willitpass
Don’t try to offer me help, I’ve tried everything
- Mar 10, 2020
- 2,634
My mother is not anywhere on my phone. My dad does not have her information either. One of my siblings does but we also have had conversations before about her not being notified if one of us die. My drivers license will be right there so the first thing they'll do I imagine is run that and find my emergency contacts.As far as not wanting your mother contacted - if she's in your contacts, change her name so there is no immediate association with you. But unless she's estranged to everyone, someone is going to let her know about you. I think (at least in the US), the police can pretty easily get a list of your immediate family members just from your SS# or ID. I'm sure the detective in charge will contact both your parents, because that's the normal process they would follow.