25M facing sexual dysfunction. Makes my life a living hell

[Drewpeterson519]

I'm a 25 year old straight male and I can't function sexually. It's been this way for close to 2 years now and it keeps getting worse over time. I've talked to doctors, my therapist, done research etc. I can't seem to find out what's wrong or how to fix things. I've been prescribed medication which has certainly helped in the past. But now it's not as helpful. It's like the problem just keeps getting worse. My last girlfriend left me because of it. And this made me cry so much. We were an amazing couple and I loved her so much and did so much for her and with her. She was always so nice and thankful for everything, but she said that because there was no sex she couldn't feel any connection. I still cry about this every day because I miss her so much.

I know that because of my condition I'll never be able to find love. No woman will ever want to be with me. Knowing this tears me apart every day. I cry so much. I have trouble sleeping. I can't ever be alone with my thoughts or else I will end up in a state of deep despair. I have a high paying job and good friends and family but it feels like there is a void in my heart and soul that will never be filled because I'll never find or experience love. I'm also very ugly which only makes things more difficult. I try to do things to keep my mind off it all but it just isn't working.

I can't keep trying to make it through life like this. I feel like death is calling my name and suicide is the only option at this point. The only reason I haven't done it yet is because I'm scared of failing and turning to a vegetable. But I feel like soon the desperation to die is going to trump the fear of failiure.

 

[persuasion]

>I have a high paying job and good friends and family but it feels like there is a void in my heart and soul that will never be filled because I'll never find or experience love.

I am NEET, my family dislikes me, am alone, and a virgin close to wizardry... Your life sounds great to be honest.

 

[Drewpeterson519]

>I have a high paying job and good friends and family but it feels like there is a void in my heart and soul that will never be filled because I'll never find or experience love.

I am NEET, my family dislikes me, am alone, and a virgin close to wizardry... Your life sounds great to be honest.

To you it might sound great. But trying to explain what it's like to live with this condition to others is difficult. It's a lot worse than it sounds trust me. I'm going to assume you're not dealing with the same thing as me. I'm a virgin too. Done stuff but never went all the way. At least you will someday have the opportunity and will be able to carry it out like a normal man. I likely never will no matter how many chances I get. And I'm pretty ugly. So I don't get many chances to begin with.

I hope that didn't sound condescending in any way. Your problems are absolutely legit and unique and I wasn't trying to downplay them.

 

[Neowise]

I'm sorry to hear you have to go through this. Sexual strength is probably one of the biggest factors that make a man proud so I can imagine what you must feel like.

When it started, were you in a stressful situation? Perhaps it didn't work out for you because of that, and then you kept stressing yourself over the fact that it doesn't work out and you are now trapped in a doom circle? Or did you take any medication that has a loss of function as side effect? Any clue?

In my honest opinion I find it rather superficial from your girlfriend to leave you just for that. Sex shouldn't be everything in a relationship and I wouldn't leave someone for that. Please don't beat yourself up over it, your genitalia don't define your worth. There is also other ways to be intimate and please a woman, you could have luck on the dating market if you let the women know about your dysfunction beforehand.

If all treatments fail there is still the option to get implants to help with the issue.

Penile implants - Mayo Clinic

www.mayoclinic.org

I do hope that you find a solution to this, and if not at least other fulfilment to give your life the quality it once had back.

 

[Hurt]

I'm so sorry. Do you know what caused this permanent erectile dysfunction?? I had it. I know how it feels. I felt like I wouldn't be a man anymore and was very depressed. But luckily things got better.and. What worked for me was stopping masturbating and watching porn for weeks. Gave "the friend" a long rest. Personally I wouldn't ctb because of this. I'm sure you can solve this.

 

[Insomniac]

Sexual strength is probably one of the biggest factors that make a man proud so I can imagine what you must feel like.

at first when I read OPs post, I felt sad for him but couldn't understand how someone'd get suicidal over this.

but the way you put it made me realize how much pain he must be going through. Sexual strength is indeed a key part of a man's identity.
I can see why he feels like he'll never be able to get a girlfriend again (that associated with the fact that he says he is unattractive).

I wish I could say something to make you feel better OP but honestly, nothing comes.

Life's not fair. at least you have a good job I guess.

 

[boc]

I've had some issues in that realm, but unclear exactly what you're dealing with. Feel free to PM me if you don't want to post details. I agreed with the above, one issue shouldn't be the reason to ctb. There is help out there for you, and you can find it.