rotten

rotten

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If someone offered to ctb with you, would you accept their offer?

My ex was pretty suicidal to the point of trying to walk into traffic. I would say they were in that state of mind for about a year. Eventually, they approached me one night asking if I would ctb with them. I won't lie…it was an extremely tempting offer. I've always hated how isolating death could be, even in a room full of people…like there's absolutely no way anyone could understand what you are feeling in that moment. But dying alongside someone you care about seems so comforting.

Anyways, I told them no. I felt guilty because maybe my own suicidal antics led them to being this way. It also just felt wrong at the time.

Back then I wasn't as suicidal as I am now. So, if they were to ask me the same question again, I honestly have no idea what I would say.
 
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sugarb

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If someone offered to ctb with you, would you accept their offer?

My ex was pretty suicidal to the point of trying to walk into traffic. I would say they were in that state of mind for about a year. Eventually, they approached me one night asking if I would ctb with them. I won't lie…it was an extremely tempting offer. I've always hated how isolating death could be, even in a room full of people…like there's absolutely no way anyone could understand what you are feeling in that moment. But dying alongside someone you care about seems so comforting.

Anyways, I told them no. I felt guilty because maybe my own suicidal antics led them to being this way. It also just felt wrong at the time.

Back then I wasn't as suicidal as I am now. So, if they were to ask me the same question again, I honestly have no idea what I would say.
Nah. I'm too antisocial for that :p
 
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3/4Dead

3/4Dead

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Feb 27, 2024
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Nah, I couldn't do it. The survivors guilt for either of us should one of us fail would be insane, and to not really be able to talk about it after? Yeesh. What a nightmare.
 
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todiefor

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No, whilst I understand the comfort thing, for me there are too many moral and legal implications.

You can change your mind until the last minute but once u are dead that's it.

Morally, I don't want to be influencing someone's decision in the last moments and vise versa, it has to be an independent conscious decision. I can't see how in that moment two people will not be influencing each other in some significant way.

Legally well that's quite self explanatory.

I think it could only potentially be ok if you decide together in advance that if anyone feels unsure then everyone needs to abandon their plans, as anyone left alive would be facing significant legal trouble, and from a moral perspective it would be difficult also to deal with the survivor guilt. But even then, you are clearly influencing each others decision. Also what if the other person changes their mind and chooses to ctb regardless of whether you will in that moment. There are too many things that can go wrong.
 
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endofline2010

endofline2010

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Am I the only one who saw the title to this thread and thought more along the lines of go Punisher/Frank Castle on bad people? I've definitely thought about this quite a bit.

As far as the real question, I just don't like the idea of planning this around someone else's timing or method, nor would I want to influence anyone to adopt mine.
 
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judestfrancis

judestfrancis

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Dec 21, 2023
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i think id feel guilty if i did. death is scary alone, but imo everyone in my life who im close to has far more reason to keep going than i do. i dont want to rip that away from them.
 
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If someone offered to ctb with you, would you accept their offer?

My ex was pretty suicidal to the point of trying to walk into traffic. I would say they were in that state of mind for about a year. Eventually, they approached me one night asking if I would ctb with them. I won't lie…it was an extremely tempting offer. I've always hated how isolating death could be, even in a room full of people…like there's absolutely no way anyone could understand what you are feeling in that moment. But dying alongside someone you care about seems so comforting.

Anyways, I told them no. I felt guilty because maybe my own suicidal antics led them to being this way. It also just felt wrong at the time.

Back then I wasn't as suicidal as I am now. So, if they were to ask me the same question again, I honestly have no idea what I would say.
Depends on the laws.

If there isn't any law stating that you're responsible for anyone that dies if you're knowledgeable about said person's death, then yes. Otherwise no. Instead of dying if u fail you would end up in jail without any freedom of choice to ctb or not.
 
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notprettyenough

notprettyenough

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Oct 19, 2023
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I would with my ex ngl
 
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GuessWhosBack

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Jul 15, 2024
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I would not, trust issues mostly.
 
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