Venting "A therapist won't change anything"

[bandoscii]

I just had a conversation with mom. Her mostly doing the conversation and talking about her problems at work. I don't remember how the conversation shifted to be about therapists.
She went into such a rant about her last therapist when I said that she just had a bad one. Good ones try to at least offer some coping techniques and actual therapy, not just hearing you talking about problems.
I was just sitting there and listening how the closest to me person kept telling how much therapists are useless, that they won't ever help you, they will just listen to you and your crying, say "there, there" and that's all. No therapist will ever help you cope with your situation, they won't change anything ever. You have to do it yourself, in your head.
I can't describe how much it was painful to hear. I tried so much to solve this "in my head", by myself and I really can't. And hearing my mom just say that no one will able to help me change that is just heartbreaking. Like I'm a lost cause. I won't be able to ever stop thinking about dying.
I'm really trying but with each day it seems more and more hopeless and seems it's just a matter of time when I'll snap and finally ctb.

 

[UnrulyNightmare]

I'm sorry for your pain. I get the feeling of hopelessness.
It's a shame that therapist didn't work out for your mom. It's not nice of her in my opinion to tell you no one can help you change. It sounds to me like you are really trying. I'd say you were right and it wasn't the right therapist for her.

I can honestly say it makes a difference to me just having someone there to support me, take me serious and I can talk to, at least to some extend so far. We'll see if we can actually change anything. As I too am very familiar with trying to solve everything by myself in my head.
May I ask if you have experience with therapists yourself?
I'm not sure of the protocol with venting posts.

 

[lharrywheel]

i'm sorry for your pain..one day everything be fixed.

 

[bandoscii]

I'm sorry for your pain. I get the feeling of hopelessness.
It's a shame that therapist didn't work out for your mom. It's not nice of her in my opinion to tell you no one can help you change. It sounds to me like you are really trying. I'd say you were right and it wasn't the right therapist for her.

I can honestly say it makes a difference to me just having someone there to support me, take me serious and I can talk to, at least to some extend so far. We'll see if we can actually change anything. As I too am very familiar with trying to solve everything by myself in my head.
May I ask if you have experience with therapists yourself?
I'm not sure of the protocol with venting posts.

Thank you very much for your support Honestly, I'd love to have a therapist to learn strategies to cope and how to fix or deal with my mind being completely blank for months now, which is stressing me. Unfortunately, free therapists offer only the things that my mom went through. They're normally just for venting and I don't actually have anything to say... I already have massive trouble in writing at least something in my diary because I can't hear any of my thoughts and don't have anything to say.
I've also had experience with cheap therapist, which just isn't worth it. I was working with her about my self-image and she just offered those gaslighting techniques and we did meditations on sessions for tension in my shoulders (which didn't help because I still don't know the cause of the tension and relaxing for a bit isn't going to put away the tension that I've had for years).

As I understood, you have a therapist, yes? How are they working out for you?

 

[dinosavr]

Even though therapists might ruin a lot of things in your life, they mostly help you with coping mechanisms, healthy strategies, etc.

My therapist has recently got me deeper into the suicidal crisis, but I haven't even considered changing her for a different person because she is my comfort zone already plus she really understands me and gives the best advice that mostly work very well.

 

[Dr. Finklestein]

Haven't met a therapist yet that can help. Not saying there's not good ones out there or that the ones i had were bad people, just not helpful.

Not to run off key here but I've had great concerns with telling anyone that I have ideation.

Former LEO and military; admitting to ideation or having a plan AT THE LEAST, will remove conditions that allow you to make decisions on your own. And, that, I cannot have.

Thanks for your post, may you find peace