Venting can you hate your life but at the same time be grateful it isn’t worse?

[memento-mori]

 

[5er50ji]

I feel like this a lot and then feel guilty for being suicidal because things could definitely be worse.

 

[CatLvr]

Yes. What you have described seems to be my default mode.

 

[catsalvation]

Yes, I think so. I feel similarly

 

[Unlucky777]

This is true for me and my sister always says "other people have it a lot worse than you" which is very true. Everyone has different struggles and some have it worse than others, at times in other ways. But that doesn't negate the fact that I hate life and I'm being forced into existing. I genuinely don't want to be here

 

[memento-mori]

i just hate my life so much and then looking back i feel nostalgic even if i didn't think of my life as being particularly good at that time

 

[lost in the lilies]

I think that's a perfectly reasonable state to be in and that neither thing excludes the other. I certainly feel this way, probably most of the time. At least any time that I'm made aware of the fact that, although I very much dislike the place I find myself in, it could certainly be a lot worse and I very well could be in a greater deal of pain and despair

 

[calebzz1]

I would say that it is possible.

I hate my visual impairment to the core and how it has made living a lot more difficult but what helps is thinking rhat it could be worse in a lot of different ways.

I could be fully blind, deaf or be in chronic pain for example.

 

[Tired_birth_1967]

This is perfectly normal. Faced with life, a meaningless mechanism indifferent to everything, the feeling of powerlessness leads to this kind of sentiment. Against life we can do nothing except fear. Our mind tries to create all sorts of situations aimed at self-protection. One of them is being grateful for not suffering more than it already does. This is just another aspect of how meaningless life is. Grateful for what? To whom? There is no answer to this, only fear. The feeling that governs existence is fear. It has always been this way, since our ancestors were afraid of thunder. With evolution over the centuries, we now only have more elaborate fears. We are just cogs in this indifferent mechanism. And until death ends this process, it will be like this. Death will come naturally, so don't worry if you can't end this thing we are in by chance. I never forget that any kind of pain and suffering, mental or physical, only occurs while there is life. Death ends this nefarious process of pain. It is no coincidence that reaching death is so difficult. Death is the only truly good thing. For those who don't have access or don't want to end the process on their own, don't worry. This will end.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Yes. I think pity for ourselves doesn't mean we don't also pity other people and even recognise they have it worse. We may even fear our own situation becoming worse than it is.

I find it weird when people use that phrase- trying to guilt us into feeling grateful. Like- absolutely other people are suffering. Many will be suffering more than me. Doesn't that support my feeling that life is shit for lots of people, for lots of reasons? Including me?

It's also kind of bizarre. Like me being grateful for only having first world problems will somehow help all the poor souls having third world problems? It doesn't work like that.

Maybe the better thing would be to ask them what they're doing to alleviate the suffering of all the people who are having a harder time than us. For a lot, I imagine they're doing nothing. Asides from admiring how well they are coping with their truly terrible lot in life.

 

[Dinozauria]

I feel like that most days and apparently, from what I've heard online, it's a really common feeling. So yes, you can hate your life and be grateful it isn't worse at the same time :)

 

[hurb]

it can always get worse , doesnt mean it isn't bad

 

[doomedbynarrative]

Yes. Your feelings are valid.