Discussion Are there any true loners.. no family or anything

[Sundayafternoon]

How do you stave off the loneliness? Appear normal around coworkers because you can't relate to their antidotes about little Jimmy or their mother that annoys them dearly but they'd be a mess without her.

My dad is alive but we aren't close. I haven't had a hug in so long. And i could be around people i guess but i still feel lonely when i am. Like i don't fit in.

Is there anyone else that can relate?

 

[Dani Paradox]

Yeah...I can't really speak unless I'm just honest about my situation. I can't relate to anything either. Family...friendships...relationships... People start talking about stuff and I'm mostly just a listener. I'm on a whole different wavelength.

 

[Final Escape]

How do you stave off the loneliness? Appear normal around coworkers because you can't relate to their antidotes about little Jimmy or their mother that annoys them dearly but they'd be a mess without her.

My dad is alive but we aren't close. I haven't had a hug in so long. And i could be around people i guess but i still feel lonely when i am. Like i don't fit in.

Is there anyone else that can relate?

Yes I'm 41, and barely make contact with the world. It's a struggle and my mental health is not good. I moved away from family, friends, and now I'm really alone. I'm having a hard time the last few days. I have decided to try to ctb this coming week. I can't cope anymore with how I live. It's hard to put on the mask of sanity when I see people or talk to my neighbor. They have no idea they are talking with a walking dead person.

 

[TheLastStraw]

I am a loner except living with my dad and having to work

Tbh I've been alone so long, if I could just have a Dog I'd be completely content living without human interaction

 

[Red star]

Yeah though I'd probably see my dad more if our living situations were different. Right now it's twice a year. Mom is every 3 months.

 

[Circles]

Yes I'm 41, and barely make contact with the world. It's a struggle and my mental health is not good. I moved away from family, friends, and now I'm really alone. I'm having a hard time the last few days. I have decided to try to ctb this coming week. I can't cope anymore with how I live. It's hard to put on the mask of sanity when I see people or talk to my neighbor. They have no idea they are talking with a walking dead person.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I admire your determination to take control. I know my words are meaningless but I wish you peace whatever path you take. I wish I got to know you sooner, I'm sorry life has put you this far down.

 

[TAW122]

I wouldn't say I'm a true loner in the sense of no families, no acquaintances, and what not, but I'm definitely on the lonely end of the spectrum. I don't see my family often, maybe a few times during the year and for short periods of time (like Xmas, summer time, holidays) and even then, not that close. I don't really have any 'friends' currently though I live with a owner and another tenant (I don't talk to them that often either).

Also, when I go out to social events, I'm oftenly standing alone in a corner or in a crowd of people and no one really approaches me unless I approach them first. Then, I rarely, if ever manage to keep a conversation going for more than 20 seconds. I'm basically invisible to strangers and most people around me, that's how lonely I am.

 

[Xerxes]

I'm married, but still a loner. Ever since my last attempt, my wife doesn't trust me at all and has entertained the thought of divorce numerous times. Throughout my life I have felt like a loner, a good listener, and not an active person in social circles. I don't engage and I don't mind solitude. I just hate having to share my solitude with my fucked up mind and thoughts.

 

[Final Escape]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I admire your determination to take control. I know my words are meaningless but I wish you peace whatever path you take. I wish I got to know you sooner, I'm sorry life has put you this far down.

It's partly my own fault, I'm reluctant to change or find help. Nobody can help u if u don't try, or at least take initiative. I'm too bitter and resentful to seek help and allowed myself to lose the will to live. I let it go too far.

 

[Circles]

It's partly my own fault, I'm reluctant to change or find help. Nobody can help u if u don't try, or at least take initiative. I'm too bitter and resentful to seek help and allowed myself to lose the will to live. I let it go too far.

Wow this hits too close to home. I understand I don't try whatsoever because I don't want help. The kind of help I want is illegal so I'm just weighing my options knowing full well I'll never change. I'm sorry for your predicament my friend. Hope you can get some rest to ease the stress.

 

[Daystavro]

If not for my family i'd be a complete loner.
Because it's very hard for me to connect and befriend others.
I am 26 male and I have no friends and no gf.
My family are the only ones who care about me in the world.
Especially my mom.
I am sure that no one will ever care for me like my mom.
I don't think that anyone can care for you like your mom.
Even if I had a gf or wife or she will never care for me 100% like my mom.
Because it's a motherly care, it's impossible to recreate such a thing.

