Anyone else using meaningless sex just to feel something?

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I don't think you're feeling half as bad as most people on this forum.

The fact that you're never alone and also having extreme amount of sex speaks on its own.

Do you know real loneliness and how that feels? Highly doubt it.

Do you know the loneliness one feels when they are around others who are only using them? I do not think that you do. In your juvenile fantasies, having loads of sex might seem like a good life, but that is just an unhealthy coping mechanism for her.

 

[bov]

Sex is never meaningless. There are better ways to harm yourself or to seek connections, ways that will ultimately be more rewarding as opposed to selfish and destructive.

I'm not sure meaningless sex is necessarily selfish; who knows what degree of mutual understanding OP is establishing? No shame in consensual meaninglessness. Hell, it's arguably what this forum is founded on.

 

[Gnip]

I'm a virgin. My closest female friend offered to set me up with her hooker niece, both of them being convinced a sexual experience with a highly skilled and experienced young professional might be highly therapeutic, and I believe they were right, if only I was physiologically capable of a sexual response. But with what has happened to me psychosexually and in the way of physical genital trauma (due to a freak accident years ago), I would need my female friend's hooker niece to first administer a pair of intracavernosal injections (which that hooker niece knows how to do through her pediatrician sister and my female friend), then be prepared to attend to me until the resulting erection is finally relieved (which she reportedly would be willing to accomplish).

Would a positive first experience with sex therapeutically cure all my psychological ills? I've known some who stopped stuttering after losing their virginity, but also a number of people whose lives were really messed up and complicated by sexual activity.

Some really hot sexually experienced girls I've known who figured out I'm a virgin have promised me in all honestly that sex is severely overrated as a pleasurable experience, that sex is far more hype than the real world act of foreplay and intercourse, that fantasies about sex are always vastly superior to attempting carrying out those fantasies.

 

[MichaelNomad123]

I'm not sure meaningless sex is necessarily selfish; who knows what degree of mutual understanding OP is establishing? No shame in consensual meaninglessness.

I don't really agree with this line of thought but swings and roundabouts, right?

 

[SmellyRat]

Depression has completely destroyed my sex drive

 

[ecmnesia]

haven't done this for a year or so. but used to. felt great for a while. but eventually it got boring.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I don't think you're feeling half as bad as most people on this forum.

The fact that you're never alone and also having extreme amount of sex speaks on its own.

Do you know real loneliness and how that feels? Highly doubt it.

I kinda agree that normies able to get relationships and friends like they're nothing don't really understand loneliness, but at the same time there's no real comparison between any two people's reasons for being suicidal. The first comment was uncalled for, you don't have reasonable grounds to say that.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

I kinda agree that normies able to get relationships and friends like they're nothing don't really understand loneliness, but at the same time there's no real comparison between any two people's reasons for being suicidal. The first comment was uncalled for, you don't have reasonable grounds to say that.

I am perplexed by some responses on this thread. She said that she has meaningless semi-anonymous sex for attention, meaning that the guys just use her and ditch her afterwards; those encounters can hardly be described as friendships or relationships.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I am perplexed by some responses on this thread. She said that she has meaningless semi-anonymous sex for attention, meaning that the guys just use her and ditch her afterwards; those encounters can hardly be described as friendships or relationships.

Whatever, you get the point

 

[All washed up]

what is your problem? why do you feel the need to invalidate others' pain? I just saw you on another thread saying that you wouldn't care if you were lesbian and your girlfriend cheated because it doesn't really count with a girl.

just because someone has sex does not mean they don't have extreme mental pain. if you don't have anything constructive to say other than clearly projecting your insecurities about sex then just go away and stop typing on this forum.

This person is a fairly new member who I've already put on ignore.
Just on here to wind people up I believe

 

[Fedrea]

I am pathetically throwing myself at men just to get some attention and temporary distraction. Im also into masochism so it's become like a version of self harm. Anyone else doing this shit? Just wanted to feel less alone.

