Venting Anyone have a pain in the ass family member?

[777cave]

Just got hung up on.
Really can't take anymore of their self-centered (all me all the time) mindset and constant complaints.
Kinda nice in a way since I only communicate when absolutely necessary and now they won't be calling me.
Just a vent.
Carry on.

 

[bankai]

They are all a pain in my ass in their special unique way.A pain Like a lethal injection in my ass without the benefits of ctb.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I wish I had a pain-in-the-ass family member. Any family member would be nice.

 

[whywere]

Like I have mentioned on here so many times, the day after I turned 18 back in 1974, my "parents" dropped me off on a street curb with NO food, NO money, NO shelter, NO job, NOTHING and drove away and I never heard from them again, 100% their choice.

Now, I have an older brother and a younger sister, that have not spoken to me since at least 1990, my "parents" poisoned their minds about me, in fact when my brother and sister each got married, I was NOT invited and I just found out that my sister's daughter, my niece, is getting married, and again no invite ever, as I have never even seen a picture of my niece.

So, the aspect of family, besides this site, is a complete mystery to me.

I have always wondered what being invited over for Sunday dinner and sitting around the dining table and sharing a laugh and stories was like, as I will never experience it.

Walter

 

[22yearsbroken]

Along time ago when i last spoke to any of my family... according to them the arsehole in the family

Is me ... at least im good at sometbing

 

[areyousafe??]

Oh my God yes. My sister who is 2 years older than me. I blocked her on my phone a few years ago (not that she ever called me but she did message to order me around and provide her typical insults), recently unblocked her, turned out to be a mistake, and she is now blocked again.

I also communicate when absolutely necessary.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

My family would say that I'm the pain in the ass. Because... I left Jehovah's Witnesses. They all stopped talking to me. Entire extended family. So yep, it's me. I really don't care.

 

[cyanidefries]

All of them are the bane of my existence. My mother is the only person in my family I can somewhat tolerate.

 

[Forveleth]

There is a large part of my family that are all just straight up asses but we do not talk to them so it is not an issue. I really do not have the energy to deal with family members that are not a source of positivity in my life.

Of the family membera we do talk to, one is kind of annoying in that he seems to not always make the best life choices and then we have to deal with yet another crazy girlfriend/wife at family get togethers. Then they get divorced 3 years later which everyone saw coming from day one. 1-2 years later he has found another one and the cycle repeats.

 

[without_chance]

Yes, my abusive mother. She's hated me ever since I can remember and was the cause of my first attempt when I was toddler. At least once a week or so I get a landslide of abusive texts from her over finances.

She added me to her car insurance to help me save money, which I thanked her for, and then I expressed a concern about the insurance policy (for her sake! The thing I mentioned would effect her!) and in comes the vitriol. Calling me names, cussing at me, etc.

She said I have been ungrateful my entire life. I don't know what it feels like to be grateful or ungrateful. The only emotions I can pinpoint in myself are happiness, anger, sadness, and fear. But I try my best to always show thanks and respect verbally.

But why should I be grateful to someone who puts me down every chance she gets? If you're doing something kind for someone, you should be doing it because it's the right thing or because you want to be kind, not because you want thanks or for someone to fawn over what a wonderful person you are. I work in education and the most I ever do is remind students that it's considered polite to say thank you, or point out when something they've said or done could be considered disrespectful. I don't expect them to be grateful for me helping them. It's my job and I enjoy doing it.

But anyway...I really want to CTB to call my mom's bluff. Imagining what she would feel after I'm gone is almost delicious. But I know I wouldn't be there to see it. My main motivations for wanting to CTB are my family and finances, so in a situation like the one I just described with my mom, it's very tempting and hits all the wrong (right?) buttons.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Virtually my entire family is a pain in the ass lol

 

[ringo99]

I live in India. There's no such thing as a non-toxic family member. Guessing it's the same throughout Asia. This is a cursed continent.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I can identify with one. I was homeless at 17. I cant remember sitting down for thanksgiving, or having to blow the candles off a birthday cake. In fact I dont celebrate my birthday. Maybe that part is good.

 

[LostLily]

My brother, he as the mind of toddler and will throw tantrums and make messes.

