At the bar by myself for the first time. Any advice?

[misarexic]

I decided to push myself outside of my comfort zone and went to a bar by myself. I'm going to be honest I feel completely out of my depths.

Can I talk to the bartender? Will he find that weird? Is it weird if I'm just on my phone the whole time? Is it acceptable to only buy one drink and stay for a while? Any general advice?

Sorry, I come from a family of non drinkers and usually I'm at the bar with friends. I'm also pretty anxious too idk.

 

[Lulzacruel]

just do what you want to do, everyone is too drunk to care lmao.

think of bars of being a general place for socialization or doing whatever the hell you want

 

[suicidalloser]

just do what you want to do, everyone is too drunk to care lmao.

think of bars of being a general place for socialization or doing whatever the hell you want

And die.

 

[Lulzacruel]

And die.

yeah, that too haha

 

[misarexic]

just do what you want to do, everyone is too drunk to care lmao.

think of bars of being a general place for socialization or doing whatever the hell you want

thanks, i've loosened up a little and i feel a lot better now

 

[alonely]

if you want to talk to someone, try a genuine compliment. dont expect anything in return, but if they reciprocate, it may lead into a conversation.

 

[outatime_85]

The only thing I will add is:

Do not leave your drink unattended, and if you do, don't drink from it; order a new one.

 

[aGoodDayToDie]

Just try to enjoy the atmosphere. Ordering just one drink is absolutely fine. What I'd do is try to talk to people who also look like they're on their own. Just talk about anything you can think of. Practice your small talk skills. Ask questions, try to show interest in their responses. If someone isn't easy to talk to, try either enjoying silences or talking to someone else. Yes, it's OK to just be on your phone the whole time, but you might as well take advantage of the environment and see if you can make a friend. You might get lucky and be introduced to a group by someone you talk to. I don't think the bar tender will want to be talked to much though, they have a job to do.

 

[FormerlyFe(IV)]

or doing whatever the hell you want

Can you provide some practical examples please?

I've never been to a bar (drinking culture is different in Brazil) and I also would have NO idea on what to do! Doesn't help that my brain was built wrong and I have no natural "intuition" to just go with the flow.

Heck, my nature would just to flee the place and go somewhere safe and familiar, like home or the supermarket.

 

[Murt]

It's amazing how just a smile starts a small conversation about inane stuff. There'll be people there just like you, lonely and wanting a connection. I keep trying to hold onto this idea that I get out there, be kind and good things will happen. But I am wired up wrong, it doesn't come naturally to me.