Discussion Anyone else get jealous of happy people?

[avaruus]

Anyone else (atleast once in a while) get jealous of happy people?
Seeing happy couples, people partying and having fun, people passionately talking about their interests & their bright future...

I hate the fact that i do, and it's quite paradoxical, because it's not like i want people to suffer and not be happy.
In fact, suffering in the world is one of my biggest sources of discontent with reality. But when people thrive, this bitterness just takes over me.

I guess it's because i feel left out or something. But being bitter for such an overwhelmingly positive things just makes me feel so shit and hypocritical.

 

[Dying2077]

I think that sitting with the sick and poor is the happiest thing that kills any negative feelings like others and others

 

[i would like to]

Anyone else (atleast once in a while) get jealous of happy people?
Seeing happy couples, people partying and having fun, people passionately talking about their interests & their bright future...

I hate the fact that i do, and it's quite paradoxical, because it's not like i want people to suffer and not be happy.
In fact, suffering in the world is one of my biggest sources of discontent with reality. But when people thrive, this bitterness just takes over me.

I guess it's because i feel left out or something. But being bitter for such an overwhelmingly positive things just makes me feel so shit and hypocritical.

I feel the same way, I also get jealous of happy people.
I guess it's okay to feel jealous.
Sending virtual hugs ʕ⁠っ⁠•⁠ᴥ⁠•⁠ʔ⁠っ

 

[crunchycuticles]

Yeah I'm sick of seeing my old friends living their best life while mine is going to shit

 

[BlazingBob]

I completely understand. I get bitter at times seeing happy, healthy people living their lives while I sit and rot in misery, loneliness, and physical sickness. It's not that I want them to suffer but rather the thought of why can't that be me. How could things have gone so wrong, why is life so unfair, etc. At this point I wouldn't want to join their ranks even if it were possible. I just want to not exist anymore.

 

[tfnb]

I don't really feel jealous of happy people. Well I suppose that sometimes I get jealous of happy couples while my wife is away, but that's not at all the same thing you're talking about. What I can't stand is normal people griping about how hard their lives are. If they'd lived through half the trauma and messed up things I've gone through I'm pretty sure they'd be institutionalized and I'm not even the most messed up person I know. I used to work directly with people who first moved to this country from other more oppressive places, and I'm a naturally inquisitive and social person, so I'd end up learning about their various cultures and life experiences. Probably the most messed up were a couple of guys from Sudan who fled here when they were 16. They were forced not only to be child soldiers, but to kill their family and the village they grew up in or they'd be killed. They were also the most polite, sweet kids I've ever met. It puts those wannabe gang bangers into some real perspective.

I really went off in a direction with this one didn't i

 

[MeltingBrain]

Anyone else (atleast once in a while) get jealous of happy people?
Seeing happy couples, people partying and having fun, people passionately talking about their interests & their bright future...

I hate the fact that i do, and it's quite paradoxical, because it's not like i want people to suffer and not be happy.
In fact, suffering in the world is one of my biggest sources of discontent with reality. But when people thrive, this bitterness just takes over me.

I guess it's because i feel left out or something. But being bitter for such an overwhelmingly positive things just makes me feel so shit and hypocritical.

I fall into even further despair because of the contrast, but I don't get jealous . Somehow I am not the jealous type .

 

[LaVieEnRose]

Oh yeah. Considering I've never known it. I'm jealous of all the masses who never find themselves on this site and.perplexed why I couldn't have been among their ranks.

It's not wrong to feel bitter or even Schadenfreude if other people suffer misfortune. It's a notmal.reaction I can't say I have never experienced. It'd be wrong to actively cause suffering but feelings as.emotional reactions could never be "wrong".

 

[MeltingBrain]

I think that sitting with the sick and poor is the happiest thing that kills any negative feelings like others and others

I am going to hell for chuckling at this ... Sorry .

 

[hermestrimegistus]

I wouldnt say I'm jealous of happy people. I'm glad some people are out there enjoying their lives. But I definitely get bitter at people who have happy, normal families and take it for granted because they assume its like that for everybody and don't realize how grateful they should be for what they have.

 

[Foreverix]

When I was younger I was envious of those I thought were happier, or I thought were doing better.

But these days I don't feel jealous of people who appear happy, or seem to have some level of contentment in life. I'm just having a different experience.

 

[Zegers]

at every turn. I crave to be someone healthy, relatively happy and not overthinker, a simple and efficient mind, a structured family, some few like-minded friends to share with..

 

[sserafim]

Anyone else (atleast once in a while) get jealous of happy people?
Seeing happy couples, people partying and having fun, people passionately talking about their interests & their bright future...

I hate the fact that i do, and it's quite paradoxical, because it's not like i want people to suffer and not be happy.
In fact, suffering in the world is one of my biggest sources of discontent with reality. But when people thrive, this bitterness just takes over me.

I guess it's because i feel left out or something. But being bitter for such an overwhelmingly positive things just makes me feel so shit and hypocritical.

l'm jealous of people who talk about their interests and bright futures. I've lost interest in my interests (probably due to undiagnosed depression), and I don't have a bright future or any future at all.

I'm also jealous of people who are successful and advancing in their careers and education. I've been a failure ever since graduating college. I wish I could be successful as well…

 

[SmollMushroom]

Maybe I am, but in a different way, to me it hurts, it makes me feel out of place.
I remember before shutting myself in, back when I used to go to school, I could see the other kids hanging out, creating bonds and playing together.
And I was just there, incapable of doing anything of that, that made me feel like shit as if I were being tortured. And the harder I tried to play their game, the worse was the outcome. So at some point I stopped trying because I couldn't withstand the pain, and I started to avoid other people.
So in the end I wouldn't even call it jealousy: I never wanted to be like them or to have what they had, I just wanted to be accepted.