Anhedonia Thread: List 3 activities that you no longer enjoy

[Halfhourdays]

List 3 things you no longer enjoy.
Sex: Being that close to another person sounds disgusting.

Video games: I used to love isometric RPGs but can't stand them anymore.

Food: I'm looking forward to fasting for SN. I hate eating.

 

[ma0]

There's quite a few, but the big 3 for me are:

Writing
Acting
Social interaction

 

[Halfhourdays]

There's quite a few, but the big 3 for me are:

Writing
Acting
Social interaction

Social interaction: me, too.

 

[Lo$t95]

Travelling
Video games
Keeping up with world news

 

[s00ngone]

Music. Used to be the kind of person who kept up with my favorite artists' new releases, but I just don't care anymore. It's more of a dissociation trigger than anything.

Video games. Don't find any joy in gaming, which is especially sad to me as a lifelong lover of games. Over the years I got pretty used to only playing runs of my favorite roguelikes (The Binding of Isaac, Slay the Spire, Dead Cells, etc.) so it started to feel stale to play just to kill time. Plus any time I was gaming I was usually avoiding something else or acutely aware of how much time I was wasting.

Writing... creative expression in general. Not that I ever expressed myself much creatively outside of vent poetry. I could never really seem to find a point in it for myself, or the drive to practice a craft.

Bonus for jerking off. Not even that puts a dent in my nihilism anymore.

 

[Nobody'sHero]

Living
Breathing
Getting up in the morning

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

Here are my three:

Going for walks- before I became ill, I genuinely enjoyed going for walks and sometimes even hiking trails/paths and things like that. Now with my legs and circulation in terrible shape, for the past 8 years and my entire adult life, I cannot really enjoy walking long distances at all anymore because it's a huge effort.

Video games- one day, games just stopped being very enjoyable for me. I'm so tired all of the time and don't have a group of people to play with either, so a lot of modern games are off-limits to me because they're multiplayer and designed to be enjoyed with others. I'm too slow to really enjoy mechanically difficult games, and haven't found any games in a long time with a story I can get invested in. I think that if you have been playing games for many years it can get boring easily especially if you have lost all focus and concentration.

Learning music and other skills- I had to stop learning music because my body was in so much pain every time I tried to practice. It feels like no matter how hard I have tried at anything my poor fine motor skills (thanks autism) and random symptoms hold me back and I physically cannot progress.

 

[escape_from_hell]

music
vidya
travel

nothing left

 

[Apokryphiel]

Can only work up the motivation to play video games once a blue moon; same goes for any art / projects I currently have going on. I really need to snap out of it soon, though. I want my art to be what's left of me here when I'm gone.

 

[Namelesa]

My anhedonia is very on and off as I still have moments where I can enjoy things but it's happening more often now and for longer periods of time and the times I enjoy doing this stuff is becoming less enjoyable.

Video games: definitely games are becoming more repetitive for me making them less interesting to me. I can enjoy playing new games if they are unique enough but if I feel like it's too like another game then I become tired of playing it.

Game development: my motivation for game development has definitely decreased overtime. I still continue to work on it regularly so progress is made but less work is done on it. Sometimes my motivation can increase rapidly and I really really invested in it but as time goes on, these periods of time shorten.

Self harm: this was a big way of coping for me, especially as I was fine with having scars, but now it's becoming less and less effective as I do it. I now only occasionally do it now.

 

[MathConspiracy]

1. Eating
2. Reading
3. Posting here

 

[Nobodi]

Video games
Tv shows
Socialize

 

[Zoro1029]

Video games
I used to be a big NBA fan but no longer interested in it.
Anime/manga to an extent but I still force myself to watch it as its the only thing that helps me pass the time outside browsing social media

 

[Manaaja]

1. Taking long walks. No dog, no long walks. It's miserable and scary to take long walks alone. I wanna be there having fun with people, not walking alone in a creepy forest.


2. Songs with lyrics. I used to listen to a lot of music with lyrics. Both uplifting and depressive. I quit depressive songs because they were depressive. I quit up-lifting songs because they felt bossy, narrow-minded, incredibly naive and stupid.

Hey song! My father hit me! I need up-lifting!
Song: You can do this! Bad guys won't win! Love and justice save the day!
Hey song! My mother said it's okay for him to hit me because he's hot! I now hope a venomous snake comes up the toilet...
Song: You can do this! Bad guys won't win! Love and justice save the day!


3. Learning languages. Four things led to that:

It's pretty damn hard to learn languages when I don't encounter them in daily life and have little use for them in daily life. Yeah, we have apps, we have youtube videos, we have websites, etc., but it's so slow, miserable and hard to learn a language you only encounter on a screen. It's no fun.

Pride. Why should it always be the Finns learning every other country's language? Why can it never be them fucking being raised as native Finnish speakers?! There's no reason to have multiple languages when we can all speak Finnish. There are too fucking many languages. When I was a kid I was enthusiastic to learn tons of languages, now that I'm mature I'm practical. We can all waste our life time learning each others' languages, or we can all speak the same language. The only good use for multiple languages is that when you are watching a dubbed show, you can choose between multiple versions. You hate the female protagonist's voice in Japanese and the male's voice in English? Watch it in Italian or Spanish or French or Korean.

What would I do with it? Alright, I spent a billion hours of my limited time to learn a language just so I can read untranslated comics? The cost reward ratio is fucked up. Yeah, I want to be able to read untranslated comics, no, I don't want to sacrifice my life to learn it.

