I have this guy that has been phone stalking me for months and he reared his head again. I keep blocking him but he gets new numbers. I've never experienced one this ongoing or persistent. I had almost hooked up with him but something felt off and I changed my mind and ever since the rejection he has not given up. I didn't have a clever response to his asking me out again but I think I'll say I'm married next time. I haven't tried that one.
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I had a stalker once and it is a very disturbing feeling to have one.
Futility
Student
- Aug 13, 2019
- 183
My ex stalks me, he gets new emails when he feels he's been blocked and sends me messages saying he misses me and how it sucks for him. Sometimes he hits up my parents too just to try to isolate me from my family.
He finds my accounts online to the point I use fake names everywhere because he won't leave me alone.
My friends had to block him everywhere because he would use them to snoop on me through them as well as dealing with threats and demands as well as manipulation. I have even heard reports of him having visited dating profiles where visits are reported, absolute nutcase.
Had to change my phone number, my close friends had to change theirs too, or our voicemail would be full of whining, blackmailing, threats and nonsense.
Even after getting a restraining order, it seemed to translate to us having a long distance relationship for him, as he would ignore it until I pressed charges.
Before I had left him, I would often catch him having forgotten to delete his history or previously opened files and programs.
I found that he had been recording me in my own house for many hours out of my daily life, as well as trying to use my cellphone to track my location if I happened to be out with a friend without him.
It's rather disturbing at what length stalkers are willing to go.
I would recommend a restraining order, save all the proof you have for it.
This will usually prompt them into stalking in a more incognito fashion if they're completely obsessed, but it only takes a single mistake and then you can press charges at the very least.Last edited:
LastFlowers
the haru that can read
- Apr 27, 2019
- 2,170
No one has any interest in stalking me.
I hear they are very persistent and dangerous, however. Definitely not to be taken lightly. Try to do whatever you can to shut it down before it progresses. That's when the real trouble starts. I would just ignore him, get a new number if necessary. I remember watching some documentary about stalkers and engaging them is one of the worst things you can do.
The less access they have to you, the more likely they are to leave you alone. Close as many doors on them as you can. Your attention is one of those doors.Last edited:
woxihuanni
Illuminated
- Aug 19, 2019
- 3,298
Sort of. They are very far away so could not turn up at my door, and they have no way connecting me through somebody else. But years won't make them stop looking me up online, sometimes they get caught on sites where you can see who searched for you.
I would just be happy if they died. Feels like a creeping vermin even from such distance.
Empty Smile
The final Bell has rung. Goodbye to all.
- Jul 13, 2018
- 1,785
The only people that stalk me are bill collectors.
Ugh that makes me feel useless...
The only reason I'm more prone to stalkers than average is because I'm a sex worker but otherwise I would not be, especially as I'm middle age and not that attractive anymore lol! Typically young people are most at risk of stalkers.Last edited:
Rachel74
Enlightened
- Sep 7, 2019
- 1,716
I have a few that I collected when I was a swinger.
I just delete, block and move on, plus anyone who wants to stalk me really is deranged.
Rocksandsand
Specialist
- May 26, 2019
- 396
Gahh I've had a few of varying degrees.
The worst was a neighbour who I had never spoken to, but would watch me and once tried to break in when I was home alone. I called the police and they removed him, but said that there was nothing they could do and recommended that I stay somewhere else. (How is it always the victims responsibility to manage a perpetrator?)
When I was a prostitute I had a client become obsessed and wait in the car park for me. I used to have to get a security escort from the parlour when I left shifts.
I hate that you're having to do so much to manage the risk on your own, like changing your number and whatnot. I know it's just a piece of paper, but have you been able to access a restraining order or equivalent for where you are?
Document absolutely everything. Keep messages and emails. If they show up to your residence, tell them you are recording them on your phone and that they are trespassing. It's a fucked up world when victims have to manage so much by themselves
yep and it was awful. especially tech savy ones. found out my address, names of my family members, threatened to swat and send the police to my house for the hell of it; wherever i went on social media, they just somehow followed me.
seekingoblivion
Arcanist
- Dec 11, 2018
- 454
I've never had one. I've got nothing to be stalked for.
As has been mentioned it might be a good thing to involve the law in it somehow if you can. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.I've not had a single human being on the planet notice that I even exist, nor will anyone when I cease to. I'd love a fucking stalker. I'd open the door and invite them in for a cuddle.
^Hell. Sex workers, hook ups, swingers, exes. ^
I don't belong even on this forum.Last edited:I've been setup by some people before and gotten arrested for being claimed as a stalker even though I wasn't people deliberately gave me names of people I know and switch their numbers around and pretended not to know me and got me arrested and they like to claim things as if they were "dreams" so they can be willfully ignorant of the fact.
Omg! That's sounds awful, was this some smallish town? Just sounds like small town BS lol!
Stan
Factoid Hunter
- Aug 29, 2019
- 2,589
Yeah, they deleted it and warned by mod my mistake the point was that people a long time ago setup as if I was a stalker and that was my real name but not allowed to do that so there you go.
Yeah, these people knew that I liked someone and used her name as a decoy and her father is a cop and I've gotten arrested by them and trust me because of them my life has gotten worse and those involved in it also use the excuse "are you sure it wasn't a dream" as a way to cover their tracks.Last edited:
Angst Filled Fuck Up
Illuminati
- Sep 9, 2018
- 3,132
Yikes, I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine having this kind of energy. I also never really liked a girl so much as to go to crazy lengths for her. I guess that helps.
