Argument with ex

[Charmander07]

Hey,
In my last post I spoke about some things to fo with my ex.

To sum up what's just happened if rn we unblocked each other on WhatsApp and she said some very nasty things that were untrue to me such as swearing or calling me an abuser.

I'm not gonna sit here and say Ive been a good bf but she sure hasn't been a good gf this relationship so I'd personally say we are both abusers if anything, but accoriding to her that's physically impossible. Personally, I think we both did abusive things however we both didn't mean to, making us both victims and perpetrators.

I miss her so much but all I'm asking her is for an apology but she won't even reply, I'm tried joining her on a game but every time I do she leaves.

Part of me even wants her to just come back to me even know I know I shouldn't take her back after this. I just miss the old times, I love her so much.

On a serious note, none of each other want each other back and even if we did we both know it's not the right decision. She is a good person I think, but I just want an apology out of her, should I just give up on that and just block her or should I try to get her to talk to me cause I really do sympathise with her but it rlly hurt?

 

[Alpacachino]

Just speak to her. It's OK. Patch things up. You obviously feel strongly about her. Recently a friend of mine did something really bad to hurt me. We were fighting about it. And then she blocked me and stopped talking to me. I gave it some time. Thought it over and reached out to her and patched things.

Now we're buds again.

What I would say is give it one shot and then if it happens again let go.

 

[callmeskin]

Hey,
In my last post I spoke about some things to fo with my ex.

To sum up what's just happened if rn we unblocked each other on WhatsApp and she said some very nasty things that were untrue to me such as swearing or calling me an abuser.

I'm not gonna sit here and say Ive been a good bf but she sure hasn't been a good gf this relationship so I'd personally say we are both abusers if anything, but accoriding to her that's physically impossible. Personally, I think we both did abusive things however we both didn't mean to, making us both victims and perpetrators.

I miss her so much but all I'm asking her is for an apology but she won't even reply, I'm tried joining her on a game but every time I do she leaves.

Part of me even wants her to just come back to me even know I know I shouldn't take her back after this. I just miss the old times, I love her so much.

On a serious note, none of each other want each other back and even if we did we both know it's not the right decision. She is a good person I think, but I just want an apology out of her, should I just give up on that and just block her or should I try to get her to talk to me cause I really do sympathise with her but it rlly hurt?

U really have to evaluate if the yearning you are feeling is worth numbing for a little bit by getting back together. I dont know what ur relationship is like but you mentioned how you were both «abusive» and hadn't been the best towards eachother. If you believe that it could change by getting back together go for it, but latching onto relationships like that will drag your mental state down even lower than what it would be if you just missed her.

 

[Charmander07]

U really have to evaluate if the yearning you are feeling is worth numbing for a little bit by getting back together. I dont know what ur relationship is like but you mentioned how you were both «abusive» and hadn't been the best towards eachother. If you believe that it could change by getting back together go for it, but latching onto relationships like that will drag your mental state down even lower than what it would be if you just missed her.

I think I may have worded this bad, we are definitely past the point of getting back together. She hasn't wanted it this whole time and thanks to this situation, I realise that we wouldn't have worked no matter what.

I'm just wondering if it's worth putting effort in for an apology just for my own mind to be put at rest. I do love her but she just keeps ignoring me when I ask her if she's sorry or not, I'm very upset simply cause of how she makes it seem like she disregards what she did to me when she called me 'the abuser'.

That's why I so badly want an apology from her, even if we won't get together. It's just so we can leave this relationship thinking that each other are good people. I personally think she was very hurt last night for a number of personal factors and that's why she ignored me and lashed out at me.

But if it's not worth putting in the effort, I'd rather just start fully moving on now.

 

[callmeskin]

I think I may have worded this bad, we are definitely past the point of getting back together. She hasn't wanted it this whole time and thanks to this situation, I realise that we wouldn't have worked no matter what.

I'm just wondering if it's worth putting effort in for an apology just for my own mind to be put at rest. I do love her but she just keeps ignoring me when I ask her if she's sorry or not, I'm very upset simply cause of how she makes it seem like she disregards what she did to me when she called me 'the abuser'.

That's why I so badly want an apology from her, even if we won't get together. It's just so we can leave this relationship thinking that each other are good people. I personally think she was very hurt last night for a number of personal factors and that's why she ignored me and lashed out at me.

But if it's not worth putting in the effort, I'd rather just start fully moving on now.

Honestly if it would help you to feel at peace with this then apologise, doesn't really matter if she reads it or not at least u sent it and u got ur words out. Its up to her if she ends up reading it so id send the message anyway and if she ever feels like unblocking you, she will get it.

 

[Charmander07]

Honestly if it would help you to feel at peace with this then apologise, doesn't really matter if she reads it or not at least u sent it and u got ur words out. Its up to her if she ends up reading it so id send the message anyway and if she ever feels like unblocking you, she will get it.

Yeah literally right now she just blocked me right now which I'm quite disturbed by. I don't know why she couldn't just tell me she's not sorry, I feel this is a way to control me. I used to always suspect it but I hid my distrust cause I thought she wouldn't do such a thing.

I'm genuinely not even sad, I'm just so disappointed in her, I don't know how she just doesn't want to give me a response when she knows how much I care about it, let alone an apology.

She's already blocked me, but in case she's trying to control me I've also blocked her too, I feel like she's genuinely trying to manipulate me into begging again. Knowing her past self she probably likes it, which I do understand but yet it still hurts that she wants to ignore me like this.

We do have practicals together next week which will be very awkward to even have to see her face, but I'll move on. The fact she's blocked me rlly showed me that there rlly was no hope and that I shouldn't blame myself or feel guilty.

So now, all I have to worry about it my own personal problems, I'm glad I didn't fall for her lies or deception for too long although it has been 3 years already.

I still love her but she just isn't the girl I thought I fell in love with