Discussion Asking a friend Pre-CTB

[ManWithNoName]

Not that one has any control over anyone's actions after one ctb's, but I am considering trying to get an idea if I can rely on a friend to contact my other friends and colleagues about my self deliverance and ask him not to disclose to them it was a ctb. One way might be to spin it like a third party (not me, but someone I know).

Here is a possible way to write it:

"Bob I need your thoughts on this, will explain later, but here it goes:

What if you knew an older friend who took his life and left you a note with 1.) a short list of emails of people he knew, for you to notify and 2.) to inform them that he is dead but NOT to disclose that it was a suicide.

Would you do what he requests? Or still disclose to the people in the E-Mail that he committed suicide?"

If my friend says yes that he would honor the request, then I'm considering appointing him to be the one to contact via a delayed email with the instructions to notify my friends and colleagues—unbeknownst to him of course.

Thing is, I'm going to assume that when an American dies in Europe, that the U.S. embassy steps in and tracks down whatever family he has (I do not speak with my family which consists of only siblings—haven't for years) and informs them. I would prefer only my close friends and colleagues be notified without me biological family being notified.

Thoughts?




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[GoodPersonEffed]

Thoughts:

Speaking honestly, without varnish, your asking is obvious. I'm sorry, I know you hoped otherwise. There is no way to spin it. You may want to consider that you'll be consciously manipulating, albeit without malicious intent. It will put a burden on him. I recommend sending delayed emails to those you want contacted.

I recommend you do your research about ctb out of country. The Department of State will indeed notify your next of kin. Google death of a US citizen and the consulate of the country you're in; their website, along with the State Department website, will list the procedures for contacting next of kin and how your remains will be handled, including cremation, embalming, and repatriation procedures (returning the body to the home country).

 

[ManWithNoName]

I recommend you do your research about ctb out of country. The Department of State will indeed notify your next of kin. Google death of a US citizen and the consulate of the country you're in; their website, along with the State Department website, will list the procedures for contacting next of kin and how your remains will be handled, including cremation, embalming, and repatriation procedures (returning the body to the home country).

I did check that out and it looks as if they do notify the next of kin, and I do not want my next of kin involved in any way, which is prompting me to consider a ctb without any identification papers, smartphone, essentially 'disappearing' from the World which of course has it's own drawbacks.

 

[TAW122]

Yeah I wouldn't really ask your 'friend' about pre-CTB or death related questions. I would imagine your friend would "question" your motives or intentions and state of mind when asked those questions, especially when it is sudden, out of the blue. I agree with @GoodPersonEffed to just send delayed-emails or communications to your intended recipients as that would achieve what you are looking for.