People all said the same thing like i just did.
I'm not sure why, but you seem to be telling a lot of folks here how to feel, and name-calling others who don't feel as you do. And then, triangulating "all" to strengthen your position. I'm part of that "all," and I did *not* say the things you've said. I said I was troubled and saddened by the original post, but that I also felt compassion. I also said that I sometimes wish that those who harm could feel for a bit the pain they caused others in order that they would understand and stop causing harm. Many here have made similar statements to this, just as many have answered the OP's title question with a definitive no, as you have. But there has not been a unanimous consensus of *all* that you are claiming.
Just as I was troubled by the title and the original post, I am troubled that you began attacking the OP immediately after s/he said they no longer hold the original view, and said that it was temporary. I am troubled that you harshly condemned another member for honest feelings, and dictated to another how to feel about other people. I don't understand what is causing you to stand on a place where you believe you are higher than everyone else, nor why you are shooting down arrows of fire and brimstone from this elevated height.
And in this world not only the forum we can give our opinions on everything.
You are saying your opinions, but you are presenting them as condemnations and directions, not as things which grow in your garden, but that you insist belong in others' gardens and should be transplanted there immediately if they don't already grow there.
And saying you dont like to be judged by me or others is also a thing you can't handle critic. This also is mostly narcist personality traits. Just saying.
Constructive criticism is not condemnation or harsh judgment. It builds, it does not negate or destroy.
Marcus Aurelius wrote to himself in his meditations about a man with bad breath. He told himself, it is natural that a mouth may emanate such odors, and advised himself to use his reason to appeal to the reason of the other man, to make the man aware of the offensive odor so that he could do something about it, and there would then be no cause for anger.
@Berlin76, your opinions are emanating some very bad odor. It is natural to feel personally offended by how others express their feelings and manage their lives based on the hurts they've experienced. That is a human response when one has been hurt by similar behaviors, and made great efforts to rise above the same hurts. But to impose those opinions as condemnation, superiority, and control really smells and causes offense. I don't want to be angry with you, so I am using my reason to appeal to yours. I hope you'll work on the offending odor so that we can all breathe freely in this shared space, without cause for resentment at your being a fallible human, which all of us here are.
If you disagree with me and my assessments, I hope you at least know that I spoke to you as a fellow human worthy of respect and dignity. I meant you no harm, but instead only good will. I spoke to you because I want to get along, to embrace you, the OP, and others here, and to avoid rejecting you. If you do not desire this from me, I accept that with respect and will leave it be.
