Discussion Abandoned

[luyzSAD]

how to deal with the fact that everyone is abandoning you?

 

[Aisley]

Best to understand that no one owes you anything (except your parents) and if you expected anything from them, that's on you. And the faster your shit goes downhill, the faster they all disappear.

 

[Slasher]

I never really cared I know it's easier said then done but people are temporary and you have to realise that people will just leave and new people will enter your life after a period of loneliness and that helps me cope with losing people in my life.

 

[exhaustedperfection]

This seems a little bit like a recovery question, but I'll do my best to provide an answer for you. Others may have better answers than I, so please take that into account when considering my opinions.

Emotions are... a fact of life that we all (for the most part) are forced to deal with in one way or another. For me, it is an obligation. For you, I imagine that at this moment in time it is something that burdens you with pain. It is not easy seeing the people who have stuck with you in life move on to other avenues, nonetheless abandon you. It hurts, and likely will continue to. The best advice I can give to you (as I do not know the details of your situation I shall assume that it is too late to turn back now) would be to move forwards. Of course, that is much easier said than done. There are many ways to do this, and I shall list a few effective ones that could work for you.

One thing you can do is focus yourself on something else that you enjoy doing, whether that be rewatching your favorite movie or simply having some ice cream I do not know, but doing something that you enjoy is a good place to start easing yourself from the stress and anxiety that you may be experiencing. Don't worry or think so much, enjoy yourself for a little bit to feel better so you can think with a clear head. Personally, I would take a nice hot shower to relax with some calming music.

Something else that you can do now is focus on yourself. Do you have anything that YOU want to do? Do not worry yourself with others who have already left you behind or people who would seek to take advantage of you, instead do what you would like to do. If you are at a loss of what that might be, perhaps your next goal could be to find out what interests you so you may pursue such things. When exploring what interests you, it doesn't necessarily have to make you passionate immediately as motivation is a fickle thing. Find out what you like, and from that you can figure out who you are. There are many places to start, and you can always change your mind. Look towards the future, the past is behind you. Have fun.

Something else you can do is surround yourself with like-minded people. There are so many communities out there I am certain you will find yourself fitting into one of them. It seems that you are already reaching out on here, although to me the recovery section may be a bit more appropriate a place for a question like this. Of course, I myself am new to this community so who am I to say such.

Don't be so hard on yourself, and practice being more forgiving with yourself. Acknowledge your emotions, but don't let it get out of hand. When you find yourself being unnecessarily hard on yourself challenge the thought and think about it in perspective of yourself, don't compare yourself to others. Even what may ordinarily be viewed as a simple thing for someone else can still be considered a victory for you, as only you know how difficult something is for yourself, not anybody else.

That is all I can think of at the moment. Take care of yourself, I hope this helps you in some way.

 

[luyzSAD]

This seems a little bit like a recovery question, but I'll do my best to provide an answer for you. Others may have better answers than I, so please take that into account when considering my opinions.

Emotions are... a fact of life that we all (for the most part) are forced to deal with in one way or another. For me, it is an obligation. For you, I imagine that at this moment in time it is something that burdens you with pain. It is not easy seeing the people who have stuck with you in life move on to other avenues, nonetheless abandon you. It hurts, and likely will continue to. The best advice I can give to you (as I do not know the details of your situation I shall assume that it is too late to turn back now) would be to move forwards. Of course, that is much easier said than done. There are many ways to do this, and I shall list a few effective ones that could work for you.

Uma coisa que você pode fazer é se concentrar em outra coisa que goste de fazer, seja assistir novamente ao seu filme favorito ou simplesmente tomar um sorvete, não sei, mas fazer algo de que goste é um bom lugar para começar a relaxar da estresse e ansiedade que você pode estar enfrentando. Não se preocupe ou pense muito, divirta-se um pouco para se sentir melhor e poder pensar com a cabeça limpa. Pessoalmente, eu tomaria um bom banho quente para relaxar com uma música calmante.

