Biggest regrets

[mr.smileysad]

What are some of your biggest regrets in life or things you wish you hadn't done or hadn't happened to you?

 

[ArteriesBindEveryon]

The obvious answer is being born in the first place. My biggest regret of my own actions is telling my doctor I wanted to be euthanized, which got me locked in a facility and put on some meds on a whim that I'm not sure even helped at all. If it weren't for that incident, perhaps I'd still be in therapy and have made progress. Unfortunately, all I got out of the ordeal was a brutal distrust of the mental health system.

 

[chester]

What are some of your biggest regrets in life or things you wish you hadn't done or hadn't happened to you?

I wish I found a way to convince my fiancee to go to the doctor much earlier than she eventually did. She didn't want to go when first symptoms started showing, she said she was fine. I should have told her that I'll be there for her no matter what happens and she doesn't have to be afraid. Instead, she began hiding her symptoms so that I won't pressure her to go to the doctor. She was afraid and I couldn't show her the support she needed. This delayed her treatment by months, before I eventually convinced her. She could live if I offered her the support she needed. I failed at being the partner she needed. Now she's dead and all that's left for me is guilt.

 

[Ethernatuskoi]

To be born. If I had known that life would be so horrible, I would prefer never to have come into the world and continue in non-existence.

 

[brokeandbroken]

What are some of your biggest regrets in life or things you wish you hadn't done or hadn't happened to you?

I regret believing people were generally good. I also regret believing if you were the victim of a life destroying crime you would in fact get help at least in the west. Turns out neither are true. To be clear help could also mean you have no case. Hasn't been told to me in fact if anything the opposite.

 

[anon554]

Letting my family know of my thoughts.

 

[Kamchatki]

Whatever caused my Tinnitus.
I have no idea it could be literally anything. Too many loud concerts, playing with explosives as a teen, sniffing gasoline as a teen, smashing my head against the wall, doing drugs.
I don't know what caused it, but i sure as hell know it's my fault and i don't think I'm ever gonna forgive myself for robbing myself of silence. I can honestly cope with the noise, but not so much with the fact that it's there and that it's all my fault.
Anywho, peace and love

 

[whywere]

That I never found a lady to live life with and to be able to sit on the beach and watch the sunset, REALLY miss that and having 1 child would have been nice.

Walter

 

[AllHopeIsLost]

Taking my perfect life for granted. I had everything you could wish for. Now after making careless mistakes and ruining my health I have nothing. All gone. Only unbearable regret is left.

 

[Lady Laudanum]

I wish I never physically recovered from my ED. I had my first onset of PTSD shortly after getting to a more reasonable weight from being dangerously underweight. PTSD makes my life absolute hell. I preferred the brain fog from starvation.

 

[Hanaga]

Listening to my family and allowing their opinions to influence my decisions. Believing all that 'older people are smarter than you and you must listen to them' bullshit. All my biggest mistakes in life were made because they gaslighted me into thinking that my wishes and dreams are inadequate and I'm crazy while they are perfectly normal people (they aren't).

 

[Forever Sleep]

I should have made more effort to keep in touch with a few people that did so much for me in my life. I became obsessed with work as a coping mechanism to the neglect of everything else- including them. And, a few died likely realising how selfish I was.

My first degree wasn't the best choice either although, it made sense at the time. I probably should have studied a trade too- to be more employable although, the likelihood is, that wouldn't have made me any happier. The reverse most likely.

I probably should have been more honest about what was going on in my childhood. (Likely narcissistic abuse.) Maybe it would have made a difference although again, probably not.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

What are some of your biggest regrets in life or things you wish you hadn't done or hadn't happened to you?

I would say I don't really regret anything in my life and what I decided to do at certain crucial points in my life that ultimately led to the fact that I failed and I made an account here. That's bc the outcome could have been the opposite!

We make decisions in our lives but ultimately no one ever knows the future and what's gonna happen - it's either we're lucky or we're not.

 

[lizzywizzy09]

Not conquering my health problems at a young age and not getting away from my circus of a family the second I was able to go off on my own.

