I do believe in all circumstances involving personal stories, unless a family member (or someone who's acting under their specific direction) is literally posting on this forum and directly addressing us, it behooves us to avoid making any statements at all about them.
If a grieving family is focusing their anger on this forum, then the likelihood is they are being failed by the same institutions that are failing us, and they should not be subject to criticism or expectations to "self-reflect" amidst extraordinary grief, the nature of which the average person has no comprehension of and could only hope to never have to face in life, themselves.
Address journalists, address government officials, address the general public, address anyone else. But leave the grieving family be.