Autism diagnosis

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Hello, I haven't posted here for a while mainly because I'm currently sectioned in a psychiatric hospital. I was trying to see the positive of this situation and accept help since there's nothing else I can really do.

I was diagnosed with autism a couple months ago while in the psych ward and it's been really hard to come to terms with it. I'm 21 years old so this is a late diagnosis but it explains a lot from my years at school, struggling to fit in, and always being the odd one out.

I thought maybe this could change and now that I know I'm autistic things would be easier because I know what I can't cope with. But I was wrong. Autism won't change, it can't be cured or treated, it just is what it is. I'll be like this forever. I don't want to continue with this life if I'm autistic. Things will never get better, will they?

I was wondering if anyone else here with autism can relate and maybe share some advice because right now I'm not sure I'll make it to Christmas.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

I also got a late diagnosis. You're right, it doesn't help at all. I'm not really coping with it, either; not being able to study, work or have a gf basically makes life worthless.

 

[Nolife33]

Also got a late diagnoses, turns out I have fully blown autism along with my other mental deficits. I can't help you, I can't even help myself. Ever tried therapy?

 

[Thatdude]

I hate to say it, but autism is basically a gun to the head for many. We have THE highest suicide rate among all other groups. In fact, high functioning autistic skyrockets this number. We have some of the highest unemployment numbers with many of us physically/mentally being able to work but society won't let us. And because of that we have some of the highest numbers of homeless or depending on family to live.
Our average lifespan is 36 years old and the biggest killer is suicide.

Some of us do make it, so please note this. But the odds aren't in our favor. Much of it is purely from society social culture. Where if you don't fit in, if you have a hint of a hard time, if you're different then you're screwed. Some parts of the world on top of terminally ill they will help in dying, they will offer the same services to autistic people if we want it.

My suggestion is try. Like give it a real try but know you always have this in your back pocket. The reason why I say try is when you do this and if you're successful, you will not come back. Where if you give it a hard push then best case it might work out. For me I did, I found it didn't work out, it broke me, and now I'm hopefully going to be dead soon.

 

[fox_wannabe]

Hello, I haven't posted here for a while mainly because I'm currently sectioned in a psychiatric hospital. I was trying to see the positive of this situation and accept help since there's nothing else I can really do.

I was diagnosed with autism a couple months ago while in the psych ward and it's been really hard to come to terms with it. I'm 21 years old so this is a late diagnosis but it explains a lot from my years at school, struggling to fit in, and always being the odd one out.

I thought maybe this could change and now that I know I'm autistic things would be easier because I know what I can't cope with. But I was wrong. Autism won't change, it can't be cured or treated, it just is what it is. I'll be like this forever. I don't want to continue with this life if I'm autistic. Things will never get better, will they?

I was wondering if anyone else here with autism can relate and maybe share some advice because right now I'm not sure I'll make it to Christmas.

I have aspergers so I can relate a bit. But I also am Highly sensitive person.

 

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I thought maybe this could change and now that I know I'm autistic things would be easier because I know what I can't cope with. But I was wrong. Autism won't change, it can't be cured or treated, it just is what it is. I'll be like this forever. I don't want to continue with this life if I'm autistic. Things will never get better, will they?

You know, this is the exact reason why I am reluctant to get myself tested. I have been speculating for quite some time now that I might be mildly autistic, but what good would it do to remove all doubt about it? There is no cure, no financial benefit can be derived from it, and you cannot tell yourself anymore that you are just a little eccentric.

I was wondering if anyone else here with autism can relate and maybe share some advice because right now I'm not sure I'll make it to Christmas.

Please pardon the ignorant question, but what exactly is so pressing about the matter that you cannot wait a month or two? As I understand it, you have received a most unpleasant diagnosis, but there is no immediate threat associated with it.
If you can afford the luxury of waiting things out for a while and getting your thoughts in order, it would be advisable to do so. You still appear to be in some state of shock caused by this unexpected revelation, so you should not make any rushed decisions now.
It is not my intention for this to come across as patronising preaching, and I apologise if that should be the case.

 

[Thatdude]

You know, this is the exact reason why I am reluctant to get myself tested. I have been speculating for quite some time now that I might be mildly autistic, but what good would it do to remove all doubt about it? There is no cure, no financial benefit can be derived from it, and you cannot tell yourself anymore that you are just a little eccentric.

