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I'm not sure meaningless sex is necessarily selfish; who knows what degree of mutual understanding OP is establishing? No shame in consensual meaninglessness. Hell, it's arguably what this forum is founded on.
I kinda agree that normies able to get relationships and friends like they're nothing don't really understand loneliness, but at the same time there's no real comparison between any two people's reasons for being suicidal. The first comment was uncalled for, you don't have reasonable grounds to say that.
I am perplexed by some responses on this thread. She said that she has meaningless semi-anonymous sex for attention, meaning that the guys just use her and ditch her afterwards; those encounters can hardly be described as friendships or relationships.
This person is a fairly new member who I've already put on ignore.
This post touched my heart OP. Please look after yourself, as much as you can. Sex is life in a way, so I understand women would want to do it to feel good. But it's an ugly fact that women are more vulnerable on average in casual sex encounters, and are more likely to come to harm, especially if we have mental health problems and don't have solid self esteem and self assertion. Risks of non consensual sex, abortion which some find difficult, STIs, or just lowered self esteem from feeling used. I have dated both with and without mental health problems/damaged self esteem, and I think that with even moderate mental health difficulties as a woman you can just be so much more more vulnerable when dating or looking for sex. There are so many men out there, sad to say, who look for women who are vulnerable, they can sense it. Maybe sometimes they just think it will be easier to get sex from such women, but at other times it's darker than that, it's as if there are men out there who get off on mentally beating down women who are already vulnerable. Something @GoodPersonEffed once posted stuck with me, "even men you'd want to date and start a family with are going to see that you're beaten down, that you won't say Aw hell no, and beat you down further for their own amusement or fulfillment". That has been so true in my experience. Also I understand that there are women who quite happily have sex with strangers or in short term relationships and don't mind if the man regards them as an object only and has no feelings for them…………..but tbh if you're not in a good place mentally already that may make you feel worse. As you say…..masochism.
That's not your job to determine what her real self is. Nor would it really benefit you. That's just being mean.
In my experience, some male virgins exhibit some behaviors that you do. What brings you to this site?
I am bored.
It's quite odd that upon knowing that someone has a lot of sex to make themselves feel better you immediately decide they are a bad person and attempt to provoke them in PMs to bring out their 'true' personality which you've decided exists ngl. You've gone from saying they might not understand loneliness to randomly insulting them and accusing them of being 15, kinda cringe bro.
If your strat is to just argue about how people use words and ignore their points so you don't have to explain yourself then congrats, you managed it. I don't see what you or anyone gains from this, have fun with your argument.
