Discussion Writing notes...

[suicidaltoad]

So I would like to be gone at the end of the month, by SN. My mind is there but I doubt I'll have the guts to actually drink the stuff. But that's not what this post is about.

I've been thinking about who I want to write notes to. So far I'm definitely writing one to my legal parents, as well as my biological dad and sisters. One person I'm considering writing a note to is my ex.

I know, most likely a bad idea. I'm not going to get into the specifics of what happened between us, but it's in my first post here. I'm pretty damn sure she still cares about me, or so she said the night we broke up. She's blocked me on pretty much all communication options, still not sure why though. I haven't once tried talking to her. She is still leeching off my Netflix, though...

Anyway, I guess I just want everybody's opinion. Should I even bother? Is this a stupid question?

 

[Deleted member 14386]

One part of me thinks that you should not bother, but that's just cause I would only leave notes to the people I really love. But then excluding her would potentially cause emotional damage, so honestly I don't know. Maybe a short and sweet approach would be best? Especially if you think she still cares about you, if you are writing notes you may as well say something (just my opinion)
edit: I just read your past posts. Are you really sure about this? It seems awfully quick, there is always a chance (I know it's cliche) that things will change, your 21! Go on holiday and experience stuff before you ctb, I wish I had

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

I'm not defending her or being offensive to you, this is my blunt and honest perspective, and it's based on life experience: people reveal their intentions and their character by their actions, not their words. She doesn't want you knowing what's going on in her life, she is now separate from you, and yet she leeches off of you and knows she is doing it.

I could be wrong, but my guess is that you writing to her is more about believing her words over her actions, and about what you want her to feel. If that's true, no judgement being sent your way, I speak from my own experience that I learned from and grew past with a lot of hard work.

It's not a stupid question, but my advice is to pull the Netflix plug, block her back, and move on, no letter. Ctb is about self-determination, not other-determination, you can't make her feel what you want her to feel.

BTW, I didn't read your first post. If I'm off, sorry. You could link it here in comments though, so folks don't have to go digging.

 

[highlyvolatile]

If leaving a note for you helps you feel better about things then I say go for it. Let her know how you feel, get it off your chest and say everything you have to say. Even if you dont actually send the note, maybe it'd be helpful just getting those feelings and thoughts out. That's just my two cents, though.

 

[suicidaltoad]

I'm not defending her or being offensive to you, this is my blunt and honest perspective, and it's based on life experience: people reveal their intentions and their character by their actions, not their words. She doesn't want you knowing what's going on in her life, she is now separate from you, and yet she leeches off of you and knows she is doing it.

I could be wrong, but my guess is that you writing to her is more about believing her words over her actions, and about what you want her to feel. If that's true, no judgement being sent your way, I speak from my own experience that I learned from and grew past with a lot of hard work.

It's not a stupid question, but my advice is to pull the Netflix plug, block her back, and move on, no letter. Ctb is about self-determination, not other-determination, you can't make her feel what you want her to feel.

BTW, I didn't read your first post. If I'm off, sorry. You could link it here in comments though, so folks don't have to go digging.

Sorry. Here's the post

I can't bring myself to log out of all devices. I really don't want to cut the last tie to her I have.

If leaving a note for you helps you feel better about ctb then I say go for it. Let her know how you feel, get it off your chest and say everything you have to say. Even if you dont actually send the note, maybe it'd be helpful just getting those feelings and thoughts out. That's just my two cents, though.

Thank you, you gave me more to think about

 

[PhilosOfDoom]

Would it help you in any way to write it? Asides from momentary satisfaction, it'd ultimately bring upon a net negative. It'd affect someone negatively in the end. It'd probably be best to let that era of your life pass on, and not revive it in your passing. Your family could have feuds, the girlfriend may get emotionally sad if she cared about you, etc. Think about why you want to write it, do you harbor bad feelings, do you subtly want to make amends, could be anything. Good luck.