Discussion Anyone else don't want a funeral?

[DynamicDepression]

I've put in my will that I would appreciate not having a funeral service after I CTB. I hate being the center of attention and I would prefer to just pass away and into obscurity. Ideally, I would like to die and be forgotten about.

I'm not close to most of my relatives who would inevitably be invited and I'd rather not have people I don't know cry crocodile tears because of my passing. I'm also an atheist (actually agnostic, but for all intents and purposes, I'm an atheist) and really don't want some priest talking about how I'm "with God now" or how I "became an angel". If there is a God, I'm going to be pretty angry with Him.

Anyway, those are my feelings on the matter. How do all of you feel? Will you have a funeral?

 

[lostmylove]

I have no friends that would turnup . It would be just sad family members and honestly I wouldn't want that either.

I can't have a celebration of life because I didn't do anything of note. I just want to be forgotten and go to sleep .

 

[wljourney]

Me neither.
I really would like to be able to donate organs and tissue. If I DIY my death that would likely not be possible.
So I'd like to just be cremated please. Spread the ashes in the Bay or send them on to my sister.

But a funeral? No, not for me at least. I wouldn't know anyway and haven't felt spiritual in decades. But I suppose if it helps those who are left behind (very few) to grieve… They will have to do what they need to do.
I truly believe that funerals are not for the dead person but a crutch for the living to process the loss.

 

[DynamicDepression]

I really would like to be able to donate organs and tissue. If I DIY my death that would likely not be possible.

I too wish my organs and tissue could be of use to someone who wants to live. It's a shame people who died from suicide aren't eligible to donate their organs in many places. It's such a waste.

 

[freedompass]

I've put in my will that I would appreciate not having a funeral service after I CTB. I hate being the center of attention and I would prefer to just pass away and into obscurity. Ideally, I would like to die and be forgotten about.

I'm not close to most of my relatives who would inevitably be invited and I'd rather not have people I don't know cry crocodile tears because of my passing. I'm also an atheist (actually agnostic, but for all intents and purposes, I'm an atheist) and really don't want some priest talking about how I'm "with God now" or how I "became an angel". If there is a God, I'm going to be pretty angry with Him.

Anyway, those are my feelings on the matter. How do all of you feel? Will you have a funeral?

Yup I totally feel ya absolutely no waaay am I having any 'men of god' praying over my corpse or hypocritical relatives singing hymns ABSOLUTELY NO WAY. I've seen the cheapest 'corpse disposal service' (my words not theirs) is around £1000. No way in hell I would spend more than that. The relatives will have little to say about me as we don't mix and have nothing in common. These days people sometimes have a memorial service instead. I don't want that either. My 'so called life' is not something to be celebrated, I'm in no way religious so yeah fuck a motherfucking funeral right up the ass.

 

[Starryeyes]

I have left a long note on my phone. Part of it is saying I categorically do not want a funeral or wake. Fuck giving people who don't care the opportunity to be fake.

 

[Sleeper System]

I would like to be "direct cremated" which happens to be the cheapest way to go with no fuss. I would like to believe that I prefer that method because of the same reasons you gave but it probably comes down to not wanting to burden anyone with bills they can't afford or put anyone in a position to be fake.
Just give me a nice obituary and leave it at that.

 

[FuneralCry]

No, I do not want a funeral. I do not want to be remembered at all, I want to be forgotten about like I never existed in the first place. My life is meaningless and my death will be insignificant. However, I guess that it does not matter what will happen after I die, as I will simply not be there to see it, I will be gone, I will be at peace. Nothing will be able to matter to me once I am dead.

 

[outrider567]

I've put in my will that I would appreciate not having a funeral service after I CTB. I hate being the center of attention and I would prefer to just pass away and into obscurity. Ideally, I would like to die and be forgotten about.

I'm not close to most of my relatives who would inevitably be invited and I'd rather not have people I don't know cry crocodile tears because of my passing. I'm also an atheist (actually agnostic, but for all intents and purposes, I'm an atheist) and really don't want some priest talking about how I'm "with God now" or how I "became an angel". If there is a God, I'm going to be pretty angry with Him.

Anyway, those are my feelings on the matter. How do all of you feel? Will you have a funeral?

The same with me--I said in my goodbye note, please no funeral---But I'm sure my stepmother will get one together anyway

 

[BrightFutureAhead]

I would prefer not to have any too but it is too selfish.
Funeral is a ritual for my loved ones that I will leave behind so they can move on It will be completely their choice how they wish to have it done. I will not be here anyway, so no harm for me

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

Not necessary … would be depressing anyway

 

[Hurt]

I want to donate my organs. No funeral for me.

 

[Low_Spectre]

I certainly wouldn't want any religious service. I think it might be okay if my loved ones held a celebration of life. Sometimes I think about the reality that I haven't communicated honestly enough with anyone for an appropriate funeral service to be held. I think there are people who know what I "would have wanted" but I worry that it wouldn't be consistent with an actual service held.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

I don't really want one either, but I'm sure my family would still have one anyway. All I know for sure is, if some priest or pastor is up there talking about how I'm "with God" or whatever, my ghost is gonna come back up out of Hell to bitchslap them for their stupidity.

 

[ClownMe]

I don't want a funeral, can't stand them, I would much rather be cremated and have my ashes spread somewhere random so that there's no sign of me ever existing. Ultimately though, it doesn't really bother me because I won't be around to see it.

 

[Lost in a Dream]

It's a shame people who died from suicide aren't eligible to donate their organs in many places. It's such a waste

I had no idea that was the case. I thought anyone could donate their organs regardless of how they died. It makes me wish I could donate some of my brain cells to anyone who would throw my organs away merely because I chose to CTB.

