Discussion Can you have fun?

[B3rry]

As of writing this I'm with my family, we're with about 11 people including me. And it seems like every has fun, but I can't.
I just can't have fun anymore. I'm here drinking and waiting for the time to pass.
I kinda feel like I don't fit into this family or in life in general tbh.
Just wanted to know if you feel the same and what you do about such situations?

 

[Xerxes]

I don't work well in social situations with large groups of people. It's so awkward and draining that I start to lose it a bit. I make short talk here and there, but other than that I feel like an outsider. Or a sad social wannabe that wants to be included, but can't because people say I'm that weird quiet guy with nothing interesting to say.

 

[Retched]

I lost what fun means. I have the worst fake laugh at work as well. It is forced and very awkward. I'm sick of hearing it and faking it.

 

[Djinn]

Yeah same, nothing gives me joy anymore. It's really sad... havent always been like this either.

Sorry man.

 

[Eden2k]

All replies describe how I feel perfectly.

 

[Crest33]

I still can enjoy myself and have great moments. But it's almost always on my own. Makes me very sad. I somehow can't really amuse me around my family.

 

[Lara Francis]

As of writing this I'm with my family, we're with about 11 people including me. And it seems like every has fun, but I can't.
I just can't have fun anymore. I'm here drinking and waiting for the time to pass.
I kinda feel like I don't fit into this family or in life in general tbh.
Just wanted to know if you feel the same and what you do about such situations?

Can you remind me what the word fun means !

 

[OkTotti]

no fun.. just fake smiles and laughter....

 

[YellowJasmine]

Absolutely nothing gives me any sort of neither joy nor relief, I haven't the capacity for it any longer. I don't see myself as depressed but so severely traumatized that I have detached myself from letting myself feel anything good for fear of losing it again - just around the corner. It's a sort of safety mechanism. I don't let hope arise, I'd rather be hopeless than experience losing hope again.

 

[Xerxes]

Absolutely nothing gives me any sort of neither joy nor relief, I haven't the capacity for it any longer. I don't see myself as depressed but so severely traumatized that I have detached myself from letting myself feel anything good for fear of losing it again - just around the corner. It's a sort of safety mechanism. I don't let hope arise, I'd rather be hopeless than experience losing hope again.

How I feel most days. I'm scared of being happy because it always ends. It doesn't end abruptly, but it does a crash and burn. My brain isn't wired to handle happiness cause then I develop a sense of arrogance and become an asshole. I try not to hold onto hope or happiness.

 

[bigj75]

It's coping at this point. Doing things that give you the temporary feeling of fun but knowing your screwed no matter what you do.

 

[Final Escape]

Yes sometimes I have fun. Not often enough though. Mostly my life is not fun, it's a horror show lol!

 

[Red star]

As of writing this I'm with my family, we're with about 11 people including me. And it seems like every has fun, but I can't.
I just can't have fun anymore. I'm here drinking and waiting for the time to pass.
I kinda feel like I don't fit into this family or in life in general tbh.
Just wanted to know if you feel the same and what you do about such situations?

Are you still able to have fun when you feel safe and comfortable?

Sounds like you're feeling alienated. To answer your question yes I've felt that too and is why I haven't seen my relatives since my teens.

 

[Final Escape]

It's coping at this point. Doing things that give you the temporary feeling of fun but knowing your screwed no matter what you do.

This is more what I meant when I say I have fun sometimes. It's as though I can't fully immerse myself in the fun knowing impending doom is lurking just around the corner daily.

 

[Watson]

I only know how to fake-fun.
Forgotten what real-fun is or feels like.

 

[Meeseeks]

I'm drunk with some old friends right now and it's nice to be around people. But damn I'm not close to anyone anymore and it shows. Although I'm lucky to have some people, which I am, I feel like an outsider. Guess I'll pour another.

 

[TAW122]

I don't work well in social situations with large groups of people. It's so awkward and draining that I start to lose it a bit. I make short talk here and there, but other than that I feel like an outsider. Or a sad social wannabe that wants to be included, but can't because people say I'm that weird quiet guy with nothing interesting to say.

Same here. I've been in social situations with large groups of people, and I'm pretty much isolated. There is occasionally one or two people who would try to converse with me, but it's usually only a few lines and then after that nothing much. I quickly learned that I'm just a boring, mundane person.

 

[LostGirl]

No, I have lost interest in everything. The only bit of "fun" is when I cuddle with my bf. But lately, I had to distance myself from him so that he wouldn't be too attached to me when I am gone. It's terribly hard to purposely distance oneself from loved ones but I think it's needed and owed.

 

[Misanthrope]

I can get a sort of enjoyment by proxy. If I see others enjoying themselves it is like I can appreciate that even if I don't feel it personally myself.

 

[Tyuiop]

Christmas parties with family aren't really fun for most people I think. Except for grandparents and other old people. I tend to avoid them, if they're drinking, I drink some too and then go to my own room. I watch stuff on youtube when I want to have fun... I used to have fun friends, but they are long gone.

 

[stargazer]

Grin and bear it, that's the only advice.

That, and try to keep up a good facade. I've been doing it for many many years now. It's know different from school or work, just try enough to fit in, but don't exhaust yourself.

Like what I do.

Plus, ideation, which is a constant hobby for me now, helps keep my euphoria high, because unbeknownst to others, I'm known I don't "worry" about the future, because of eventual CTB, but in saying that:

Never give yourself away. It can so easily happen, even a misspoken word at the wrong time to the wrong person. Phew.

 

[okyeah]

I feel physically unable to have fun. Eating is kinda fun I guess.

 

[LiveSlowDieFast]

What fun I have always feels extremely shallow and there is always this feeling of emptiness that surrounds me. I always feel separate from everyone around me.

 

[iceman]

I know exactly how you feel, I struggle to find any joy in life now, and as LiveSlowDieFast said then any fun I do have is fleeting and feels shallow. I cope with it by holding onto my ctb plans and knowing that soon that won't be a problem.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

What is this mystery called "fun"? I'm too alienated and disconnected from people to be able to enjoy their company. If I'm in a large group I don't talk much because if I try I get ignored anyway. My abusive parents beat any fun out of me a long time ago. I used to get mocked if I laughed. Also, the fuckers brainwashed me to drift through life like a ghost that's neither seen nor heard.

 

[Midnight]

True fun ... Sounds like something that i maybe experienced 15 years ago. Can't remember.

 

[Karl]

i feel

 

[Eden2k]

A big fat NO!
What is this word FUN? Where is my dictionary when I need it.

 

[therhydler]

No

 

[netrezven]

Everybody on these big family gatherings does not have fun. They only react as if they are having fun. If you are really excited and happy about it - then your life definitely sux. Holidays are not something to be hated so much, but not a big deal at all. Life /or at least acts and results/ keep going on after christmas and new year.