Care home abuse of residents

[Rational man]

I was reading an article about a care home in home in Uk, where some staff abused residents who didn't comply with instructions.
One resident refused food and fluids. She was forced fed.

It was filmed by undercover reporters.

other resident's were physical abused, kicked and dragged along the floor by the hair. Another resident was tied down whilst drugs were given. These residents had a mixture of disease, age, and dementia. In all likelihood, were folk just like you and me.

Anyone of us could end up in a situation like this. Vulnerable and subjected to abuse which to me sounds like human torture.

i suspect this is not an isolated case, but the horror of what happened really highlights the falsehood of sanctity of human LIFE.

PEACE

 

[odradek]

Our society is filled to the brim with little nooks and crannies of misery like this. All one has to do is look in any direction and you can find one. Elder abuse is an often ignored aspect of the machinery of modern civilization. Shit is grim out there.

 

[Lullaby]

It's so mind boggling to know that many working in the health care field, don't actually care to help people. I don't know how anyone can sleep at night after abusing physically, and mentally, ill patients.

 

[noaccount]

Every state in the U.S. has a budget specifically and solely to pay people to tie down and drug children

This is one of the primary reasons why talking about basic daily life has always been pretty similar to saying "I need to fucking kill myself" for me.

 

[ge0rge]

It's so mind boggling to know that many working in the health care field, don't actually care to help people. I don't know how anyone can sleep at night after abusing physically, and mentally, ill patients.

truth. there's a glaring lack of empathy and human emotion in so many healthcare workers.

 

[The Abyss]

Many in such facilties were given doses of midazolam to kill them off as the government wanted to save on pensions.

 

[FuneralCry]

It really is so terrible the way that many people treat others. Old age sounds so horrifying and I think that the life expectancy is too long. It must be so awful being trapped in a care home without the option of a peaceful exit having to die from illness and enduring such treatment from people who are supposed to help. When I hear about things like this, it just makes me want to leave this world even more. People are so cruel.

 

[hellispink]

Nothing surprises me anymore coming from "humans." This world is sick and unable to be fixed

 

[Rational man]

THANKS for your replies. I feared ending up like this but i seems likely that i will probably die at home or in hospital isolation. No resuscitation has been documented by power of attorney. I dont think i have long . I will miss the natural world but i wont miss the depravity of humankind. I will cease to exist.

i wish you peace for you have shown kindness in your darkest hours.

 

[toasterbath]

i honestly cannot fathom even living to that age. i've seen worse too like people not preparing for retirement and ending up dying of cancer on the streets. it's just a cruel horrible fucking world.

 

[Judy Garland]

I took care (or tried to, I'll explain) of my Grandmother for three years, while she had Alzheimer's dementia. I loved her very much, and often kissed and hugged her (even though she was not used to that kind of affection). She was my little baby. At times, I was not well, and toward the end of me taking care of her, I was heartbroken because someone had left me and it ripped me apart. During this time, I became physically and verbally abusive, and I didn't mean to. You asked how can someone sleep at night having hurt an elderly person....it haunts me every waking moment and at night. I turned into a monster, and I loved my Grandmother very much. I lost control, and I was scared to say anything out of fear of being homeless. I'm so sorry, and this is one of the reasons why I'm going to kill myself. I tried so hard to be a good man in this life, and I failed. I loved my Grandmother so much, and I failed her. I was at my sickest, worst moment in the last few months I took care of her. I hope she can forgive me, for I wanted to be good for her.
If I end up a vegetable dealing with abuse, then I deserve it. I just hope I can finally go home and end my suffering. It won't be long.

 

[rationaltake]

I took care (or tried to, I'll explain) of my Grandmother for three years, while she had Alzheimer's dementia. I loved her very much, and often kissed and hugged her (even though she was not used to that kind of affection). She was my little baby. At times, I was not well, and toward the end of me taking care of her, I was heartbroken because someone had left me and it ripped me apart. During this time, I became physically and verbally abusive, and I didn't mean to. You asked how can someone sleep at night having hurt an elderly person....it haunts me every waking moment and at night. I turned into a monster, and I loved my Grandmother very much. I lost control, and I was scared to say anything out of fear of being homeless. I'm so sorry, and this is one of the reasons why I'm going to kill myself. I tried so hard to be a good man in this life, and I failed. I loved my Grandmother so much, and I failed her. I was at my sickest, worst moment in the last few months I took care of her. I hope she can forgive me, for I wanted to be good for her.
If I end up a vegetable dealing with abuse, then I deserve it. I just hope I can finally go home and end my suffering. It won't be long.

You're very brave to be so brutally honest. I understand how much it hurts. You were in an extreme situation. I'm haunted by certain things I can never change. I'm sorry you're suffering.

 

[toasterbath]

I took care (or tried to, I'll explain) of my Grandmother for three years, while she had Alzheimer's dementia. I loved her very much, and often kissed and hugged her (even though she was not used to that kind of affection). She was my little baby. At times, I was not well, and toward the end of me taking care of her, I was heartbroken because someone had left me and it ripped me apart. During this time, I became physically and verbally abusive, and I didn't mean to. You asked how can someone sleep at night having hurt an elderly person....it haunts me every waking moment and at night. I turned into a monster, and I loved my Grandmother very much. I lost control, and I was scared to say anything out of fear of being homeless. I'm so sorry, and this is one of the reasons why I'm going to kill myself. I tried so hard to be a good man in this life, and I failed. I loved my Grandmother so much, and I failed her. I was at my sickest, worst moment in the last few months I took care of her. I hope she can forgive me, for I wanted to be good for her.
If I end up a vegetable dealing with abuse, then I deserve it. I just hope I can finally go home and end my suffering. It won't be long.

