Venting Age regression

[carnis-insanis]

I involuntarily age regress a lot... its a healthy coping mechanism but god is it embarrassing.

Obviously the people that care for me would much rather me act like a child for a little while rather than have me cut myself to relax, and I do my best to keep it to myself, but still I wish there was a way to stop being so embarrassing

 

[Crow_88]

Yeah, now that you've said it, I definitely do that as well. And I definitely feel foolish about it. Sorry that you are having the same experience. It is a tough thing to deal with, that's for sure.

 

[Anon_Guy]

I definitely have the impression I got more stupid, shy, antisocial and unable to do important stuff alone once I became an adult.
Sometimes I think about young me and it's like I was a totally different person back then, but definitely a better one.
It's embarrassing.

 

[ketamoeba]

me too. i haven't for a long time as ive felt uncomfortable with it recently but it's honestly the healthiest coping mechanism ive ever had

 

[Anonymousa]

I age regress too but I don't feel embarrassed about it, probably cus I never shamed myself for acting younger and always seen being an adult as more constricting in how you can express yourself and boring. I try to embrace it as a way to see the world from a different lens and feel happier but it can also make me even more sensitive and more likely to get upset or scared. I am sorry you feel embarrassed by it. It should be seen as something allowed to be done especially if its hard to cope with life but some people can be mean about it like my dad :<

 

[Electra]

This is so interesting and looks like a coping mechanism that can definitely help you soothe yourself. Can someone share what age regression looks like? Like some examples?

 

[Anonymousa]

This is so interesting and looks like a coping mechanism that can definitely help you soothe yourself. Can someone share what age regression looks like? Like some examples?

For me it makes me feel and think like a toddler or young child. My speech and actions becomes more babyish and I like to use pacifiers, chew toys, sippy cups, etc. I often like to do more child-like things in this state of mind such as colouring books, watching children/baby shows and playing with my plushies. People who age regress can have caregivers which can act like a parent for the person and take care and treat them like their regressed age which can allow them to experience parental-like love and be able to regain their childhood if they had a bad one. My best friend sometimes age regress and I act as his caregiver and mama when this happens and take care of him like he is my baby. I wish I could have a caregiver for when I age regress tho.

 

[Electra]

For me it makes me feel and think like a toddler or young child. My speech and actions becomes more babyish and I like to use pacifiers, chew toys, sippy cups, etc. I often like to do more child-like things in this state of mind such as colouring books, watching children/baby shows and playing with my plushies. People who age regress can have caregivers which can act like a parent for the person and take care and treat them like their regressed age which can allow them to experience parental-like love and be able to regain their childhood if they had a bad one. My best friend sometimes age regress and I act as his caregiver and mama when this happens and take care of him like he is my baby. I wish I could have a caregiver for when I age regress tho.

Thank you for explaining it! Does acting like a caregiver for your best friend give you positive emotions? I guess what I'm trying to ask is whether it can be soothing for you too to be in a reversed role as a parent?

 

[Anonymousa]

Thank you for explaining it! Does acting like a caregiver for your best friend give you positive emotions? I guess what I'm trying to ask is whether it can be soothing for you too to be in a reversed role as a parent?

Yea it does make me feel really happy to care for him. It can be quite therapeutic acting like a mother to him and helping him with basic things like eating, drinking, putting clothes on, go to the toilet and relaxing him by cuddling and singing lullabies. I like to also entertain him with things like child/baby like activities I mentioned earlier and doing things like peak-a-boo. I love doing all this for him as I feel like a proud mother loving and caring for her child. I don't care if he is physically an adult, when he age regresses he is my baby. However it can be hard to do if I am in a upset or in a bad mental state as I would more liked to cared for now than caring for someone else.

 

[Electra]

Yea it does make me feel really happy to care for him. It can be quite therapeutic acting like a mother to him and helping him with basic things like eating, drinking, putting clothes on, go to the toilet and relaxing him by cuddling and singing lullabies. I like to also entertain him with things like child/baby like activities I mentioned earlier and doing things like peak-a-boo. I love doing all this for him as I feel like a proud mother loving and caring for her child. I don't care if he is physically an adult, when he age regresses he is my baby. However it can be hard to do if I am in a upset or in a bad mental state as I would more liked to cared for now than caring for someone else.

I understand, it definitely sounds very therapeutic if you're in the right mood for it. Do you just age regress involuntarily or can you do it voluntarily too if you're feeling overwhelmed?

 

[Anonymousa]

I understand, it definitely sounds very therapeutic if you're in the right mood for it. Do you just age regress involuntarily or can you do it voluntarily too if you're feeling overwhelmed?

I age regress voluntarily and involuntarily. Certain things can trigger it whether those be positive things like children's media, being called baby/pet names or seeing something cute but can also be triggered by negative things like remembering a childhood traumatic memory (for me things like talking about school or my dad being angry can trigger this for me.) To voluntarily to do it I will often purposely use one of the positive triggers as a way to feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed and content.

 

[Electra]

I age regress voluntarily and involuntarily. Certain things can trigger it whether those be positive things like children's media, being called baby/pet names or seeing something cute but can also be triggered by negative things like remembering a childhood traumatic memory (for me things like talking about school or my dad being angry can trigger this for me.) To voluntarily to do it I will often purposely use one of the positive triggers as a way to feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed and content.

I see. And how long does it last? Until you feel better or something else happens?

 

[toxicjester]

I also age regress and I used to feel safe enough to do it with my gf but more and more recently it feels less safe to do so and I feel like I don't have a space to do it. I end up feeling bad because my gf does it too and I want to be able to be a caregiver for her but I just feel like I don't do it in a way that's cool :,(

I think it slips out when I post on here and especially when I'm viscerally upset, as much as I try to just stuff it down, I feel shitty for making people have to essentially babysit me so recently I just cry and call for mama when I'm alone, it's the best release I have atm :(

I don't mean to derail the post though, I'm sorry it's feels embarrassing I get that feeling a lot too, we're just trying to get through life in the best way we can

 

[Anonymousa]

I see. And how long does it last? Until you feel better or something else happens?

Can last for a short or longer amount of time. If it was caused by a negative trigger it will often last until I feel better but otherwise it can last until I don't feel like doing it anymore or if something gets me out of it like something sexual or other more adult topics come up.

I also age regress and I used to feel safe enough to do it with my gf but more and more recently it feels less safe to do so and I feel like I don't have a space to do it. I end up feeling bad because my gf does it too and I want to be able to be a caregiver for her but I just feel like I don't do it in a way that's cool :,(

I think it slips out when I post on here and especially when I'm viscerally upset, as much as I try to just stuff it down, I feel shitty for making people have to essentially babysit me so recently I just cry and call for mama when I'm alone, it's the best release I have atm :(

I don't mean to derail the post though, I'm sorry it's feels embarrassing I get that feeling a lot too, we're just trying to get through life in the best way we can

I am sorry you feel its not safe to do and that you don't think you are a good enough caregiver :< You still deserve to be taken care of even if you are physically an adult. I imagine most of us haven't had the best childhoods so I think behaviors like this are needed to allow us to recover from it.

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I always wanted to do age regression since I was a kid, but it was too embarrassing and I had no clue how to find a partner. My mom left when I was very young and I never had any siblings, so there was a void I was instinctively seeking to fill. I wish I could have done ageplay with my wife, but she's just not the type of person who would get it at all. So I basically had to bottle it up my whole life.