Yeah. I was having daily conversations by phone for a few months with someone from here, getting to know them, that kind of thing. Things were going well for quite some time. As the conversations went on, it became clearer and clearer that we had a disconnect. They wanted to CTB pretty much right now, and I wasn't quite ready as I still had things, important things to me, that I needed to take care of before I go. This person, also, was a bit conniving, in that they read through many of my postings, picking up on key things that I said in them, and then using those things in order to create a stronger "bond" between us by expressing those things, when able in conversations, as a commonality between us. Don't get me wrong, I believe with every fiber of my being that the person I was conversing with is a very decent, loving, kind-hearted person. I just think they, because of their desperate situation, was out to use any means necessary in the hopes that it would, somehow, speed things up on my end. Suffice it to say we ended up discontinuing our conversations.
Another thing that was of concern to me in this "relationship" was the difference in our localities. I would have had to travel to where they were, which wasn't really that big of deal by itself, although it did create some issues. Having my body returned to my locale was definitely a concern for me, since I really have no one to take care of that kind of thing. The biggest issue, though, I had, and that I was trying to, at least, work out in my mind, was the issue of potentially having my estate sued over having helped this person to CTB. I was going to be supplying everything for our CTB, in their locality, even picking them up from where they're living and taking them to a rented AirBNB somewhere in the area. I studied enough pre-law in college to know that this scenario easily is a potential cause-of-action against me, or in the case that I successfully died, my estate, by the family of this other person, should they decide to do that. There's no way to know who will, or won't, sue in a situation like this. Even if they weren't successful with a lawsuit, an estate is obligated to defend against any lawsuits, and any small value that I have in my estate when I pass would have been eaten up very quickly by lawyer fees and other expenses defending against the suit. I set my will up so that when I pass, whatever is left after expenses goes to St. Jude Children's Hospital, since I have no relatives to leave anything to. I don't have that much, and I just found it difficult to reconcile the fears of what I described happening and a bunch of lawyers padding their wallets.
So, if anyone has a little bit of monetary worth, and you want it to go to some place specific after you die, keep it in mind that if you partner up with someone, even if you don't help them directly CTB, but merely because you partner up, that present a golden opportunity for their family to sue your estate. Even if they don't win the suit, it's still going to eat up a lot of resources in your estate defending the suit. And to be fair, even your own family can sue the other party for the same reasons. Furthermore, if one of the partners survives, that could be even more trouble in the form of criminal trouble. I'm not saying this to dissuade anyone from partnering up. I just think it's important to have all the facts before anyone makes any decisions. If neither partner has anything, there really shouldn't be a problem. But, how do you know for sure?
