Help Any ex NEETs here?

[primalscream]

I know this sounds ridiculous but are there any nerds that ruined their life with gaming here? Maybe ones with a success story?

I'm almost 20, I come from a middle class family (didn't have to work jobs outside of school in my teens) and am about to drop out of university because I forgot to pay the taxes.
Problem is I still have to pay in two months (no savings, no job), my parents won't deal with my shit this time and I don't really know where to go now, I feel so defeated and humiliated that I don't even know where to begin to list my mistakes and academic failures in the last 6 years.
I've stopped gaming 3 days ago and everything was looking bright, until I remembered that I woke up too late and have nearly destroyed my life (if I even had one in the first place) with gaming.

I have four friends that I love deeply and they're all having a rough time so I can't bring myself to write a goodbye letter to them and just go. Do you guys think there is a way I can make two grand in two months and get back into uni? I really don't want to settle with a shitty precarious job that will barely pay my bills for 50+ years, and now that I've stopped with my addiction I finally believed I had a chance to live... but I don't know if I can deal with these economic problems, because they won't just go away if I really really want it. Maybe it's selfish of me, many years of not having to worry much about money made me a spoiled child.

Please help. Any success stories out there? Did you guys turn your life around?

 

[Deleted member 19654]

Are you not able to ask for parents for some help/one last chance? Explain to them that you're planning on changing your ways and that you're going to make more of an effort with uni etc.

 

[Jellyfish42]

Is it possible to speak to a guidance counselor or social worker at your university? You might just have to take out a student loan or take a semester off and build funds.

Recovery is definitely possible for NEETs. The real world hits like a brick unfortunately when you're first introduced to it, but once you ease into it its not so bad I guess.

 

[GrumpyFrog]

Even if you do drop out, it doesn't have to be the end of your life. You can still turn your life around even after that. You can try working and making some money first and going back to uni later, or you can just learn a skill that doesn't require you to have a diploma to make your living. Even your worst case scenario isn't the end!

 

[primalscream]

Thanks for the replies. I have found out it wasn't too late to drop out without paying anything, dropped out and now I'll do a part-time job to earn some money while I study for an entrance exam to another course (I have at least 6-7 months to prepare).

Maybe I can grow up and not be a total failure.

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

If you can't get a job you want, get a shitty job until you find what you want and to get something on your resume, some money in your pocket, and your butt away from the screen. Otherwise you'll continue to be humiliated, spoiled, a NEET -- whatever label you want to use -- ad nauseum. Use this wake-up call to your advantage.

Do I sound like a boomer? I'm gen X. Our generation paved the way of entitlement and ennui.

 

[Iwantoknow]

Money wise I started from totally broke and in some time worked my way up to where I can save a bit of money each month.
But it is not as much about starting to make a lot more money as much as finding ways to save money by not buying shit I don't really need and finding other new ways to save money.

Take care and good luck with job/study.

 

[Sk1n1M1n]

You don't get social workers at university unless you want 40 odd students knowing your business, but definitely think about going back to uni so you can feel productive and you will be an ex neet, plus having university on your cv is better than the dole office on your back or having been unemployed for x years.

But also think about what drove you to having to leave the last time, was work load, procrastinating and use the now work on your self.

Practice stuff like setting yourself task and not using your mobile or think to yourself "last time I played a lot of x game and didn't do much reading, the time round I'm gonna get a book out in the library and use time constructively during the day/ evening and then play my game afterwards"