Outra coisa que você pode fazer agora é se concentrar em si mesmo. Você tem alguma coisa que você quer fazer? Não se preocupe com os outros que já o deixaram para trás ou com pessoas que procuram tirar vantagem de você, em vez disso, faça o que você gostaria de fazer. Se você não sabe o que isso pode ser, talvez seu próximo objetivo seja descobrir o que lhe interessa, para que você possa buscar essas coisas. Ao explorar o que lhe interessa, não precisa necessariamente torná-lo apaixonado imediatamente, pois a motivação é uma coisa inconstante. Descubra o que você gosta, e a partir disso você pode descobrir quem você é. Há muitos lugares para começar e você sempre pode mudar de ideia. Olhe para o futuro, o passado ficou para trás. Divirta-se.

Outra coisa que você pode fazer é cercar-se de pessoas que pensam como você. Existem tantas comunidades por aí que tenho certeza de que você se encaixará em uma delas. Parece que você já está entrando em contato aqui, embora para mim a seção de recuperação possa ser um local um pouco mais apropriado para uma pergunta como esta. Claro, eu mesmo sou novo nesta comunidade, então quem sou eu para dizer isso.

Não seja tão duro consigo mesmo e pratique ser mais indulgente consigo mesmo. Reconheça suas emoções, mas não deixe que elas saiam do controle. Quando você perceber que está sendo desnecessariamente duro consigo mesmo, desafie o pensamento e pense sobre isso na perspectiva de si mesmo, não se compare com os outros. Mesmo o que normalmente pode ser visto como uma coisa simples para outra pessoa pode ser considerado uma vitória para você, pois só você sabe como algo é difícil para você, ninguém mais.

Isso é tudo que consigo pensar no momento. Cuide-se, espero que isso ajude você de alguma forma.

This seems a little bit like a recovery question, but I'll do my best to provide an answer for you. Others may have better answers than I, so please take that into account when considering my opinions.

Emotions are... a fact of life that we all (for the most part) are forced to deal with in one way or another. For me, it is an obligation. For you, I imagine that at this moment in time it is something that burdens you with pain. It is not easy seeing the people who have stuck with you in life move on to other avenues, nonetheless abandon you. It hurts, and likely will continue to. The best advice I can give to you (as I do not know the details of your situation I shall assume that it is too late to turn back now) would be to move forwards. Of course, that is much easier said than done. There are many ways to do this, and I shall list a few effective ones that could work for you.

One thing you can do is focus yourself on something else that you enjoy doing, whether that be rewatching your favorite movie or simply having some ice cream I do not know, but doing something that you enjoy is a good place to start easing yourself from the stress and anxiety that you may be experiencing. Don't worry or think so much, enjoy yourself for a little bit to feel better so you can think with a clear head. Personally, I would take a nice hot shower to relax with some calming music.

Something else that you can do now is focus on yourself. Do you have anything that YOU want to do? Do not worry yourself with others who have already left you behind or people who would seek to take advantage of you, instead do what you would like to do. If you are at a loss of what that might be, perhaps your next goal could be to find out what interests you so you may pursue such things. When exploring what interests you, it doesn't necessarily have to make you passionate immediately as motivation is a fickle thing. Find out what you like, and from that you can figure out who you are. There are many places to start, and you can always change your mind. Look towards the future, the past is behind you. Have fun.

Something else you can do is surround yourself with like-minded people. There are so many communities out there I am certain you will find yourself fitting into one of them. It seems that you are already reaching out on here, although to me the recovery section may be a bit more appropriate a place for a question like this. Of course, I myself am new to this community so who am I to say such.

Don't be so hard on yourself, and practice being more forgiving with yourself. Acknowledge your emotions, but don't let it get out of hand. When you find yourself being unnecessarily hard on yourself challenge the thought and think about it in perspective of yourself, don't compare yourself to others. Even what may ordinarily be viewed as a simple thing for someone else can still be considered a victory for you, as only you know how difficult something is for yourself, not anybody else.

That is all I can think of at the moment. Take care of yourself, I hope this helps you in some way.

thank you very much for your opinion it helped a lot, thank you

 

[exhaustedperfection]

Of course, I'm glad I could be of help to you.