Also, don't know about your religion background, but in christianity there is a "humans were created in gods image" sentiment and that begged a question for me today:
Do you think that God itself is even more ignorant and retarded as humans here on earth?
So, I'm primarily agnostic, but I do have spiritual beliefs that assume higher beings exist. Whether these beings are responsible for the creation of existence, or simply oversee it is something I have not reconciled yet.
If we assume however that there is a primary creator, then there's a few possibilities regarding their morality.
1. They are apathetic and simply do not care about our suffering
2. They are powerless to stop our suffering
3. They are evil and make us suffer
I would lean towards the first option, as such a being in my view would be a sort of mad scientist archetype that merely creates to see what happens.
There is a difference between enjoying something as a fantasy and wanting to do it irl. Plenty of people fantasize about shit they don't want to do or have happen to them irl. For example, rape fantasies are quite common amongst women but most would never want to experience it irl. Some of the women who fantasize about it have been SAed before. I hate the idea of procreation irl, yet I have a slight breeding kink and have fantasized about it before. The thing is, just because I find that this kind of stuff crosses a line for me irl doesn't mean that those boundaries are as strong when it comes to what I fantasize about or the media that I consume. The same thing applies here.
A person can be really into slasher films but that doesn't mean that they are in violence irl. Some people watching incest porn don't really reflect their irl feelings about it.
Absolutely there is a difference, but I believe that the lines of separation are more blurry than people would want to admit. Most of the line is enforced by social norms that inform our morality and compel us against such behaviors. It also depends on the specific "kink" and the severity of the social boundary you would be crossing. IE, bumping knees with a cousin would be more socially tolerable than a direct sibling, and both of these are more tolerable than rape and murder. Still, there are people for whom the social boundaries are but a suggestion and go on to cross the line anyways.
I myself also hate the idea of procreation, but realistically I know the only thing stopping me is that I can't be impregnated. There is an aspect of a breeding kink within it, but most of it is just the natural desire I have to be a mother.