Discussion Asking friends for final wishes?

[OddOne]

Are any of you asking friends to take care of pets or follow any final wishes?

I am thinking asking my friend to connect with people in my life and let them know what happened to me. I figure I can leave him money to go to a paralegal program he has been talking about. That would compensate the labor. What do you people think I can ask of a friend? What's moral in this case?

Lastly, I've been sad. All I do is play vidya. I dont have the energy to CTB, but it has given me peace. I just need that one blow to get me angry enough to do it. Do you think most ppl CTB angry, sad, calm, or agitated?

 

[itsmeagain]

I think that maybe you should have a will if you're old enough for it not to look suspicious. If not, maybe you can use one of the delayed email/texts along with something else to tell them then, so your friends don't feel guilty for not noticing the signs when/if you decide to CTB. Maybe the note says who your stuff goes to if you can trust that they'll doll it out. I think that lots of people CTB in different emotions. the most common one i see on this site is scared, calm, and accepting.

 

[OddOne]

I think that maybe you should have a will if you're old enough for it not to look suspicious. If not, maybe you can use one of the delayed email/texts along with something else to tell them then, so your friends don't feel guilty for not noticing the signs when/if you decide to CTB. Maybe the note says who your stuff goes to if you can trust that they'll doll it out. I think that lots of people CTB in different emotions. the most common one i see on this site is scared, calm, and accepting.

I feel you on this but I want to ask him to his face. It's a big ask so it deserves to be asked in person.

 

[autumnal]

Do you mean your trusted friend will know in advance about your suicide plans? This might result in negative repurcusions for him after you depart, ranging from judgemental opinions through to possibly even prosecution.

 

[LittleJem]

I have told people I might choose to CTB and discussed with closest people what I'd like after my death. Funeral wishes (eg no religion) and also things like I want a post death FB statement, which will state that CTB is my choice to end my suffering, is rational and has been planned and longed for, for a long time. I have told eg my bf, because I don't want people surprised or blaming themselves. I think if you don't give an exact schedule, how could anyone prevent you or be held legally responsible! People tell doctors and the police they want to CTB on a regular basis. They cannot entirely prevent it

 

[OddOne]

Do you mean your trusted friend will know in advance about your suicide plans? This might result in negative repurcusions for him after you depart, ranging from judgemental opinions through to possibly even prosecution.

If someone is close to me, they know I am teetering on life and death. I dont hide it. I also make sure to not lay it thick enough to get sent to the psych ward, but I dont lie. I wish I could just be as free as a bird with it. It would be cool to plan events with my friends leading up to CTB, but we are not allowed to be that way.

I am mostly talking about prepping my friend on what to do in the event of my demise.

 

[itsmeagain]

I feel you on this but I want to ask him to his face. It's a big ask so it deserves to be asked in person.

I understand, just be sure you know about the possble consequences, OK? I'm not saying that you shouldn't go through with telling him, just make sure you know the possible outcomes. I wish you the best in your decisions <3.