 

[Capsaicin78]

I want to donate my brain to science after I ctb. Maybe someone will actually find a cure for depression, who knows.

 

[RandomBeaver]

I actually have to go to my uncle's funeral in the following hours and it makes me suicidal as heck!!

I'm feeling remorse because I'm so depressed I can't go.

Also my relatives are assigning me a babysitter (adultsitter?) if I don't go.

 

[Judy Garland]

I wonder if biological family (that's what I'm now referring to them as, since I don't speak with them) will have a funeral. My mother would use an excuse to not give me a funeral by saying, "He wouldn't want anything big so we're not going to do....". My father would probably just say, "Good" after hearing of my passing. Not sure if they will actually be told that I'm dead. The only phone number that I have of "family" in my phone is labeled, "Do not speak with" then it has my Aunt's name. My family is not nor was not good to me, growing up even to now, so I don't expect they will have anything for me. They might not even know.

 

[Zzzzz]

Most people are probably getting a funeral, whether they want it or not. I have observed that the wishes of the dead often come secondary to the needs of the living. I'm not very concerned about it because I'll be dead.

 

[Roseate]

I've put in my will that I would appreciate not having a funeral service after I CTB. I hate being the center of attention and I would prefer to just pass away and into obscurity. Ideally, I would like to die and be forgotten about.

I'm not close to most of my relatives who would inevitably be invited and I'd rather not have people I don't know cry crocodile tears because of my passing. I'm also an atheist (actually agnostic, but for all intents and purposes, I'm an atheist) and really don't want some priest talking about how I'm "with God now" or how I "became an angel". If there is a God, I'm going to be pretty angry with Him.

Anyway, those are my feelings on the matter. How do all of you feel? Will you have a funeral?

I feel that. When I die, I don't want a funeral either. But I know my parents wouldn't care about my wishes so I'll probably unfortunately get a funeral for show.

 

[Hercules]

I definitely don't want a funeral either. I already prepaid for a direct cremation. My family is very abusive. There is no way that I'm giving them the satisfaction of putting me on display for a funeral and shedding crocodile tears.

I too wish my organs and tissue could be of use to someone who wants to live. It's a shame people who died from suicide aren't eligible to donate their organs in many places. It's such a waste.

I wish I could donate my organs to help someone who needs them too. It isn't possible for people who commit suicide to donate their organs, because their is only a small window of time for them to be transplanted after death, before they are no good. Ideally they would need to be transplanted immediately after death. Someone who commits suicide wouldn't want to risk being found too early and saved.

 

[MayTheStars]

I to do not want a funeral, I'd rather if people I know want to say their goodbyes they can do it in there own way in their own time no need for meetings at a church I don't believe in to say goodbye to me.

 

[novem]

I don't want to donate my organs because people have torn by body in pieces when i was alive just because they could, if i can disallow them to do it when i am dead, that will be it.
Cremate - yes. No funeral - don't care, it is up to my family.

 

[braindead911]

I just want to be cremated and thrown in to a sewer. That's where all life belongs.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I had no idea that was the case. I thought anyone could donate their organs regardless of how they died. It makes me wish I could donate some of my brain cells to anyone who would throw my organs away merely because I chose to CTB.

Think a lot of the time, they need 'fresh meat' for organ transplant- so- they would need to be able to find you quickly... I guess any type of drug/substance poisoning could also ruin some of the major organs.

I'd much prefer to give my body to medicine or science but I don't think they HAVE to accept you. (Saw that on Inspector Morse- UK TV drama- so may not be entirely factual.)

When I was younger, I wanted my funeral to be Mexican Day of the Dead themed. Fancy dress compulsory- everyone to dress like a skeleton- I've always liked skeletons... With some sort of Goth running the service. Don't like the traditional religious service. I even thought about putting it in my will/list of wishes.

Weirdly, I would say I was an introvert, so it wouldn't have been all that fitting- although I suppose I wouldn't be alive to feel embarrassed about it.

Now, I want nothing. Want my death- whatever the cause to be as less inconvenient as possible. Unlikely to have any close family by that point and lost touch with nearly everyone else, so don't want people to feel obliged to do anything.

Always loved water, so cremated and scattered in the sea I guess would be ideal- although flushing down the loo probably gets there in the end.

 

[SanitySalvage]

One of my favorite quotes is "I'm not too worried with my photographic legacy. In fact, I hope I'm not remembered at all, and that one day I can just disappear."
So, for sure... I would not want a funeral. I do often joke with my small circle of friends that they should throw me a wild one but it would be a waste of money.

 

[magicalsarcoma]

Me. I wouldn't like to have a funeral, because i wouldn't like to be remembered. In my opinion, I've done too much shit in my life to remember me. And if people remembered the good things, it would be awkward, because i don't want to think that i can upset someone with my leaving. And funeral is an unnecessary financial investment, it seems to me.
However, i would like my ashes to be mixed with the ashes of my cat. It's probably weird
But actually, i guess none of that really matters, especially when you're dead

 

[Orange010]

Me. No funeral, no announcement, no memorial, no anything. No one needs to know. And if someone ask, just say that i moved to a new country and doing my thing.

 

[ImsooDone1N]

A funeral?! Oh my goodness no. I definitely do not want a funeral or any type of memorial- that makes me feel sick. I have actually thought about this, and I don't think my life is worth remembering, and it's certainly not worth celebrating. I just want to be gone. The thought of a funeral actually makes me uncomfortable. I just want to be gone & forgotten.