Fourth. I'm a genius at learning a language's basics, I'm the world's worst at learning to speak language at a fluent level. Give me any language, and I can speak it in basic level in one day. Give me any language, any amount of studying, and I couldn't speak it in a fluent way in a thousand hours.

Every time I'd try learning a new language, I'd learn the basics instantly, and then never improve. It's infuriating. And what's annoying that I can remember basic even a dozen years after I last encountered the language.

 

[chroniquinn]

Crocheting
Reading
Casually spending time with friends

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

1. Taking long walks. No dog, no long walks. It's miserable and scary to take long walks alone. I wanna be there having fun with people, not walking alone in a creepy forest.


2. Songs with lyrics. I used to listen to a lot of music with lyrics. Both uplifting and depressive. I quit depressive songs because they were depressive. I quit up-lifting songs because they felt bossy, narrow-minded, incredibly naive and stupid.

Hey song! My father hit me! I need up-lifting!
Song: You can do this! Bad guys won't win! Love and justice save the day!
Hey song! My mother said it's okay for him to hit me because he's hot! I now hope a venomous snake comes up the toilet...
Song: You can do this! Bad guys won't win! Love and justice save the day!


3. Learning languages. Four things led to that:

It's pretty damn hard to learn languages when I don't encounter them in daily life and have little use for them in daily life. Yeah, we have apps, we have youtube videos, we have websites, etc., but it's so slow, miserable and hard to learn a language you only encounter on a screen. It's no fun.

Pride. Why should it always be the Finns learning every other country's language? Why can it never be them fucking being raised as native Finnish speakers?! There's no reason to have multiple languages when we can all speak Finnish. There are too fucking many languages. When I was a kid I was enthusiastic to learn tons of languages, now that I'm mature I'm practical. We can all waste our life time learning each others' languages, or we can all speak the same language. The only good use for multiple languages is that when you are watching a dubbed show, you can choose between multiple versions. You hate the female protagonist's voice in Japanese and the male's voice in English? Watch it in Italian or Spanish or French or Korean.

What would I do with it? Alright, I spent a billion hours of my limited time to learn a language just so I can read untranslated comics? The cost reward ratio is fucked up. Yeah, I want to be able to read untranslated comics, no, I don't want to sacrifice my life to learn it.

Fourth. I'm a genius at learning a language's basics, I'm the world's worst at learning to speak language at a fluent level. Give me any language, and I can speak it in basic level in one day. Give me any language, any amount of studying, and I couldn't speak it in a fluent way in a thousand hours.

Every time I'd try learning a new language, I'd learn the basics instantly, and then never improve. It's infuriating. And what's annoying that I can remember basic even a dozen years after I last encountered the language.

The point you made about learning languages is so real. I also have been doing this a long time (you can probably tell by the Chinese text in my sig) and it frustrates me so much. I can make pretty complicated sentences but struggle to translate very basic things. Also, when you are learning languages, even if it is mostly as a hobby rather than some sort of professional goal, people go on about how useless it is, not realising how absurdly difficult it is to get halfway decent at any foreign language.

 

[Silently Dying]

Reading, hiking and breathing

 

[Manaaja]

The point you made about learning languages is so real. I also have been doing this a long time (you can probably tell by the Chinese text in my sig) and it frustrates me so much. I can make pretty complicated sentences but struggle to translate very basic things. Also, when you are learning languages, even if it is mostly as a hobby rather than some sort of professional goal, people go on about how useless it is, not realising how absurdly difficult it is to get halfway decent at any foreign language.

I used to study Chinese, I really liked it.

I thought it would be super difficult for me but my curse struck me again! I learnt the basics as if I was a native... and then I never learnt more and stopped.

It's so fucking odd. It doesn't matter whether it's Swedish, German, English, Japanese, Chinese, it can be any language from any language family, the basics come instantly. Yet I can never advance from beginner level. I wish I could speak three languages fluently, than only the basics in five languages. (not including my native language of course).

I once read about a person who was really great at Swedish in high school, got even the best high school scores ever in the whole countrywide Swedish exams, didn't use Swedish at all for a few years, and forgot the language completely.

You have to work so hard to get good at a language, and you might still forget it completely in a short time if you don't use it actively.

 

[soledad.virgen]

Movies
Drawing
Learning a language

I used to be all about movies, I always wanted to work on them either like as a straight up director or like even just storyboarding, visual language was really fun but I can't stand watching any of them anymore. It feels so painful and triggering, I don't have any of my passion for them anymore and I'm actively disinterested in them now. Drawing goes with that too, I feel incredibly empty whenever I draw now. It just feels all pointless when I realize like "I don't get anything out of this, I don't feel any inner satisfaction and I definitely won't make a new favorite person by watching or drawing something"

 

[relapse]

Watching tv/videos, art, anything that requires effort. Whatever it made me feel in the past I can't feel it anymore

 

[ididnotconsent]

Try everything. Just going through the motions now. Faking it til i make it or don't.

It's not about pleasure anymore, just putting one foot in front of the other.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It's more that I'm sick of having to pay for everything and that everything takes so much effort. I probably do still enjoy things but, not enough to give me the motivation to do them. Plus- the list of chores I ought to do before them is endless.

 

[puppydeparted]

- eating + drinking
-drawing
-going out

 

[nogods4me]

games

conversing

thinking

 

[~GeminiVII~]

i mean, theres an endless list. main three would probably be:
1) family and friends
2) video games
3) art

the only thing keeping me going is music atp.
PS you said anhedonia and all i started thinking about was hayden anhedönia aka ethel cain