Any asexuals here?

[Nymph]

Are there any asexuals here? Sometimes I feel alone in this hyper sexual world. Everything needs to be about sex and everyone wants it so bad. I’m not a sex repulsed asexual but I do still hate sex, but I can talk about it and stuff. Just a random question I was wondering..

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

I've never been interested in sex, in fact now I'm repulsed by it.

 

[Nymph]

I've never been interested in sex, in fact now I'm repulsed by it.

I see

I’m repulsed by movie sex scenesthey make me so annoyed

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

I see

I’m repulsed by movie sex scenesthey make me so annoyed

They get on my nerves, too. :/ But I understand why so many movies have them...

 

[death137]

I’m not entirely asexual but I don’t have sexual feeling to most women especially to those I like. I see sex as an immoral thing. I find it weird that someone can have sex for pleasure and be kind or show normal behavior. I was surprised when I found out that most women desire sex like most men. I know I shouldn’t but that is how I feel.

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

I’m not entirely asexual but I don’t have sexual feeling to most women especially to those I like. I see sex as an immoral thing. I find it weird that someone can have sex for pleasure and be kind or show normal behavior. I was surprised when I found out that most women desire sex like most men. I know I shouldn’t but that is how I feel.

Your first sentence sums up how I feel - if I'm attracted to someone, it's more for their intellect and character versus anything sexual. As for the rest... I don't think you "should" or "shouldn't" feel any specific thing. Your feelings aren't wrong, they simply exist, and saying you "shouldn't" feel the way you do puts a value judgment on it.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

I am not but I do understand your frustration, sexuality is everywhere in culture and it must not be fun to deal with when you feel nothing towards it.

 

[shadowchaser]

I'm not sure, to be honest, but I think I may be? Thinking about it in relation to me just makes me really uncomfortable, but that might also just be my anxiety.
When I was younger, I expected to grow out of my exasperation for the subject in pop music, but I just got more and more annoyed and fed up with it in time. Please sing about anything else!

 

[Life_and_Death]

@Nymph @BitterlyAlive_ i agree with what you say but for me it isnt because im asexual, just a bunch of bad interactions, i cant even watch movies i use to love because of it.

i just thought id mention it because i found it interesting that we feel the same way

 

[KleinerWolf]

I’ve discovered a new type of sexuality that because I dislike certain cultures/the way people act or somewhat the way people do their makeup and factoring in their natural looks,

I’m basically asexual when I’m in China/Korea. Lol
I call this cultural-based asexuality

 

[Mentalmick]

I'm asexual. Although I do crave/miss being romantically close to someone (kissing and cuddling and so on) I hate the idea of sex. Makes me shudder actually.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I have always been sort of asexual. Sex just isn't on my mind. And after rape (and being drugged and my bf let others rape me) sex really bothers and sort of repulses me....lots more to the story but I don't want to write a novel. I feel bad for my husband but he is nice and never pushes it or mentions it. I'm ok with him because I trust him but my depression also effects sex. Past relationships complained I never initiated it....well it's just not on my mind.

 

[Kramer]

Lucky. I wish I was an asexual psychopath. I’m not saying they’re related lol. It would be a dream. No anxiety, no one’s prey, and no sex drive.

 

[ThatSnakeParent]

I’m asexual! I was about 11/12 when I realised that I didn’t actually find the idea of sex appealing, as an adult who’s now tried it both ways, I still don’t find the appeal. I don’t have any interest in it and I won’t take part in convos to do with sex as I just find it a bit repulsive the thought of having someone inside you etc.

 

[MindFog]

I'm sex repulsed, but not asexual. It's just something that's not for me I think. It's weird since I still feel attraction to people but I just can't think of being intimate with someone. Hugs are better anyways.

 

[Thesunwillrise]

I find sex not interesting enough i would rather watch a movie play a game. I feel the guilt towards my husband daily tho, he is not pushing me but i feel the pressure ftom sociaty aswell. Yout not normal if you dont want sex

 

[FatalSystemError591]

Demisexual here! Hello, you're not alone!

