Anyone here who had shitty parents

[Not_A_Seagull]

Title. My mom just blames all the problems on me and manipulates me every damm timr

 

[Erik.t.f]

My dad raped my sister when she was 7-10, fortunately she moved to a foster home, my mom was completely burnt out and failed to take care of herself or any of the kids

so yes i had shitty parents

 

[BloomingStrella]

Me. They're one of those super religious parents who believe suicide and depression are satanistic ideas, and as long as I believe in the power of God and read prayers every day from the bible, my depression will go. News flash, I'm still very suicidal, and have harmed myself on countless occasions. For the record, I don't really believe in God, because I feel like I've been indoctrinated into believing in him, rather than "finding his mercy" of my own accord. I wouldn't dare tell my parents I don't believe in God anymore, though, because religion is taken very very seriously here, and I don't want to get them in trouble, even though they selfishly brought me into this world.

On top of that, I have severe body dysmorphia problems, which my parents don't approve of. My own body causes me extreme distress, because I despise the way it looks so much; I hate my body with a burning passion. They, however, say it's "a product of Satan's lies, and reading some psalms will help bring me closer to God and make me love the body he so righteously blessed me with". For my own sake though, I've decided to stop listening to them and stop taking everything they say as fact, like all parents expect you to do. Even if I have to beat myself up mercilessly to find out the truth, it's better than being handed falsehoods and sweet lies on a silver platter by my parents. I'm 19 years old and they still want to control every aspect of my life like I was 13 or even 14 years old. It's really overwhelming, to be honest.

 

[gardenofaphrodite]

I could go on & on about how shitty & awful my mother is. It's a topic I frequent here a lot. I hate her.

 

[Csmith8827]

I'm 19 years old and they still want to control every aspect of my life like I was 13 or even 14 years old. It's really overwhelming, to be honest.

I know exactly what you mean and it's hell. I'm 34 years old dealing with the same type of shit. It's just stupid...

 

[willitpass]

My mother as extremely narcissistic and emotionally abusive. Her favorite phrase is "why don't you love me?" at any time no matter how inappropriate. I finally cut all ties with her a few months ago and it was the best decision I ever made.

 

[VerbalWinter]

yes, shitty parents and siblings. they've all abandoned me, I don't have a "family" anymore. I honestly wish I was born into a different family, I got super unlucky.

 

[The anhedonic one]

My Mother was a malignant narcissist and my Stepfather a paedophile.
Lucky me.

 

[FormerlyFe(IV)]

I didn't have shitty parents like the people above, but they were far from great. Who knew that parents on the spectrum wouldn't teach a kid on the spectrum any good life skills?

All I got from them was to focus on academics. You can get more friends, be a square, don't swear. They gave me no emotional support. I say Google is my best friend because everything I needed to learn about life I got from Google. It's sad.

Doesn't help that they were academics themselves. My father never had a real job, he just lives off research grants. Super pompous about his doctorate. Fuck him. He got me arrogant to his level before realizing how much of a dick I really was. Telling your son that they can be smarter than their teachers is super dumb.

Role models? They had ZERO friends, total hermits. My father trusts NO ONE outside and thinks everyone wants to end his job. A misanthrope. My mother? Stuck behind a computer working alone as a freelancer. Home office 24/7. They were just sticking together for the kids. They lived to work, they didn't even indulge themselves in the pleasures of life. Congrats, you're going to die rich and sad like your kids.

And they were hoarders. Of course. Their place was FILTHY. I moved out and I still struggle with cleaning because I have no baseline as to what a normal cleaning routine looks like.

FUCK MY PARENTS

Sorry, shitty rant for milquetoast neglect.

 

[Ligottian]

Yeah, I had shitty parents. They had me.

 

[Borgrot]

I didn't think my parents were shitty until I would recount what, to me, was a fun anecdote and the person I was telling it to would look concerned and ask if I was ok.

I still don't think they're that shitty but my mother does have some issues, she infantilises me still (even at 41!), dismisses any thoughts or feelings I have, makes everything about her....it's done damage for sure.