Anyone else using meaningless sex just to feel something?

[WastedSpace]

I am pathetically throwing myself at men just to get some attention and temporary distraction. Im also into masochism so it's become like a version of self harm. Anyone else doing this shit? Just wanted to feel less alone.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

Honestly, I don't think you'll be feeling alone for long, I think your inbox is going to get quite active. I hope you don't fall victim to a predator, and I hope you're not one yourself.

 

[greebo6]

I would use it if I could get it...…

 

[georgianpie]

I am sorry you are in a situation where you feel you have to be putting yourself in this position. It is not the safest or healthiest coping mechanism, but it is one nevertheless.

The fact that you have a high-sex drive in spite of being depressed might be a good thing, at least temporarily. You might get enough dopamine to get you throughout the day, and hopefully keep you alive until you figure out how to get better in a more meaningful way.

I know that in my and few other people's case giving up on sex/affection was an indicator, and effectively contributor, to entering the CTB zone, so the fact that you still have enough energy for that might be a good sign.

This is not to say that I recommend you continue doing so. It is just to give maybe a different perspective on something that you seem to consider strictly negatively.

 

[Good4Nothing]

I wish...

 

[I screwed up]

It helps on certain days for sure ... But unfortunately in my case its limited to solo pleasure only ..

 

[ScornedStoic]

It's wonderful to read this as someone who's been denied touch his entire adult and adolescent life.

 

[Marktheghost]

Honestly, I don't think you'll be feeling alone for long, I think your inbox is going to get quite active.

I wish it worked that way for us blokes! Not that I'm interested in sex, but I'd be extremely willing to offer some kisses and cuddles to girls to feel like I had someone to love.

 

[thx1138]

I think meaningless sex is worse than no sex at all. Men will just use you as a masturbation aid and the Dom types are far worse, gradually degrading your self-esteem and humanity. I think "self-harm" is a 100% correct assessment.
I don't think the "blokes" commenting here have any idea what it's like to be used as a sex object and tossed aside, otherwise they wouldn't think it's so great to be a girl. But hey, "the grass is always greener", so I understand. Peace and love to all

 

[Frauw]

Nope, feels disgusting unless its with someone I genuinely love.

 

[Viro_Major]

Would you learn about the feelings of the men used ? Where the isolation begins, it also ends

 

[LastFlowers]

It's all meaningless to me. But to answer your question, No, I am not.

 

[flagmaster]

I have a girlfriend and we are sexually active. Lots of times I use sex as an escape but I find myself feeling empty afterwards. I never finish and I get tired of trying and end up returning to reality. Disappointed I can't fully enjoy an activity which most people deeply desire. It's a cycle I am trying to overcome. I am very happy with my girlfriend and have no interest in throwing myself at others, I know this problem lies with me.

 

[Umbrellaterm]

Id say like 80-85% of the world population are like that.
Masochism and sadistic behavior is extremely common among the population, understandably so.

Sex and food are the
only two basic motivations for human survival.

 

[SmellyRat]

Id say like 80-85% of the world population are like that.

Sex and food are the
only two basic motivations for human survival.

The sex drive is nature trolling us to make more copies of ourselves.....

 

[Johan]

Would if I could. But as a ugly guy that is not an option

 

[BLUE1970]

Contentedly and voluntarily celibate. I am preparing to ctb and have been actively withdrawing from all social interactions for considerable time.....I'm going through the dying process as is natures way.

 

[Umbrellaterm]

Contentedly and voluntarily celibate. I am preparing to ctb and have been actively withdrawing from all social interactions for considerable time.....I'm going through the dying process as is natures way.

Same here. I'll be dead within a couple of weeks.

There are a couple of other reasons why I've been withdrawing.
I'm on a long streak, haha.

 

[flower]

I was definitely like this when I was younger, but I can't be bothered with people these days

 

[MichaelNomad123]

Sex is never meaningless. There are better ways to harm yourself or to seek connections, ways that will ultimately be more rewarding as opposed to selfish and destructive.

 

[Lordsudbury]

I (M 32) found a girl in the summer after a bad breakup and we use each other for sex...she loves it but I just did it to fill a void. It never felt really good mentally and I don't even really like her company.

But lately I feel like most of my life I've been used as a sex object, which might sound great for a dude but the reality is that I haven't been able to hold down much of a serious relationship even though I'm good for it, but girls lure me in to use me for sex. Feels like shit

 

[WastedSpace]

To those who wrote kind messages, thank you. I truly hope things improve for you. You didn't know me irl and you still took the time to try and make a stranger feel better. That really says something about you

 

[degeneratewaste]

I used to do this a lot, just over a year ago. hypersexuality can be a common response to trauma (although I obviously don't know whether you have gone through any), and is a completely valid coping mechanism, though not amongst the best. please make sure at least that you are practicing safe sex, and that you are vetting out potential sexual partners to know that they are at least real people and not going to harm you.

I have noticed that masochism is even more commonplace with people that have mental health issues/suicidality. I am also masochistic. it's extremely common, especially with people that already self harm in other ways. nothing to be ashamed of, just make sure that you are safe.

 

[grungeCat]

I wish I could escape from pain like this... unfortunately no woman wants to even speak to me :( I am also masochistic in terms of sex btw

 

[Astronomer]

Possible plot twist,
WastedSpace is a man & bisexual/gay.

All the straight members about to message 'her' because he mentioned throwing myself at men.

Imagine.

 

[degeneratewaste]

Possible plot twist,
WastedSpace is a man & bisexual/gay.

All the straight members about to message 'her' because he mentioned throwing myself at men.

Imagine.

would be their fault for assuming shit. and also being huge creeps. hah.

 

[Hyperbunny]

I am pathetically throwing myself at men just to get some attention and temporary distraction. Im also into masochism so it's become like a version of self harm. Anyone else doing this shit? Just wanted to feel less alone.

me too

 

[degeneratewaste]

I don't think you're feeling half as bad as most people on this forum.

The fact that you're never alone and also having extreme amount of sex speaks on its own.

Do you know real loneliness and how that feels? Highly doubt it.

what is your problem? why do you feel the need to invalidate others' pain? I just saw you on another thread saying that you wouldn't care if you were lesbian and your girlfriend cheated because it doesn't really count with a girl.

just because someone has sex does not mean they don't have extreme mental pain. if you don't have anything constructive to say other than clearly projecting your insecurities about sex then just go away and stop typing on this forum.

 

[mrease]

porn for me

 

[Lilacmoon]

There's no reason to judge or invalidate other people's problems, we're not trying to compare here <3 We're all here because we want to die, no reason to make it worse for anyone here.

OP, I can relate too much actually :(