Venting You Really Need to Understand that No One Cares if you CTB

[LonelyDude15]

To be more specific no one you hate or are acquaintances with will care. Only people who love you like your family and close friends will be heavily impacted by it, so whether or not that is okay with you is what you should be evaluating. But if you want CTB in order to spite someone or to make people feel bad for you, it's not going to work. Think right now of someone you dislike, if you got the news that they killed themselves would you honestly care, of course not! It's the same with other people. Posts about how people want to CTB in order to spite people are just really depressing because of how little impact the person's death is really going to have on them. If you are going to CTB do it for YOURSELF and based on what's right for YOU.

 

[Stubbe]

I seriously hope there aren't people out there killing themselves out of spite. If you don't really want to die but do it to hurt someone else then you're kind of an asshole imo.

 

[Mr2005]

Brilliant post

 

[kqlysrsly]

Actually there are a few people i would be happy if they died.

Everything is relative.

 

[Life_and_Death]

over all accurate but what if the people you are killing yourself for have to "care" or else it will show everyone their true colors. i mean somethings clearly wrong if your parents dont care and if others realize that.....unless of course they are also careless a**holes (like a lot of my mothers friends) then they would probably turn on them pretty fast and they dont want that.

 

[madbananas]

I'd be surprised if someone wanted to ctb solely to spite someone. Not saying it isn't possible. But I'd imagine typically it could be one factor among many. Anger is an incredible emotion and over time can develop to depression if the person is not able to express their anger, or they are not heard when they do. I try not to judge people on their supposed reasons for wanting to ctb. There may be more than what meets the eye and I'd rather not make things worse for people, especially as I'm likely only seeing one piece of the jigsaw.

also to add.. there are people that I truly can't stand in this life and I'd still be impacted if they were to ctb. Mainly because then I'd realise how much pain they'd been in.

 

[XYZ]

Maybe it is quite a revelation for you to say that only those who love you will care if you ctb, but to me it is as plain as the nose on my face.

Also, I haven't come across people who want to ctb to spite someone. All the users I've gotten to know here want to exit because they suffer, and their suffering is unbearable.

 

[lostangel]

A brutal truth is that for some people they'll be forgotten about quickly even by their ''close'' friends and family.

 

[Brokenwithbpd]

I agree to this to a point, but also for me, many past attempts have been to get back at my father.

 

[LonelyDude15]

over all accurate but what if the people you are killing yourself for have to "care" or else it will show everyone their true colors. i mean somethings clearly wrong if your parents dont care and if others realize that.....unless of course they are also careless a**holes (like a lot of my mothers friends) then they would probably turn on them pretty fast and they dont want that.

I still don't think that's a reason to do it, forcing someone to pretend to be sad doesn't really do anything. I think this act should be purely selfish at least to the extent that you don't know if you're really going to hurt someone that you want to hurt/

 

[fox21132113]

My ex used to wish death on me so much. Telling everyone and his family, I needed to step in front of a semi. Anyways he encouraged me to kill myself everyday. He was pushing me to the edge, and I would think "well, I'll show him."

 

[OnlyTheWind]

Don't care what people think either way. I'm getting off this planet!

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I do agree with this on some level. I've had thoughts to ctb out of spite against people I hate before but I used this exact line of reasoning to talk me out of it.

Not to encourage it but there probably have been at least a few cases out there where someone's spiteful CTB actually did lead to negative consequences for their bullies/tormentors/abusers/regular people they hated. Those people may or may not be glad that the person is dead, but regardless if they're properly labeled as the party to blame then undoubtedly they would regret that person dying anyway...

 

[Donewiyhitall]

Glad to read

My ex used to wish death on me so much. Telling everyone and his family, I needed to step in front of a semi. Anyways he encouraged me to kill myself everyday. He was pushing me to the edge, and I would think "well, I'll show him."

Glad to read that he is an ex

 

[Antigonish]

To be more specific no one you hate or are acquaintances with will care. Only people who love you like your family and close friends will be heavily impacted by it, so whether or not that is okay with you is what you should be evaluating. But if you want CTB in order to spite someone or to make people feel bad for you, it's not going to work. Think right now of someone you dislike, if you got the news that they killed themselves would you honestly care, of course not! It's the same with other people. Posts about how people want to CTB in order to spite people are just really depressing because of how little impact the person's death is really going to have on them. If you are going to CTB do it for YOURSELF and based on what's right for YOU.

I was about to say. I mean I totally want to ctb, and support others rights to do so. But everyone time someone on the thread I do get a little sad. Allot a sad. But I still support there choice, especially if there nothing to be done. But I do agree, I support those people, because it wasnt a rash choice. It was fully thought over, and most other alternatives considered.