 

[LostinTime24]

Had everything I wanted in life but due to some poor choices I made followed by mental health problems that went untreated for a while I have nothing. Life ended for me I'm alive thoe just lost at this point.

 

[Gangrel]

Being a shit person in the past.

 

[max_vader2]

I wish I found a way to convince my fiancee to go to the doctor much earlier than she eventually did. She didn't want to go when first symptoms started showing, she said she was fine. I should have told her that I'll be there for her no matter what happens and she doesn't have to be afraid. Instead, she began hiding her symptoms so that I won't pressure her to go to the doctor. She was afraid and I couldn't show her the support she needed. This delayed her treatment by months, before I eventually convinced her. She could live if I offered her the support she needed. I failed at being the partner she needed. Now she's dead and all that's left for me is guilt.

That's a real heavy bag to carry

I hope you can learn to forgive yourself. I would like to tell you that everything it's gonna be ok....

I hope that, with time, you'll be able to lessen the weight of that bag

 

[FuneralCry]

Existing in the first place, more than anything I wish I was never brought into this cruel, torturous existence that was completely undesirable but sadly I was and I suffer so much as a result of it, I certainly regret existing at all, in fact I found it tragic how I had to exist especially as existence was completely unnecessary and it isn't like I could have been harmed by never existing at all, there truly is so much pain in existing, I wish I had the option of a death like never waking again to bring me peace from all this terrible suffering.

 

[Steff1337]

I regret that I didn't CTB when things in my life became unbearable and irreversible.

 

[whaleandwasp]

I wish I found a way to convince my fiancee to go to the doctor much earlier than she eventually did. She didn't want to go when first symptoms started showing, she said she was fine. I should have told her that I'll be there for her no matter what happens and she doesn't have to be afraid. Instead, she began hiding her symptoms so that I won't pressure her to go to the doctor. She was afraid and I couldn't show her the support she needed. This delayed her treatment by months, before I eventually convinced her. She could live if I offered her the support she needed. I failed at being the partner she needed. Now she's dead and all that's left for me is guilt.

If I may ask, what were the symptoms and what type of disease did your fiancé end up having? I am going through something similar now. Maybe your story can help others. I'm sorry for what you've gone through and the guilt you carry. I lost my fiancé too, and have carried guilt too. It's only natural to blame ourselves when we lose a partner, spouse, or child.

 

[Eole2.0]

I throuths long time to be born was a fail but now I know what a kid can do for his moment. All my life was a fail except when I defend her to my genitor... And my biggest regret today : Having released my blows when once again I defended my mother because today she still suffers

 

[voc_89]

trusting people

 

[badtothebone]

What are some of your biggest regrets in life or things you wish you hadn't done or hadn't happened to you?

I regret arguing with my son a day before he died. I told him "you're not going out with those old shoes right?" He got mad and said "why? I like then" and it continued I told him " you have 4 boxes of Nike why you're not wearing them!? He liked adidas and I was wrong in the argument.. I think if I was more respectful and sensitive and instead of being sarcastic I should've said "why don't you try one of the new shoes you have?" The next day my son was dead.

 

[username12345]

What are some of your biggest regrets in life or things you wish you hadn't done or hadn't happened to you?

I wish I didn't have to leave college, I wish I didn't think so highly of my family and trust them over and over. I wish I hadn't moved to the places I did or come across certain people. I don't regret transitioning or trying to help myself but I regret underestimating how much cis people will ruin your life and enjoy doing it.

 

[tb1998]

I feel like I have a fair few.
So I regret going back to someone's house when my friend at the time said they were ' weird'. Had I avoided this I'd have saved myself a lot of trauma.

I also regret cheating on my ex girlfriend, her friend liked me who also was in a relationship at the time. And we flirted and kissed a lot.
actually I think that's my top two because in all honesty some things you just have to accept that they put you onto a different or a better path.

 

[FlufflesAway]

As a selective-mute I regret not being kinder to other people. Not being able to talk to them. Not being present. Being stuck in head all the time. Avoiding everyone. They probably thought I didn't like them... I regret being me.