Please don't be too hard on yourself. You are not a monster. It's extremely exhausting being a caregiver and the stress adds up. There are even people with mental illness that become violent to loved ones and they don't mean too but stuff like that happens.

 

[rationaltake]

THANKS for your replies. I feared ending up like this but i seems likely that i will probably die at home or in hospital isolation. No resuscitation has been documented by power of attorney. I dont think i have long . I will miss the natural world but i wont miss the depravity of humankind. I will cease to exist.

i wish you peace for you have shown kindness in your darkest hours.

I hope you're experiencing the kindness you deserve. I hope your cat brings you comfort. I wish you peace.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

This is one of the biggest reasons I'm getting the hell out of here. I'm already alone and can't fathom how it would be in a convalescent home with absolutely no one to look out for me except the people who work there. Nope. Count me out. I've been to bad movies before and have gotten up and left. It's no different in life. I've been trapped in this bad movie of my life long enough and really don't care to see how it all ends. I just need to step it up and get out before something bad happens to me health-wise, whereby I may not be able to make a choice, anymore.

 

[Rational man]

I hope you're experiencing the kindness you deserve. I hope your cat brings you comfort. I wish you peace.

Thank you❤

 

[Smart No More]

I trained in care. I have to say, it's a privatised system and it's so easy to get work in it. Carers are just commodities to the businesses that serve the care system. Pay is low and work is tough. There are a few decent paying positions but they're few and far between and they do requires a lot of work. It's a brutal system foe both carer and cared for. It's all about money and the care is a mere formality which is timed and doled out in just the riggt size portions to cover the legal requirements for the paperwork. Safeguarding is a buzz word thrown around and it's really about safefuarding the company from litigation. You're not even allowed to pick a patient up and carry them out of a burning building because it can be considered assault. You're expected to leave them there and exit the property and wait for help to arrive. Abuse is rife in care. Not just elderly or paliative care but amongst youth hostels and the likes. Girls get preyed on and nobody will listen to their accusations. There's cases of girls being routinely raped or groomed and some hostels are like the go to places for it. Of course it's not just girls. Young lads get groomed and molested and leave the system really messed up and either end up in and out of prison or dead. It's a grimy world we live in where the main focus is put on leisure activities, personal gain, narcissistic pursuits, sex and consumerism. Cursory glances are given to various topics but priorities are way out of whack. It's not sexy enough to give a shit about elderly people or children with problematic upbringings that are stuck in a system where the things put in place to help actually harm them more than leaving them to their own devices.


Sorry for the wall of text.

 

[Rational man]

I trained in care. I have to say, it's a privatised system and it's so easy to get work in it. Carers are just commodities to the businesses that serve the care system. Pay is low and work is tough. There are a few decent paying positions but they're few and far between and they do requires a lot of work. It's a brutal system foe both carer and cared for. It's all about money and the care is a mere formality which is timed and doled out in just the riggt size portions to cover the legal requirements for the paperwork. Safeguarding is a buzz word thrown around and it's really about safefuarding the company from litigation. You're not even allowed to pick a patient up and carry them out of a burning building because it can be considered assault. You're expected to leave them there and exit the property and wait for help to arrive. Abuse is rife in care. Not just elderly or paliative care but amongst youth hostels and the likes. Girls get preyed on and nobody will listen to their accusations. There's cases of girls being routinely raped or groomed and some hostels are like the go to places for it. Of course it's not just girls. Young lads get groomed and molested and leave the system really messed up and either end up in and out of prison or dead. It's a grimy world we live in where the main focus is put on leisure activities, personal gain, narcissistic pursuits, sex and consumerism. Cursory glances are given to various topics but priorities are way out of whack. It's not sexy enough to give a shit about elderly people or children with problematic upbringings that are stuck in a system where the things put in place to help actually harm them more than leaving them to their own devices.


Sorry for the wall of text.

truly appalling situation, thanks. There was even a case where a woman with severe illness refused treatment because she wanted to die Her family took court action in an attempt to enforce treatment..Fortunately, she died beforehand. Its shocking too that an undercover agency was sent in to investigate the other care home. Its seems to me that behind closed doors, anything goes. Im of sound mind ( i think ), but i would see myself as a prisoner akin to the nazi camps, tortured to remain alive in this planet a brutal , hell bound by desperate humans clinging to life. Who needs 'Dantes inferno' when you have old age and sickness to look forward to.

 

[annique]

Empower men and discover who they really are, even if that power doesn't have a wide reach (as is the case with the power of politicians). In care homes, caregivers have power over the lives of patients, and so they can do whatever they want with them. Unfortunately, it seems to be part of human nature, with a few exceptions.

 

[Smart No More]

truly appalling situation, thanks. There was even a case where a woman with severe illness refused treatment because she wanted to die Her family took court action in an attempt to enforce treatment..Fortunately, she died beforehand. Its shocking too that an undercover agency was sent in to investigate the other care home. Its seems to me that behind closed doors, anything goes. Im of sound mind ( i think ), but i would see myself as a prisoner akin to the nazi camps, tortured to remain alive in this planet a brutal , hell bound by desperate humans clinging to life. Who needs 'Dantes inferno' when you have old age and sickness to look forward to.

I think it's dangerous too that the carers arw the ones who fill out the paperwork so it's totally open for corruption. There's little culpability as everything is geared towards avoiding it and if you report something it's not in your best interests because the private companies create the opposite of a safe space whilst claiming othwrwise.

Like you say, behind closed doors. Out of signt out of mind. It's pot luck what you get in your carer. Some are wonderdul people with big problems of their own but for everyone of them there's 3 or 4 people just desperate for work and doing the bare minimum for a wage.