I've mostly come to term with the fact that I will die alone, but it's still not easy to cope on Valentine and Christmas. Any of you guys are alone as well? How are you guys coping?
kawaiiphantom
I gently open the door
- Feb 1, 2024
- 301
yeah I am too :< honestly just cope by trying to forget it's valentines and pretend it's any other day
Almost alone, I have two dogs and Jim beam to love me this year.
hikikomorizombie
Ouch
- Jan 15, 2024
- 771
valentine's day has never been significant to me. thanksgiving & christmas always hurt through :p if i'm unfortunately still alive by then i'll have a lot more to say abt those holidays, lol.
i'll spend today like all my others. scroll, write, read, CoD, Mr. Kuma (my teddy bear).
i'll spend today like all my others. scroll, write, read, CoD, Mr. Kuma (my teddy bear).
fishlover
in the end, nothing matters
- Sep 17, 2023
- 122
valentine's day always ruins me. i try to pretend its just a normal day, but seeing couples together and happy.. knowing ill never have that- it really hurts.
i dont care about the cheesy over-commercialized things like a bouquet of roses or a box of chocolates- i just want somebody who cares about me.
i dont care about the cheesy over-commercialized things like a bouquet of roses or a box of chocolates- i just want somebody who cares about me.
sserafim
brighter than the sun, that’s just me
- Sep 13, 2023
- 9,013
Yeah, I've always spent it alone. To be honest, I think it's massively overrated anyways. It's honestly just a way for corporations to get even richer, it's clever marketing. It's just another aspect of consumer culture, they want you to consume, consume, and consume! I bet that the candy, chocolate and flower industries make millions (or even billions) off of Valentine's Day each year. Valentine's is just society's way and subliminal message to make you believe that you must have romance and a partner in order to be happy.
Me neither and I honestly don't give a shit.
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Yes but it's gotten easier as I've gotten older. I think because I don't actually want to be in a real relationship now. I think my ideas are all way too fairytale. So, I can simply fantasize that I'm in a relationship and that (weirdly) seems to be enough for me now. Not that I'm saying that's healthy!
ijustwishtodie
death will be my ultimate bliss
- Oct 29, 2023
- 5,186
Yeah, but I don't care. To me, it's just a regular day where I still continue to suffer because I'm alive. None of the holidays and other miscellaneous stuff has made me feel any different, including birthdays
-Link-
Deep Breaths
- Aug 25, 2018
- 592
I live with family, so I'm not literally alone.
Romantically alone, though, yes...
Valentine's Day doesn't affect me much because I'm not socially engaged at all (online or offline). I don't see anything that reminds me of it, and I don't have it being shoved in my face, so it's pretty easy for me to avoid.
When the loneliness hits, I remind myself that relationships are not inherently "not lonely" and that being single is a lot preferable to being in a dead relationship. Plus a relationship would take energy and effort that I just don't have right now. The idea of a relationship sounds good, but the reality of a relationship would be very hard and probably even more stressful than it is for me being single.
If looking at couples is making you feel down, remember this: Just because a couple appears outwardly happy, it doesn't mean that they actually are. Think about what percentage of relationships don't work out, and you can know that a lot of those happy-seeming couples have some pretty hardcore heartbreak looming in their short-term future.
This is sort of how I try to counteract my loneliness, and it does work at least to some degree.
That, and distractions. Lots of distractions.
Romantically alone, though, yes...
Valentine's Day doesn't affect me much because I'm not socially engaged at all (online or offline). I don't see anything that reminds me of it, and I don't have it being shoved in my face, so it's pretty easy for me to avoid.
When the loneliness hits, I remind myself that relationships are not inherently "not lonely" and that being single is a lot preferable to being in a dead relationship. Plus a relationship would take energy and effort that I just don't have right now. The idea of a relationship sounds good, but the reality of a relationship would be very hard and probably even more stressful than it is for me being single.
If looking at couples is making you feel down, remember this: Just because a couple appears outwardly happy, it doesn't mean that they actually are. Think about what percentage of relationships don't work out, and you can know that a lot of those happy-seeming couples have some pretty hardcore heartbreak looming in their short-term future.
This is sort of how I try to counteract my loneliness, and it does work at least to some degree.
That, and distractions. Lots of distractions.
Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
- 21,155
leloyon
I'll see you in the Wired.
- Feb 4, 2023
- 1,098
I don't know about you guys, I've been spending my Valentine's with my true love.
"Yes I'm alone, then again, always was"
- NIN, "Only"
"Yes I'm alone, then again, always was"
- NIN, "Only"
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Final_Choice
Mage
- Aug 3, 2023
- 544
Always have been, always will be. I'm used to it for the most part, sometimes I like to think about the possibility of not being alone and start feeling more lonely, but realize it's nothing more than my imagination and there's really no chance. I've already come to terms with it so I'm used to it and don't really feel affected during times like today, but every once in a while it hurts just enough for me to feel it.
TheSpookyNameGuy
There's nothing here..
- Apr 30, 2023
- 646
Unless somebody tells me it's valentines day, i have no clue.
I didn't even know it was happening until a family member gave me a card, which is strange to me as i don't care about such trivial consumerist events.
They feel sad that im missing out but trying to explain that i don't care just doesn't work on capitalist hypnotised drones.
I had cheesecake today, that is my love
I didn't even know it was happening until a family member gave me a card, which is strange to me as i don't care about such trivial consumerist events.
They feel sad that im missing out but trying to explain that i don't care just doesn't work on capitalist hypnotised drones.
I had cheesecake today, that is my love
Rogue Proxy
Enlightened
- Sep 12, 2021
- 1,316
I have always enjoyed the holidays, including Valentine's Day, in solitude. On days like these, I like to take it slow, pamper myself, and fix myself some delicious meals (and sometimes, favorite treats).
Dr Iron Arc
Into the Unknown
- Feb 10, 2020
- 21,155
Alone again today. The streak lives on. If for some godforesaken reason I'm still alive next year that would make 30 Valentines Days in a row of being alone for it. I wish I could have gone outside at all today and ruined some couples' days.
cryone
Experienced
- Nov 23, 2023
- 258
yep, i did. don't know if this makes things better but i was + am in a situationship. i was hoping they'd ask me out b/c ive made so many moves. they didn't, lol. kind of added to the despair for me. really wished i could have something more than a superficial love but nothing rly works out for me, lmao. honestly, id rather be entirely alone atp.
sammiechzxv
just a girl who's kinda sad
- Aug 7, 2023
- 242
leloyon
I'll see you in the Wired.
- Feb 4, 2023
- 1,098
funeraleveryday
please help me die
- May 16, 2020
- 35
I spent every holiday alone this year and it was the same as every other day. It's better than what it would've been otherwise with my insane drug addict family they scream so much and get into fights every time so much drama. I got to have peace. My motivators for relationships or whatever are completely depleted you should get better while you still can.
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