 

[Final Escape]

Wow this hits too close to home. I understand I don't try whatsoever because I don't want help. The kind of help I want is illegal so I'm just weighing my options knowing full well I'll never change. I'm sorry for your predicament my friend. Hope you can get some rest to ease the stress.

Thank you :) I hope you are able to find peace as well.

 

[Circles]

Thank you :) I hope you are able to find peace as well.

May I ask if you'd did try to get help do you believe it would be effective?

 

[AlePizarnik]

How do you stave off the loneliness? Appear normal around coworkers because you can't relate to their antidotes about little Jimmy or their mother that annoys them dearly but they'd be a mess without her.

My dad is alive but we aren't close. I haven't had a hug in so long. And i could be around people i guess but i still feel lonely when i am. Like i don't fit in.

Is there anyone else that can relate?

Yes, I can

 

[AlePizarnik]

It's partly my own fault, I'm reluctant to change or find help. Nobody can help u if u don't try, or at least take initiative. I'm too bitter and resentful to seek help and allowed myself to lose the will to live. I let it go too far.

Sometimes I think this about myself but then I realize there is no help and nobody cares. Who will help me? Nobody! I tried to go the a couple of psychiatrists and psychologists and they were shit!
And people only want to be friends if they can profit off you in one way or another. I'm not super pretty or have money or connections (though I wouldn't be a financial burden on anyone because I can sustain myself). So nobody cares to approach me even if I have told people around me I feel lonely. I have tried to approach them but I am tired of feeling like I'm begging for company. Gave up a couple of years ago and it's more peaceful this way.

 

[TAW122]

Sometimes I think this about myself but then I realize there is no help and nobody cares. Who will help me? Nobody! I tried to go the a couple of psychiatrists and psychologists and they were shit!
And people only want to be friends if they can profit off you in one way or another. I'm not super pretty or have money or connections (though I wouldn't be a financial burden on anyone because I can sustain myself). So nobody cares to approach me even if I have told people around me I feel lonely. I have tried to approach them but I am tired of feeling like I'm begging for company. Gave up a couple of years ago and it's more peaceful this way.

Yeah psychologists and psychiatrists are full of shit, unless you are looking for a diagnosis or getting certain drugs from them (psychiatrists). As far as finances, well I still don't have income currently so if I run out of money and no additional money from family, it will be the end for me as I'm not gonna survive homelessness and poverty. I lack the survival skills needed on the streets and in the wild. I've already given up on making friends and stuff, it's all just a pointless endeavor and not worth my time or effort.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

Yeah...I can't really speak unless I'm just honest about my situation. I can't relate to anything either. Family...friendships...relationships... People start talking about stuff and I'm mostly just a listener. I'm on a whole different wavelength.

I sometimes find myself getting almost angry when those times come up. Luke they know and I'm being mocked. I know that's not true.

I'm sorry you can relate.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

I am a loner except living with my dad and having to work

Tbh I've been alone so long, if I could just have a Dog I'd be completely content living without human interaction

Pets can help a bit. Are you not allowed one?

 

[Sundayafternoon]

Yeah though I'd probably see my dad more if our living situations were different. Right now it's twice a year. Mom is every 3 months.

I'm a little jealous!

Seriously, If you'd been used to seeing your parents frequently, I can see this being a adjustment for you.

I hope it starts to get a bit easier

 

[Sundayafternoon]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I admire your determination to take control. I know my words are meaningless but I wish you peace whatever path you take. I wish I got to know you sooner, I'm sorry life has put you this far down.

Your words are far from meaningless. You stopped to offer kind words. I'm sad and naturally sappy, so it means a lot to me. Thank you!

Wishing you the best where ever or whatever that looks like to you!

 

[Heina]

Yes I'm 41, and barely make contact with the world. It's a struggle and my mental health is not good. I moved away from family, friends, and now I'm really alone. I'm having a hard time the last few days. I have decided to try to ctb this coming week. I can't cope anymore with how I live. It's hard to put on the mask of sanity when I see people or talk to my neighbor. They have no idea they are talking with a walking dead person.

I wouldn't say I'm a true loner in the sense of no families, no acquaintances, and what not, but I'm definitely on the lonely end of the spectrum. I don't see my family often, maybe a few times during the year and for short periods of time (like Xmas, summer time, holidays) and even then, not that close. I don't really have any 'friends' currently though I live with a owner and another tenant (I don't talk to them that often either).