 

[NodusTollens]

I have always been sort of asexual. Sex just isn't on my mind. And after rape (and being drugged and my bf let others rape me) sex really bothers and sort of repulses me....lots more to the story but I don't want to write a novel. I feel bad for my husband but he is nice and never pushes it or mentions it. I'm ok with him because I trust him but my depression also effects sex. Past relationships complained I never initiated it....well it's just not on my mind.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, that’s such a betrayal, I’m so so sorry. I don’t know how it affects you now, though it does bring me some joy to see you’ve found someone you can trust.
—hugs—

 

[Symbiote]

I hate the way society has based someone's self-worth on how many sexual partners they had or how quickly they lost their virginity. I hate how marketing agencies target young women to groom them into wearing skimpy outfits to make them feel valuable to the opposite sex. I hate that my wife only sees me as a sexual object and doesn't respect my boundaries that some nights I just want to cuddle and not fuck.

 

[WornOutLife]

I used to have sex every day. Now, because of depression and having gained lots of weight, I feel unmotivated to flirt and have sex with random girls as I used to.
I'm not even interested in watching porn so, you're not alone at all! :)

 

[Nymph]

I have always been sort of asexual. Sex just isn't on my mind. And after rape (and being drugged and my bf let others rape me) sex really bothers and sort of repulses me....lots more to the story but I don't want to write a novel. I feel bad for my husband but he is nice and never pushes it or mentions it. I'm ok with him because I trust him but my depression also effects sex. Past relationships complained I never initiated it....well it's just not on my mind.

Damn, I’m sorry that happened:(

I hate the way society has based someone's self-worth on how many sexual partners they had or how quickly they lost their virginity. I hate how marketing agencies target young women to groom them into wearing skimpy outfits to make them feel valuable to the opposite sex. I hate that my wife only sees me as a sexual object and doesn't respect my boundaries that some nights I just want to cuddle and not fuck.

I hate all of those things too, it’s really sad how everything revolves around sex

 

[stygal]

It used to be that big thing for me but I‘ve come to terms with not ever having it again and I even actively skip sex scenes now (cringe much).

For me it’s a good thing as it takes away the pressure (I had on myself) to act „appealing“ or have to be a behave certain way to „attract“ others.
I basically just wanna chill in my last year on earth.

 

[DuckieWaddles]

Ace-Aro here, we're out here, I'm guessing most of us don't speak up because something is "wrong" with us.

 

[Nymph]

I even actively skip sex scenes now (cringe much).

Can relate I hate them so much, they gross me out

 

[MewtwoIsAlive]

Im not asexual but these are one of the people i respect the most.
You see, everything around us in this world spins around "love and sex", its really annoying sometimes to this point that its cringy or disgusting.
Its sad that most of humans goals is to find love and to "f*ck a lot". get it off!

Like how about other fun? cant you walk with girls without thinking of f*cking them? there so many other fun activities

 

[Skathon]

I wish I was an asexual psychopath.

I would not recommend it... Though, being asexual may indeed be convenient at times, yet the latter is definitely a curse.

 

[Kat!]

cuddles and no more, that's all I need

 

[Life sucks]

I'm not asexual but with anhedonia and aging, I feel like that sometimes. Its different but I can understand both. Its just a biological function which is different for everyone and people should stop being judgmental about it.

There is nothing wrong with being asexual. Biology and life itself are wrong.

The core of the problem is actually not about sex itself but reproduction which is a result. The species herd mentality oppress anything different and that doesn't lead to reproduction including any form of (a)sexuality. Humans sucks

 

[puppy9]

I see

I’m repulsed by movie sex scenesthey make me so annoyed

Yeah I avoid most Netflix show, and check the imdb and common sense media to check about the sex scenes.

I'm an asexual and repulsed by it too.

I feel alone. *sigh

 

[Nymph]

Yeah I avoid most Netflix show, and check the imdb and common sense media to check about the sex scenes.

I'm an asexual and repulsed by it too.

I feel alone. *sigh

Todd!! Best representation of aces in media

I feel alone

I feel alone too sometimes but at least I know that there’s a lot of like minded people somewhere in the world.. there are no aces around me irl so that’s kinda sad. I just met a few online.