Being single has caused me to lose my sanity and now everything

[EvisceratedJester]

I am not offended over anything you say to be honest, you are just really really unpleasant to have a conversation with because you want to attack me for no reason, I am not here to have a bad time or to argue with people. I was not offending anyone so I don't really understand why you keep doing that. Instead of being so aggressive all the time you could start by thinking that on this side of the screen there isn't the bad person you think there is. I am not a monster I don't know why you start with an attack every time.

One, you aren't being attacked. Being called out isn't the same as being attacked. Calm down.

Secondly, it isn't that hard to actually analyze your racial biases instead of pretending as though someone is coming after you online. I would argue that it's much easier and more productive, tbh.

You are claiming not to be offended while acting offended and as though you are being attacked. Just like last time, when you decided to insult me and called me garbage after I called you out on your claim about women not really wanting to be loved, or whatever. How about you actually listen to what I am saying and let it marinate for a bit instead of getting upset?

 

[Ozzyno]

One, you aren't being attacked. Being called out isn't the same as being attacked. Calm down.

Secondly, it isn't that hard to actually analyze your racial biases instead of pretending as though someone is coming after you online. I would argue that it's much easier and more productive, tbh.

You are claiming not to be offended while acting offended and as though you are being attacked. Just like last time, when you decided to insult me and called me garbage after I called you out on your claim about women not really wanting to be loved or respected, or whatever. How about you actually listen to what I am saying and let it marinate for a bit instead of getting upset?

Racism was not the topic about what I was trying to say to the person opening this thread, I told her that in my opinion the fact that she is black in the UK could be problematic for her dating life.

I wanted to add a reason (my opinion, not facts) for that but since you are here to do the police of SS you had to intervene and save the day.

I am not upset. I've seen many many black women and I just don't like most of them physically, just like I don't like blondes. That means I cannot find a black woman or a blonde attractive? Absolutely not. They are not my type and I THINK most Europeans have the same opinion on black women.

I feel attacked by you and when I read your messages when you quote me I find them unpleasant, that doesn't mean I am offended. I wrote a message about attraction and you responded to me telling me I am racist, of course you are attacking. I am not offended I know what I am.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Racism was not the topic about what I was trying to say to the person opening this thread, I told her that in my opinion the fact that she is black in the UK could be problematic for her dating life.

I wanted to add a reason (my opinion, not facts) for that but since you are here to do the police of SS you had to intervene and save the day.

I am not upset. I've seen many many black women and I just don't like most of them physically, just like I don't like blondes. That means I cannot find a black woman or a blonde attractive? Absolutely not. They are not my type and I THINK most Europeans have the same opinion on black women.

You made a comment about her race being a deal breaker for most men and then stated that it wasn't racist. It is racist. That's the issue here. You are denying the fact that something that is clearly racist is racist. I'm allowed to call out the fact that it is racist. That's not me policing shit, that's me calling out something for what it is. You seem to prefer rationalizing shit rather than actually confronting it for what it is.

 

[Ozzyno]

You made a comment about her race being a deal breaker for most men and then stated that it wasn't racist. It is racist. That's the issue here. You are denying the fact that something that is clearly racist is racist. I'm allowed to call out the fact that it is racist. That's not me policing shit, that's me calling out something for what it is. You seem to prefer rationalizing shit rather than actually confronting it for what it is.

Again, I probably expressed myself badly with the word dealbreaker because this is not my first language, I am sorry for this. I wanted to say that many many men in the UK don't like black women physically, it's not a dealbreaker because she is black, but I am pointing out that many men don't like black women in Europe.

Probably some of them are racist, but a lot of them just don't find MOST OF THEM attractive. I hope I made myself clear.

 

[arandomname]

I am sorry for the situation you are in. I completely understand you, although my problem is of a completely different nature. I lost my beloved wife because I broke up with her several times, which disappointed and angered her. All our breakups were purely the result of mistakes in communication, however now everything seems completely lost. No, I really don't have a problem with finding another person, nor with that person falling in love with me and loving me, my problem is that I am not able to love and to really want another woman besides her and she is now completely unavailable to me, although somewhere I feel that she is not indifferent to me either, but her anger is what keeps her away from me and makes the whole thing almost impossible. No matter how much I try, in all possible ways , to get her back, nothing has worked and I know that I cannot turn away from her in any way. My life without her has completely lost all meaning.

I know this feeling, I'm capable of finding someone else who can love me but the problem lies with my lack of interest in anyone else. Losing her and knowing I won't find that same connection with someone else is one of the main reasons to ctb. It's not just the person you've lost but also the future you had with them.

 

[Marco77]

You have to be content if you want to live, understanding that everything will always be precarious and unsatisfactory. Here, whoever likes this situation stays here. I don't like it and I can't wait to leave. Everything that exists in the world is disgusting.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

You're not a racist if you're not physically attracted to a skin colour.

But stating ' most European man are attracted to white women ' isn't oke. Loads of people of color live ( and where born) in Europe, which makes them European.

If you state such claims, back then up.

This topic wasn't about that anyway. Please stay on topic.