Also, when I go out to social events, I'm oftenly standing alone in a corner or in a crowd of people and no one really approaches me unless I approach them first. Then, I rarely, if ever manage to keep a conversation going for more than 20 seconds. I'm basically invisible to strangers and most people around me, that's how lonely I am.

The same thing happens to me, i'm happy to find you and learn i'm not the only one. If you want, you can talk to me whenever you're down or anytime.
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[Sundayafternoon]

Yeah psychologists and psychiatrists are full of shit, unless you are looking for a diagnosis or getting certain drugs from them (psychiatrists). As far as finances, well I still don't have income currently so if I run out of money and no additional money from family, it will be the end for me as I'm not gonna survive homelessness and poverty. I lack the survival skills needed on the streets and in the wild. I've already given up on making friends and stuff, it's all just a pointless endeavor and not worth my time or effort.

I agree about the psychiatrist and psychologist. They are better suited to those going through a rough patch and need a pep talk and a few mantras (only my opinion).

Trust, the one thing i know will light a fire under my ass is unemployment and the homelessness that will follow. I'm not savvy enough to make it on the streets.

Even though at one point i was extremely fascinated by the "voluntary homelessness" movement. Or simply being a vagabond. Cut off from society.

I understand giving up on friends. I can do without them myself. I get lonely for a true companion. One person that loves me more than anyone.

I hope your finances hold up as long necessary.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

Sometimes I think this about myself but then I realize there is no help and nobody cares. Who will help me? Nobody! I tried to go the a couple of psychiatrists and psychologists and they were shit!
And people only want to be friends if they can profit off you in one way or another. I'm not super pretty or have money or connections (though I wouldn't be a financial burden on anyone because I can sustain myself). So nobody cares to approach me even if I have told people around me I feel lonely. I have tried to approach them but I am tired of feeling like I'm begging for company. Gave up a couple of years ago and it's more peaceful this way.

I can't entirely relate because I've never felt i was begging for company. only love. I know I've begged for love. From family when they were around and plenty of unattainable men.

Yes, i understand. I remind myself, no one is coming to save me.

I mostly agree with your assessment on friendships. Even if you're only being used for your "uplifting attitude" the day your smile flips, they can't get laughs from you and you aren't responding to their demands to "cheer up" you're dust. You fit in so many different scenarios.

Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry you're familiar with this isolation.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

I wouldn't say I'm a true loner in the sense of no families, no acquaintances, and what not, but I'm definitely on the lonely end of the spectrum. I don't see my family often, maybe a few times during the year and for short periods of time (like Xmas, summer time, holidays) and even then, not that close. I don't really have any 'friends' currently though I live with a owner and another tenant (I don't talk to them that often either).

Also, when I go out to social events, I'm oftenly standing alone in a corner or in a crowd of people and no one really approaches me unless I approach them first. Then, I rarely, if ever manage to keep a conversation going for more than 20 seconds. I'm basically invisible to strangers and most people around me, that's how lonely I am.

Being lonely around people is just as hard if not worse than being alone and lonely.

ETA- I see you.

 

[Zarah]

It's partly my own fault, I'm reluctant to change or find help. Nobody can help u if u don't try, or at least take initiative. I'm too bitter and resentful to seek help and allowed myself to lose the will to live. I let it go too far.

Can relate to this with plenty self destruction throw in ie letting it go too far.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

I don't think that anyone can care for you like your mom.
Even if I had a gf or wife or she will never care for me 100% like my mom.
Because it's a motherly care, it's impossible to recreate such a thing.

This has been my reality for 25 years.
As crazy as it sounds, I've always fantasized about meeting someone as broken and isolated as myself. So we'd need each other.

Give your mom a hug for me. even if things aren't perfect I'm glad you have a decent one.

 

[Sundayafternoon]

May I ask if you'd did try to get help do you believe it would be effective?

I've tried and no. I'm soul weary. First bout of "depression" was at 10. They've Benn like clock work since. The docs I've come across have no idea how to treat cptsd or attachment issues. Not to mention the issues that i can't bare to discuss.

Even if i found a guy that would put up with me, i'd push him away or he'd cheat and break my stupid little heart. Lol

It's over for me. As soon as i get it figured out.

 

[MachineGunDani]

I can relate to this, unfortunately I'm so low I can't take the time to reply how I'd like to lol but I just use distraction (like my friends here), movies, sleep, wine n weed. We always say "hugs" here which is nice but a real life hug is something that's actually needed sometimes! It's an actual NEED. So I'm sorry ur lonely, I am too and I wish I could take it away from U, so it's not enough but...hugs!!