I have never once found any man who didn't want sex very badly from me. I can only experience what you describe with gay men.
I have known almost every woman interested in me only wants me to give her a baby or to help her financially. However, I know not all women are like this.
I have personally known a number of men who would have been with a woman without wanting sex. It would have been nice for him but the woman would have to have been a quality woman for him to stay. Good personality. Virtuous woman.
Yes, many of these men are lonely to the extent he will overlook the desire for sex in exchange for other ways to bond... just don't give him a hard time for watching porn.
Other men online would have said the same thing. They aren't like the typical men showing off in society. Competing with others. Chest thumping. They may be spiritual. They may have had a hard life and just want a life partner. They may be short and so on.
It's the equivalent of saying all women only want a baby or money from a man. Lots of women do. A huge percentage. Tell most women you're broke and most women lose attraction immediately. Very interesting how many actually. Some women provide their own money to a relationship though. Some women honestly aren't looking for a provider as a primary motivator and some men aren't looking for sex as a primary motivator. It's not a deal breaker for everyone though.
If a man is not a provider he must provide other value to the relationship. Similarly, if a woman does not wish sex, she must provide another value in the relationship. A 100 years ago and earlier, men and women came together to make life easier for each other. Two people were better to navigate the world than one. Some men know this. They are mature in an immature world.
Back massages, enjoying company and such are all ways to bond with each other. Sex is the fastest way but not the only way. Most all married men are in a sexless relationship but do not leave. Why? They do not leave for a reason and many times is because he loves her. He is bonded with her. She enriches his life and he enriches her in other ways outside sex. Ask any old married couple. They look at each other as brother and sister.
Further, a 100 years ago, those women were not the freaks you see these days. Ask an old woman if she ever would have put her mouth on a man and she would have been repulsed. Baby boomers stepped things up where it was more normalized. Gen X more. I'm tail end of gen x and the thing I heard millennials was out there. Now the things I hear gen Z is insane.
Where I'm going with this is society is very immature. Must find some who is mature.
Men find gold diggers and overly pretty women attractive and then complain about those women who used them. Women tend to chase the best looking, the men with the most money and who they can show off to their friends and then they complain about those men because they only want sex.
If you have a good network of male friends, I'm sure you could find a man not interested in sex in a relationship. Men are good at finding women a quality man. Us men know what other men are like. If they are quality or not. If we can trust him. Same way women understand what other women are like.
But the best way for those asexual looking for a life partner, probably best is to sign up with that online group mentioned earlier in the thread.
Women don't understand what it's like being a man. Men are born into this world extremely hostile for every single one of us. We then get testosterone flowing through us to help us navigate this world but their is a downside. Imagine tensing your body from 20-70 years old. Sex allows men to release that tension. It is not the only way to release that tension however and bond with a woman.
Men nurture women through being a provider and women nurture men through sex. However, not every woman wants a provider and not every man wants sex. We can nurture each other through other means.
When men say they want a woman who can cook. It has nothing to do with her being a servant. We know how to make our own food. But it feels nice that a woman cares enough about us. It feels nice that she cares enough to do something for us. It feels nice. It has nothing to do with wanting to be mothered either.
No a woman doesn't have to cook. No she doesn't have to clean. We can do it ourselves. For some men, doesn't even need sex. Just don't shame men for porn.
Further, there are even some men who prefer porn because it's easier and other reasons.
There are plenty of men who just want to enjoy the company of a woman and vice versa without requiring sex. Just like this video of lions enjoying each other's company with no sex.
And see how families bond hope that helps
The pressure from men for sex has been intense and constant always. I can only relax with gay men. I now tend to isolate due to this because I'm really tired of it and my gay friend passed away.
I cannot trust any man. Even on this site it's happened in the most devious way, with the unsolicited pictures and demands for cam sex. I just wish to not be having to always deal with it.
Someone saying some men only want pleasant companionship sounds so completely unrealistic to me as if they must be on a different planet from the one I'm one. My bf is now trapped in another country and I'm relieved. Even from him it was getting to me.
Society is messed up. Trust no one!
Only let time allow you to lower your guard slowly to someone.