This post touched my heart OP. Please look after yourself, as much as you can. Sex is life in a way, so I understand women would want to do it to feel good. But it's an ugly fact that women are more vulnerable on average in casual sex encounters, and are more likely to come to harm, especially if we have mental health problems and don't have solid self esteem and self assertion. Risks of non consensual sex, abortion which some find difficult, STIs, or just lowered self esteem from feeling used. I have dated both with and without mental health problems/damaged self esteem, and I think that with even moderate mental health difficulties as a woman you can just be so much more more vulnerable when dating or looking for sex. There are so many men out there, sad to say, who look for women who are vulnerable, they can sense it. Maybe sometimes they just think it will be easier to get sex from such women, but at other times it's darker than that, it's as if there are men out there who get off on mentally beating down women who are already vulnerable. Something @GoodPersonEffed once posted stuck with me, "even men you'd want to date and start a family with are going to see that you're beaten down, that you won't say Aw hell no, and beat you down further for their own amusement or fulfillment". That has been so true in my experience. Also I understand that there are women who quite happily have sex with strangers or in short term relationships and don't mind if the man regards them as an object only and has no feelings for them…………..but tbh if you're not in a good place mentally already that may make you feel worse. As you say…..masochism.

There are also lovely men out there who will love and care for you, and sex with them might be a more positive experience.

That all sounded a bit 1950s, but I think we have to be pretty careful when we're already low…..please look after yourself lady.

 

[Lilacmoon]

I'm not bullying her. I'm just making her real self come out so she can look at herself.

That's not your job to determine what her real self is. Nor would it really benefit you. That's just being mean.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

Nope, why do you ask lol?

In my experience, some male virgins exhibit some behaviors that you do. What brings you to this site?

 

[Symbiote]

He's your typical "nice guy". When rejected, they resort to name-calling and victim blaming to make themselves feel superior to the person they just tried to ask out.

 

[All washed up]

Why are people replying to @Ngerboll so obviously trying to wind people up.
Just press ignore everyone and spend time replying to sensible posters?

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

Why are people replying to @Ngerboll so obviously trying to wind people up.
Just press ignore everyone and spend time replying to sensible posters?

I am bored.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I'm not bullying her. I'm just making her real self come out so she can look at herself.

I was literally just about to kill myself from despair, but now I see there is still magnanimity in the world.

This isn't a troll, this is a compassionate bodhisattva.

Y'all back off the bodhisattva!

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

Sure, a lot of males in general exhibit the same behaviors. It's not strange at all.
Its also very common for people to categorize very fast and without any real thoughts behind it.

What's that? :o

You did not answer my question. What brings you to this site?

 

[Lilacmoon]

I am bored.

You're the best <3

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I'm not bullying her. I'm just making her real self come out so she can look at herself.

It's quite odd that upon knowing that someone has a lot of sex to make themselves feel better you immediately decide they are a bad person and attempt to provoke them in PMs to bring out their 'true' personality which you've decided exists ngl. You've gone from saying they might not understand loneliness to randomly insulting them and accusing them of being 15, kinda cringe bro.

This thread is no longer helping OP, try not to derail things in future.

 

[flower]

name calling words that are supposed to make people feel bad - like slut?

for what it's worth i'm in my twenties so please sir don't waste your valuable time worrying about my sad slut future

 

[I want to end it]

I probably would, but I'm male so the only way I can get sex or any sort of sexual attention is paying for it.

 

[StuFin]

I tried throwing myself at some women but all that happened was the Police called round.

I think it's sexist.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

There's another word that gets thrown out a lot too! Cringe,

God I hate that word haha,

My fellow suicidals, do you have anymore of those words? Let's hear them ;)

If your strat is to just argue about how people use words and ignore their points so you don't have to explain yourself then congrats, you managed it. I don't see what you or anyone gains from this, have fun with your argument.

 

[Symbiote]

I tried throwing myself at some women but all that happened was the Police called round.

I think it's sexist.

I did that during a blind date once....she was absolutely crushed. Guess she didn't see that coming. :P

 

[Marauder]

You can have sex? Lucky you...