Discussion Would you want any form of remembrance?

[losingsteam3141]

I would try to erase as much of myself as I can. I would delete any sort of social media, scrub all activity off the internet (maybe leave this account intact idk). I would ask my parents to hold no funeral service and spread my ashes into the ocean, which is where my parents want their ashes to go. I am ashamed of my life and wish it never happened. Do you guys want any sort of remembrance of your life? If so, in what way?

 

[Plato'sCaveDweller]

Nope. I'd like nothing more than to just disappear. Fortunately, I'll be cremated and dumped into the ocean, so I'll effectively do that physically. But if anyone were to celebrate or remember anything from my life, it should be that I was so discontent with it that I disposed of it as soon as it was possible. But I'd most prefer to just be forgotten.

 

[pain6batch9]

I'd love to leave a book or two behind. Under a pseudonym of course. People would say, what ever happened to him anyway? But nobody would know.

Then the conspiracy theories would start. He was assassinated by the CIA. He was abducted by aliens. He's still alive, he lives in Thailand.

Ten years later, a mysterious message would arrive at a news agency, supposedly form me. It would have only my signature and a one word message.

'Boink.'

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

I wouldn't go out of my way to erase my existence but I don't want any funeral or celebration of life ceremony. I've never been one for attention or fanfare.

 

[losingsteam3141]

Nope. I'd like nothing more than to just disappear. Fortunately, I'll be cremated and dumped into the ocean, so I'll effectively do that physically. But if anyone were to celebrate or remember anything from my life, it should be that I was so discontent with it that I disposed of it as soon as it was possible. But I'd most prefer to just be forgotten.

A fellow cremate-and-dump-into-oceaner!

I'd love to leave a book or two behind. Under a pseudonym of course. People would say, what ever happened to him anyway? But nobody would know.

Then the conspiracy theories would start. He was assassinated by the CIA. He was abducted by aliens. He's still alive, he lives in Thailand.

Ten years later, a mysterious message would arrive at a news agency, supposedly form me. It would have only my signature and a one word message.

'Boink.'

What kind of book(s) would you write? You've got a creative plan!

I wouldn't go out of my way to erase my existence but I don't want any funeral or celebration of life ceremony. I've never been one for attention or fanfare.

What would be your favorite trace of yourself that you would leave behind?

 

[Plato'sCaveDweller]

A fellow cremate-and-dump-into-oceaner!

Hell yeah!

Ever since I made arrangements for this to happen it's brought me great peace. Something about being incinerated and spread so thinly across the vast ocean that I effectively do not exist in any meaningful and measurable way just makes me feel content; an end to my existence that I'm pleased with.

 

[CatLvr]

I wouldn't go out of my way to erase my existence but I don't want any funeral or celebration of life ceremony. I've never been one for attention or fanfare.

Same here.

 

[-nobodyknows-]

Not really. If it helps people make peace with what happened I'd be okay with it, but honestly I'd rather just fade away and be forgotten

 

[RoseGarden]

I go back and forth on this constantly. On one hand I want to be remembered so that the people closest to me don't repeat the same mistakes and end up hurting someone else, and on the other hand I just want to be forgotten so that I don't cause any more hurt in the world.

 

[nbk4755]

The opposite; I'd like to be forgotten as quickly as possible, and leave no meaningful traces of myself.

 

[AbsurdAbyss]

i don't think it'd matter even if i did - nobody would remember the pain i held.

 

[Gstreater]

I would hate to be remembered, I don't want to drag anyone down especially after my death. I want to be forgotten and everyone to move on a fast as possible.

 

[lnlybnny]

I know what you mean by being ashamed. I'd like to just fade away from most people's memories. But to the people I loved… I'd love for them to remember me in the most precious way and I want to take my remembrances of them with me.

 

[losingsteam3141]

I know what you mean by being ashamed. I'd like to just fade away from most people's memories. But to the people I loved… I'd love for them to remember me in the most precious way and I want to take my remembrances of them with me.

I just care about my parents. Theyre the only people keeping me alive at this point. I know it will devastate them beyond imagination if I leave but its so hard to hang on in the situation Im in

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'd like for people to remember me individually for some of the happier moments but I don't want any kind of funeral. I'll likely pre-pay for a direct cremation.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I have no desire to be remembered though I wouldn't really care if I was remembered

 

[FuneralCry]

No never, I just want to peacefully not exist with this cruel, torturous existence permanently forgotten about, I just want some peace, if it's up to me I'd choose to erase my existence so it's like I never existed at all. I'd never wish to remember anything about this existence that only ever brought me suffering, all I find comfort in is never existing again, I'd never wish to exist no matter what.

 

[teddexter]

To be honest, I'm rather indifferent at this point. I would rather not have a funeral, especially not any kind of religious service, but I know my parents and siblings would like to have a Catholic funeral for me if I died. They will be the ones left picking up the pieces if I kill myself, so I don't feel like I have the right to make any posthumous demands for how I will or will not be remembered by them. In the end, it doesn't matter.

I just care about my parents. Theyre the only people keeping me alive at this point. I know it will devastate them beyond imagination if I leave but its so hard to hang on in the situation Im in

I'm in the exact same situation. It's a Catch-22.

 

[Fade2Blk0809]

I've already written up instructions telling everybody I don't want a funeral or any kind of memorial service. There's no point in remembering me. As for body disposal, I want to be donated to science, like a medical school or something. Maybe I can be useful in death since I'm worthless in life.