about them. Some people go to schools where they're liked and get fine grades. Some people haven't questioned why they're alive in the first place and aren't fucked up in the head like I am. I think that there are some people who can be genuinely, truly happy with their life, as they live in a very closeted environment and are not in touch with the reality of others. Why do they HAVE to suffer? Why is it so wrong for them to be happy that they must be hurt?
I myself feel like I can slip away from life without having them to feel the same pain as I do. It's OK for them to carry on in my eyes, because I'm just another person. I say that let people be if they really live in that perfect world where they can be content.
Just my opinion, ofc, but maybe we don't have to wish harm upon others just because they're happy.

 

[jellie]

Do they annoy you, perhaps to the point of provoking secret, silent hostility? They annoy the hell out of me. Sports fans as well.

I think my negative emotions towards bubbly happy people is mostly rooted in jealousy. I am ultimately glad that there are people who enjoy their life, I wish that is how it was for everyone. I wish that is how it was for me.