advice on how to convince my family to help me end my life?

[madnessreturns]

they are my biggest hurdle in doing this, I need to know if there's any advice on how I can convince them to help me with this. I would gladly like to hear it.

 

[No-name]

Why do you need their help, or do you want approval?

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

Why do you need their help, or do you want approval?

I'm guessing it's to qualify for VAD in Switzerland.

 

[madnessreturns]

I'm guessing it's to qualify for VAD in Switzerland.

exactly why.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

exactly why.

Of course. That person was not very… let's say observant & paid little attention to what you wrote & how it was worded.
So why are your parents against you applying for VAD?

 

[madnessreturns]

Of course. That person is not very… let's say observant & paid little attention to what you wrote & how it was worded.
So why are your parents against you applying for VAD?

my mom is against it because she wants me to stay alive, and I haven't even asked my dad out of fear he'll just put me back in the hospital. (my parents are divorced)

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

my mom is against it because she wants me to stay alive, and I haven't even asked my dad out of fear he'll just put me back in the hospital. (my parents are divorced)

Madnessreturns, they are your parents, of course they want you to stay alive. I suppose I asked the wrong question. Why do you want to apply, and why do you believe they should support you in this decision?

 

[abcdefg789]

Yeah, I don't think you could convince them.

 

[wakeawake]

In my case I have introduced these ideas to my family over time and they have been resistant which I think you could always expect at first.

I don't know your situation, but mine revolves around physical health stuff mostly that they want to see me go through trying to see all the specialists and do what I can before coming back to such conversations.

I think from a parents/siblings POV to just accept it right away is unrealistic but if they know you are trying things and know you are suffering and see it over time - I feel I owe that to them sort of - but eventually I do hope they might agree.

 

[madnessreturns]

Madnessreturns, they are your parents, of course they want you to stay alive. I suppose I asked the wrong question. Why do you want to apply, and why do you believe they should support you in this decision?

well for one thing I don't even have a passport and would need one to apply in the first place. I can't obtain one without their help in the first place. I believe they should support me because i've spent 20 years on this planet suffering with autism and developmental issues and not being able to live like everyone else. my quality of life is at zero right now. i'm unable to live my dreams and its killing me inside everyday. because of my problems and loneliness I have developed an Ai addiction which I hate myself for everyday and feel like i'm turning into a worse and worse person as time goes on. every day is constant suffering for me and I don't even have good dreams anymore. i've tried therapy and even hospitalization but nothing seems to work for me. I can't be like how I want to be so I would rather be dead than live a life i'm not happy/satisfied with.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

well for one thing I don't even have a passport and would need one to apply in the first place. I can't obtain one without their help in the first place. I believe they should support me because i've spent 20 years on this planet suffering with autism and developmental issues and not being able to live like everyone else. my quality of life is at zero right now. i'm unable to live my dreams and its killing me inside everyday. because of my problems and loneliness I have developed an Ai addiction which I hate myself for everyday and feel like i'm turning into a worse and worse person as time goes on. every day is constant suffering for me and I don't even have good dreams anymore. i've tried therapy and even hospitalization but nothing seems to work for me. I can't be like how I want to be so I would rather be dead than live a life i'm not happy/satisfied with.

With those few details, I can only understand so much of the picture. I hear you in a way, but in another way, I hear your parents. When you say you have no passport yet, my first thought is that you should get one so you can start seeing the world! And when you say you're 20 my first thought is that unless one of your conditions causes so much physical pain that it destroys your quality of life, then it's a moot point and your applications will be denied. If it "only" causes psychological pain, I think you'll have to be at least twice your current age to be considered; that's just a fact that needs to be accepted that has nothing to do with your parents. Most of us here wouldn't be accepted. Thats why we're here. I understand the pain of not being able to live your dreams, but most people do not get to live their dreams. That's just a normal part of the human condition. Not living one's dreams doesn't automatically make life not worth living. Based on the little info I have, imo 20 is too early to give up. Your brain is still developing, and so much can change in the next few years. But if you've decided it's all too much and you refuse to give this life a chance, SaSu is here for you, that is why this site exists.