This is why I don't understand why people want to be marked as autistic as if it is a badge of honor they can spread across social media. Or those who want to be tested for the "fun" of it.

You can't cure it, and unless if you're getting something. It can cause more harm than good. Lets assume if your workplace found out you're autistic and you knew about it before applying. Most places ask if you're disabled. While doubtful they will do anything, you did open yourself up for legal problems for "fun" of it. And if you follow the law then good luck in getting another job.

 

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You know, this is the exact reason why I am reluctant to get myself tested. I have been speculating for quite some time now that I might be mildly autistic, but what good would it do to remove all doubt about it? There is no cure, no financial benefit can be derived from it, and you cannot tell yourself anymore that you are just a little eccentric.

Please pardon the ignorant question, but what exactly is so pressing about the matter that you cannot wait a month or two? As I understand it, you have received a most unpleasant diagnosis, but there is no immediate threat associated with it.
If you can afford the luxury of waiting things out for a while and getting your thoughts in order, it would be advisable to do so. You still appear to be in some state of shock caused by this unexpected revelation, so you should not make any rushed decisions now.
It is not my intention for this to come across as patronising preaching, and I apologise if that should be the case.

I understand that it seems to be an impulsive decision, but I've been suicidal for nearly 2 years now. 6 months ago I took an overdose which is why I'm now in a psychiatric hospital. That overdose lead to the diagnosis of Autism. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I was already feeling pretty shitty about life, enough to make me attempt twice in the span of 2 months, and then I got slapped with this diagnosis and I really can't see the point in trying.

Being in the hospital means I've temporarily lost my job and source of income, I can barely afford things at the moment and am relying on parents to pay for my things such as my car and insurance. It's making me feel such a burden and it's so unfair on them. I don't see myself getting any better and that just prolongs the time I spend in here. I'm not checked on through the night between 12am and 6am, and I've identified one suitable ligature point in my room, so I have 6 hours to attempt partial hanging.

I wish I could wait and see how things turned out but I'm causing my family financial stress due to being in hospital and there's no way they will discharge me until they see signs of improvement. I've tried to fake it, but they're not stupid.

 

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This is why I don't understand why people want to be marked as autistic as if it is a badge of honor they can spread across social media. Or those who want to be tested for the "fun" of it.

Many people have an intense need for attention. They need to feel "special". All I ever wanted was to attract as little attention as possible.
I remember there once being a House episode where they found out that the physical illness a girl has been suffering from her whole life could actually be cured. Her first reaction was to refuse the treatment because then "she wouldn't be special anymore". She pretty much defined her identity over her illness at this point. She may have been forced into this position by her genetics, but other people think similarly: They lack an identity, so they try to fill this gaping hole with something else. Learning some skill requires effort and talent, so it is much easier to try to build your identity around a mental illness, especially since it is invisible.

You can't cure it, and unless if you're getting something. It can cause more harm than good. Lets assume if your workplace found out you're autistic and you knew about it before applying. Most places ask if you're disabled. While doubtful they will do anything, you did open yourself up for legal problems for "fun" of it. And if you follow the law then good luck in getting another job.

That is another reason. I don't want to end up in some registry that says I'm autistic.

I understand that it seems to be an impulsive decision, but I've been suicidal for nearly 2 years now.

I see. I apologise if my reply should have been insensitive.

Being in the hospital means I've temporarily lost my job and source of income, I can barely afford things at the moment and am relying on parents to pay for my things such as my car and insurance. It's making me feel such a burden and it's so unfair on them. I don't see myself getting any better and that just prolongs the time I spend in here. I'm not checked on through the night between 12am and 6am, and I've identified one suitable ligature point in my room, so I have 6 hours to attempt partial hanging.

I wish I could wait and see how things turned out but I'm causing my family financial stress due to being in hospital and there's no way they will discharge me until they see signs of improvement. I've tried to fake it, but they're not stupid.

Your parents chose to have you; there is no obligation to bring children into this world, but your parents still chose to do so. The least they can do is to support you financially, and you should not feel pressured to kill yourself because you think you are a burden to them.

 

[FuneralCry]

I was diagnosed when I was very young. I think autism is part of why I have always struggled in life, I am not meant for this world. Most non autistic people have little understanding of it. I'm sorry you are in this situation, whatever happens, I wish you the best.