 

[FoxSauce]

2 Of my aunts and sometimes my own mom but ofc I can't say it to their faces for oobvious reasons

Aunt- too nosy, judgemental and idk criticize of what other poeple do

Aunt 2 - way to bosy and a bitchy attitude

Mom- well she can be mean and toxic sometimes

 

[Forever Sleep]

More of a severe: 'I'll hopefully kill myself to avoid seeing this person again' relative. They caused me to become suicidal to begin with.

 

[LigottiIsRight]

One of my uncles has been a real pain in the ass in the last years, and still is, to the point of interfering with my well-being. He's old, and I have no trouble saying that I hope nature does its work with him soon.

 

[areyousafe??]

My brother, he as the mind of toddler and will throw tantrums and make messes.

My sister also does this. Constant tantrums, behaving like an immature toddler. Mind you, she's 41 years old.

 

[Autumn_Stars]

How do you manage after that?

Like I have mentioned on here so many times, the day after I turned 18 back in 1974, my "parents" dropped me off on a street curb with NO food, NO money, NO shelter, NO job, NOTHING and drove away and I never heard from them again, 100% their choice.

Now, I have an older brother and a younger sister, that have not spoken to me since at least 1990, my "parents" poisoned their minds about me, in fact when my brother and sister each got married, I was NOT invited and I just found out that my sister's daughter, my niece, is getting married, and again no invite ever, as I have never even seen a picture of my niece.

So, the aspect of family, besides this site, is a complete mystery to me.

I have always wondered what being invited over for Sunday dinner and sitting around the dining table and sharing a laugh and stories was like, as I will never experience it.

Walter

 

[777cave]

Just got hung up on.
Really can't take anymore of their self-centered (all me all the time) mindset and constant complaints.
Kinda nice in a way since I only communicate when absolutely necessary and now they won't be calling me.
Just a vent.
Carry on.

Update: person just called and apologized. I am truly shocked, never in a million years did I think it would happen.

 

[CatLvr]

Yep. And he drives me nuts. Smartest thing I have ever done is just ignore him. I do my thing, he does his (which is complain incessantly about what a horrible life he has had when it has actually been quite the opposite). Some people are just aren't happy unless they are miserable and doing their best to make everyone around them miserable too. Just tune them out.

 

[777cave]

Update: person just called and apologized. I am truly shocked, never in a million years did I think it would happen.

Another update. A neighbor friend disrespected me and I decided to set boundaries. Didn't end the relationship (tends to speak without thinking, but I'm done taking shit from people), but will keep on the superficial going forward. Is there a freakin full moon or what?!

 

[iwishtodie8]

I do

 

[TheTragicPrince]

Yeah, all of them.

 

[whywere]

Another update. A neighbor friend disrespected me and I decided to set boundaries. Didn't end the relationship (tends to speak without thinking, but I'm done taking shit from people), but will keep on the superficial going forward. Is there a freakin full moon or what?!

A long time ago, back in the 1960's a very old person told me this and I have always kept it with me: " If it comes to that point, then if a person is smiling at you they are pulling the wool over your eyes, if they are angry with you, then they could not take advantage of you".

Walter

 

[moonflow3r]

Unfortunately I am the pain in the ass family member

 

[777cave]

A long time ago, back in the 1960's a very old person told me this and I have always kept it with me: " If it comes to that point, then if a person is smiling at you they are pulling the wool over your eyes, if they are angry with you, then they could not take advantage of you".

Walter

Decided I'm not taking shit from anyone anymore. What a fucked up world we live in.

 

[whywere]

Decided I'm not taking shit from anyone anymore. What a fucked up world we live in.

100% agree with you. If it comes to that point, then a person either stands up for themselves or they are a door mat.

I have through the decades had people who got "mad" at me because they could NOT take advantage of me, and I just laughed at the situation and moved on.

Guess what? They were ALWAYS in that mode, and I did not waste my time with that type of stupidity.
Lots of well wishes my good friend.

Walter

 

[Pale_Rider]

They say Im the pain in the ass, but really its all of them.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I wish I had a pain-in-the-ass family member. Any family member would be nice.

Me too! I wish I had a family period! As an adopepted child, I'll never experience any of this. I often wondered how it must feel to have a family, cousin, aunt, uncle, grandma, mom, dad, etc. I don't know if I should be happy about this or not?